Personal Development

We Felicity Seekers immerse ourselves into Self Improvement. This Personal Development Journey is less a hobby and more of a life’s mission.

We know that there will never be a real ending to it. That there is always a higher version of ourselves to grow in to. That is part of what makes it so exciting!

However, as we travel along this Personal Development Journey, many of us notice certain things that change.

It’s fascinating and even funny to take a look at these developments. It can also be reassuring to know that you are not alone out there. Others experience these things too!

Read also: 18 Powerful Personal Growth Ideas

I know you will find yourself in many of these points. If you have experienced anything else while dedicating your time to your personal growth, please share it with your fellow Felicity Seekers in the comments down below.

You never know who might need that reassurance that they are not the only one with this experience.

Other than that, enjoy!

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1. You start to think of everything as a science … seriously there is just so freaking much to know!!!

2. Therefore you realize how very little you know

3. Which is why you have to use a tremendous amount of energy to fight the urge to roll your eyes whenever someone acts as if they know it all

4. You wonder how you spend your free time before you started to read books, listen to podcasts, work on courses, etc.

5. You find yourself disagreeing more often with your family and friends

6. You feel more lonely because you can’t connect with your friends and family about the topics that matter to you

7. Therefore you are craving to meet likeminded friends

8. You have for the first time ever an actual vision for your life

9. That vision is strikingly different from where you saw your life heading a few years ago

10. You notice the limiting mindsets of others, and it pains you to see how they are self-sabotaging themselves

11. You become more happy and positive in daily life

12. The idea of what your soulmate is like, changes in accordance to your new vision for life

13. You are not willing to settle for less in any area of life

14. Your income grows

15. People start to see you as a workaholic

16. People think you are into esoteric stuff and make jokes about your new ‘hobby’

17. You work out more, quit toxic habits and become more healthy in general

18. You discover biohacking and are determined to prolong your life through healthy practices

19. Your bookshelf becomes cramped

20. You enter the world of non-fiction books

21. You consider buying a Kindle or a similar e-reader because you just don’t have space for so many books and it does get a bit expensive

22. For the first time outside of school or uni, you start to make notes or put post-its into your books.

23. You get overwhelmed by all the different self-growth media you want to consume. I mean, how can you squeeze in Podcasts, YouTube videos, books, and audiobooks in a single day?

24. Therefore a day often seems to have simply not enough hours in it to do everything you want to

25. Personal Development becomes second nature, you don’t even need to remind yourself of doing it daily

26. You consciously create an uplifting morning routine that tunes your mindset for the day ahead. After all, how you start the day is how you end it.

27. You start to wake up earlier regularly

28. Therefore you go to bed earlier

29. You begin to set S.M.A.R.T. goals instead of ‘New Year’s Resolutions’ and actually achieve them while everybody else has the same Resolutions each and every year all over again

30. You realize that everybody can be successful if they keep pushing themselves outside their comfort zone and implement the right habits.

31. Therefore instead of idolizing successful and famous people, you start analyzing what exactly they did to get to where they are today.

32. Your spiritual beliefs evolve and/or deepen.

33. You begin to journal regularly to declutter your mind and become more aware of yourself.

34. You begin to donate to charities or increase your contributions to society in general.

35. You have to fight frustration at your family and friends who don’t believe one can get to know themself or become aware of their patterns

36. You don’t like sharing your goals with them because they think your goals are unrealistic

37. You don’t want to talk to them about your latest personal development purchase because they think you are wasting your money on all those online courses or seminars. And they believe all those online entrepreneurs are scammers trying to rip you off.

38. You want to start investing in stocks and bonds to become financially free in the future. Still, everybody tells you it is too risky just because they haven’t succeeded themselves or are too afraid to try.

39. You don’t feel entitled that the state should finance your retirement

40. Whenever somebody asks what you do for fun or in your free time, you hesitate to tell them about your Personal Growth journey because most people just don’t get it

41. Therefore you learn to work on your goals in quiet and without revealing much about them.

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42. You expect more from yourself

43. Therefore you push yourself more.

44. Which, in turn, makes you succeed more often and in a more significant way.

45. People say you are ‘so lucky’ because of all of your success and the opportunities you encounter not realizing you are working every single day for that

46. You envision the day when you have reached your dream life and can make all those people who doubt you wonder how you did it

47. You realize how much the educational system is lacking

48. Therefore you start to care less about how people are doing academically and focus more on how they live life, whether they try to grow as a person and whether they have a vision for life that goes beyond their next holidays

49. You become happy and content with yourself, strengths and weaknesses included

50. You regret not having started earlier in your life knowing how much you could have grown by now

51. You get excited by the prospect of joining a seminar in the future, maybe even flying into another country for it

52. You start a gratitude journal

53. You create a vision board

54. Life starts to have a meaning, and you live with more passion daily

55. You are forever grateful that you stumbled onto the Personal Development journey because it changed your life forever!

We all want to have a great start to the new year. What better way to do that than by reflecting on the past year through journaling prompts and tuning your mindset for a fantastic new year!

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Journaling Prompts For The New Year

1. On a scale from one to ten, how satisfied were you with these areas of life in the past year? (1) Health & Fitness, (2) Family & Friends, (3) Romantic Relationships, (4) Mindset & Emotions, (5) Finances, (6) Work & School, (7) Intellect & Knowledge, (8) Fun, (9) Contribution.
2. List at least one small action you can take to improve each area of life this year. 
3. What were the best moments of the past year? What are you particularly proud of?
4. Do you have any regrets about the past year? Make sure to vividly remember the worst moments of the year and then forgive yourself and/or others for them. Remembering these moments is uncomfortable, but it will make you feel much lighter and rid you of the emotional baggage before the New Year.
5. Who did you spend most of your time with last year? Did you truly like spending time with them? Are they the kind of people your best self would spend time with? If not, how can you reduce your time with that person? What kind of people would you rather spend your time with? 
6. What were the things that made you happy? How can you do more of that next year? Write down concrete daily, weekly and seasonal activities.
7. What were your biggest worries? Do they seem important now?
8. Are you where you want to be in life? If not, what would you want your life to be like?
9. How would a perfect day/week look like for you?
10. What can you do in January/the first quarter of the year to get closer to that dream life?
11. Are there any New Years’ resolutions you have set yourself over and over again? Do you truly want to accomplish them, or do you only think that’s what you should do? Break down the goal into the smallest steps possible and set these as your new goals. 
12. How will you track the progress on your goals? For example, set up weekly/monthly notifications for goal reviews; get yourself a goal tracker or dedicate a notebook to this purpose. 
13. What ten things are you grateful for looking back on the last year?
14. What is your mantra for the New Year? Some examples: Grace and ease, confidence, calm, honest and real.

Of course, this list is not final. I will probably make many more lists of this kind. The fact that we all talk about the one percent that made it, give us a clue on just how many harmful mindsets there must be in the other 99%.

However, if you manage to tackle these 7 midsets, then you are already very well set up for a fantastic 2021!

By the way, if you want to keep track of your goals and habits for 2021, I invite you to download my 2020 Goals & Life Mastery Tracker Worksheet. It is FREE!

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1. I know that already

No, you don’t. Learning never stops!

It might be true that you know everything that person is going to tell you or all of the information this book contains. But you will never know if there might have been some new information if you don’t even listen to/read it.

You need to lower your expectations of the number of new things you are going to learn. The more knowledge you acquire, the less information you hear will be unique to you.

But I can guarantee you that there will always be something new to learn simply because there is still someone out there who is discovering something new.

And if you think about it, only a tiny spark can light up massive amounts of fuel. The same goes for our ideas. Very often, you accumulate a ton of knowledge. Still, only one tiny bit of new information can spark that big eureka moment.

So if you ask me, it is very often worth your time hearing old information again if there potentially is something new within. At the very least, you will repeat what you already know.

Repetition is the mother of perfection. If there is pure perfection, it’s about doing something over and over again.

-Thomas Keller

Repetition is the mother of skill.

-Tony Robbins

Repetition is the mother of learning, the father of action, which makes it the architect of accomplishment.

― Zig Ziglar

2. I can figure this out on my own

You could, probably. But it would cost you dearly. It would cost you time, money, and frustration.

We Felicity Seekers want to enjoy the journey towards our dream life. We don’t believe in hustling so hard, we need to reduce our sleep to four hours and don’t have time for workouts or family and friends anymore. Neither do we believe in saving so much money we can only afford harmful fast food.

We love to feel good in our bodies, we like to spend our time the way we want to, and we absolutely adore to indulge in luxury.

In other words, we Felicity Seekers don’t make our life harder than it needs to be. We carefully ponder our options and choose the most logical one for us.

And in the vast majority of cases, this means not to reinvent the wheel but simply let others help us.

That means you should invest in that course, coach, seminar, or book! Sure it might cost you something now, but in the long run, you are going to reach your goal faster and more enjoyable.

You can always earn more money, but you can never make up for that lost time. So please don’t try to reinvent the wheel in 2021.

3. Using negative words

Tell me, do any of these thoughts sound like you?

• Oh, please don’t let me be late!
• I really don’t want to see that person today.
• I just can’t focus
• I won’t get sick, I won’t get sick, I won’t get sick!

What do they all have in common? They focus on the thing you do NOT want. There is an excellent Tony Robbins quote that names the problem that lies in such negative focus:

Where focus goes, energy flows.

-Tony Robbins

Whether you believe in the Law of Attraction or not, this rule of thumb can change the way you perceive your life.

Don’t you imagine it might be a much more pleasant experience if you change these thoughts into …

• I am punctual!
• I am exclusively meeting people I love to meet
• I am absolutely focused
• I feel great! I am healthy!

There is the power behind positive affirmations. Of course, you won’t be able to avoid using negative phrases altogether. However, try to program your mind to think more favorable phrases.

It can be a fun game that makes your daily life happier.

4. Money is hard to earn

Because, boy, that belief can be so far from reality … depending on what reality you create for yourself.

The magic words here are passive income, entrepreneur, and passion.

It is absolutely possible for you to passionately earn a significant amount of money in less than 9 hours a day, five days a week.

Nowadays, there are countless examples of online entrepreneurs doing just that. And 2020 is the year you should start believing that this can be a reality for you, too!

If that´s what you want, you should check out 6 Things You Should Do Before Starting A Business.

5. They are all just fooling us/This isn’t real

Skepticism might save you from being screwed over like naive people are. However, it will also create more worries and prevent you from taking advantage of incredible opportunities.

So please dare to be a bit more trusting from time to time. If you find a person that seems honest to you, is transparent and has lots of great reviews, you might want to take the leap and believe them/invest in their product.

Again, you can easily earn that money back should you actually get scammed (which in my experience is not likely as long as you are not entirely naive). However, you will never know if this might have been the person that could have helped you reach your dream life.

In my opinion, the risk-reward-ratio is clearly speaking in favor of being more trusting and less skeptic.

6. The honest and hardworking get just taken advantage of and never succeed

Unfortunately, I know all too well where this belief comes from. In the past few years, I have heard from multiple sources and also, to some extent, experienced myself how honest and hardworking people get taken advantage of by the lazy and coward.

You might know those people who always act like their sick so they can skip work. And when they are at work, they use their time to do online shopping or hold private conversations. In other words, they get paid for doing sh***, and their honest and hardworking colleges have to balance the workload and stress as a result.

Honestly, people like that make my blood boil! These are people who have zero loyalty to their colleges, hate their job but are too much of a coward to do something about it and create a life they would instead want to live.

Urgh … just thinking about those people makes me angry!!!

However, even though there are, unfortunately, quite a few people like that out there, you should drop the mindset that this means you as an honest and hardworking Felicity Seeker won’t succeed.

In the end, the honest and hardworking are still the ones that succeed and get to live the life of their dreams. The key here is to work smart and not just hard.

Don’t let others take advantage of you like that. If you can’t help it, try to get away from those toxic people. But never EVER stoop to their low level.

Don’t lose your work ethic! Keep hustling, and stay honest! The others may have short-term success, but you will succeed in the long run!

7. I need a degree to be successful in life

Not necessarily, no. Although our society has taught us that we need to have good grades in school and get a degree to get a good job, this is not necessarily true anymore.

The internet has created endless opportunities to get or even create a high paying job that you love without having a degree.

Of course, if you want to be a doctor or a lawyer, you need to get that degree. There are certain professions where that makes sense. But in other jobs, practical experience trumps any degree by lengths!

So sit down and analyze what you really want in life. Do you need a degree to do that? Can you think of famous people who got where they are today without a degree?

For example, if your dream is to become a professional dancer, you might not need a degree for that but can gain attention through posting dancing videos on social media.

However, you should also know that a degree can often make sense. It will not only teach you different information and skills than you can acquire by yourself, but it also provides you with a little bit of security to fall back on.

For example, I am currently still studying law, although I’ve pretty much decided a year ago that I don’t want to become a lawyer or a judge, etc. So why do I still bother with it?

1. It keeps me occupied while I grow my business. If my business was my only focus right now, I think I would go crazy with it not taking off yet. And of course, there would also be family and friends asking, “how does it go?”.
2. Depending on how long it takes for my business to create a decent income, I might need to start working. So I might as well get a good-paying job in the law industry.
3. Law is EVERYWHERE in today’s world. Seriously, pretty much nothing university is teaching me will be a waste of my time. At the very least, it improves my understanding of legal situations.
4. For most of my life, the school was my primary focus. So I always planned to get a degree of some sort. I still want that, even though I might not use it in the end.

As you can see, there are plenty of reasons to still get a degree even though it might not directly be useful for your profession of choice. I think Kimberley Wenya and Monica Yates did the same, by the way.

The important thing is to know that if you don’t want to get a degree, you very often don’t have to.

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What about you? How many of these mindsets do you need to overcome in 2021? Are there any other mindsets you want to get rid of?

Comment down below! I’d love to hear your story and your plans for the upcoming year.

I wish you a fantastic rest of the year, and I know that you will smash 2021!

Sophie

Are you as excited about the New Year as I am?! The next year might be a year that will change your life forever. It might be the year you meet the love of your life or become financially free or find your passion. 

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1. Becoming healthy

Do you have acne, migraine, dry skin, a wart on your foot? Do you bloat or struggle with your digestion? How are your sleeping patterns? 

If you are like most people nowadays, there is at least one factor about your health that is bothering you, or you at least know it could be better. 

Most likely, it is something that isn’t too bothering, and you have accepted it. No more! 

It’s time to take action and get rid of your health issues! You will feel so good once you did it! 

If you are a woman and have any issues concerning your period, I highly recommend listening to Feminine as F#uck by Monica Yates. She is such an inspiring boss lady, and as a Period and Womens life coach, she is an expert around all those women topics. 

2. Get in shape

Yes, this one is the most common New Years’ resolution ever. Especially after that holiday season around Christmas, where a lot of people get lazy and gain a few pounds. 

However, the goal for 2020 should not be to get back into shape. The goal should be to create a healthy lifestyle that you can commit to all year round and have fun doing so. 

For example, my goal for 2019 was to do three workouts a week and regularly some yoga. 

Sometimes, I was feeling more into yoga and sometimes a bit more into working out. I tried to go with the flow while still maintaining a more or less consistent fitness level. 

Suddenly, something amazing happened. In June, I decided to try Blogiates 28-day challenge, so I did five workouts a week and one 30 minute stretch session. 

As July rolled around and I had planned to go back to my original workout routine. I suddenly found myself very excited about doing daily workouts. So going with the flow, I continued to train five days a week, stretch at least once a week, and now also do some yoga once in a while. 

So without pushing myself too much, I have found joy in working out almost daily and living a fitter lifestyle. 

I also experimented with the time I am training at and adapt it to my current lifestyle. 

I can only recommend you to try this out for yourself, instead of going just for that bikini body for summertime. 

3. Read more books 

Reading in general (and I don’t mean Instagram captions) is excellent. Reading non-fiction books is even better. 

If you are like the average human being, you don’t read a lot. And if you do, it probably is fiction. 

But if you’ve ever taken an interest in successful people like Bill Gates or Stefan James, you might have noticed that they read a lot. So there must be something to it, right? 

This year, try and set yourself a reading goal. You can use Goodreads for that and to track the books you’ve already read and the ones you still want to read. 

If you need some inspiration on where to start, check out my Reading List for Personal Growth. It is always growing with the newest, valuable non-fiction books I’ve read myself. 

A word of warning, however. Don’t set your reading goal too high. It will only discourage and stress you. Go with something that seems attainable but is still a tiny bit of a stretch. 

And, should you dislike a book, don’t force yourself to finish it. I know this can be hard sometimes. I am also somebody who likes to finish what I started. But in the end, forcing myself to read something that I don’t enjoy will only grow the reluctance in me to pick up the next book. And I don’t need that. 

4. Integrate personal development into your daily life 

Now, if you start reading non-fiction books, you are already going to learn and grow a lot in 2020. 

However, there are, of course, many different ways to accelerate your personal growth journey and reach that extraordinary life of your dreams. 

And many of them, you can integrate almost effortlessly into your daily life. 

While you are traveling to and from work/school/university, why not listen to an audiobook, a blinkist, or a podcast instead of music? 

You wouldn’t believe the immense value I’ve received through podcasts in the last year. It has, in all honesty, changed my life in more than one way. The existence of this blog is the best example of that. 

Instead of watching a series on Netflix, why not watch some informational, motivational, or inspirational YouTube Videos? There are so many possibilities to effortlessly learn something new.

5. Become more confident

Confidence gets you very far in life. And not only that, but it also makes the experience more enjoyable for you. 

So, how confident are you? How often do you doubt your abilities or worry about what other people think about you? 

How often do you find yourself holding back in a situation, knowing you would act differently if you were confident enough to do so. 

It’s time to get over that! Confidence is like a muscle. You can train it and make it stronger. 

Don’t tell yourself that you are shy. You are what you settle for. If you settle for being shy, then, of course, you are shy. Don’t fool yourself into believing you are not confident. 

The ability to be confident is inside you, just as it is inside everyone else. It’s your task to get it out in the open. So, please, don’t ever rely on your friends or romantic partners to make you feel confident. 

You don’t want to go into a relationship with the mindset of your partner completing you. You should already be your best self so that you can give your partner everything he or she deserves. 

To help you with that, I created 12 Powerful Ways To Be More Confident. 

6. Improve your style

Now, talking about confidence, let me share with you one of the easiest ways to get a confidence boost: Feeling great in what you wear! 

What you wear gives people a particular impression of you, and you know that. Now, if you already are very confident, you don’t necessarily care what others think about your clothes. 

However, if you try to grow your confidence, you should make sure to find a style in which you feel badass and ready to rule the world. 

Imagine Cookie Lyon or James Bond, entering a room or walking down a street. That’s the energy you want to feel! And your clothes can help you until you’ve got your mindset set up. 

So start to put some thought into your clothes. Styling is honestly a science, and there is so much to know about how to dress best for your body type. It´s the perfect project for 2020!

7. Identify and get rid of bad habits 

There are always some bad habits we should free ourselves off. If you manage to identify and eliminate at least one of them in 2020, you have already succeeded. 

Most people don’t even manage that. 

Take a look into 11 Self-Sabotaging Habits You Need To Get Rid Of ASAP, and hunt your bad habits down. 

8. Travel to a new destination

9. Get out of your comfort zone

Real growth and success always lie outside of your comfort zone. To create the extraordinary life of your dreams, you have to step out of your cozy little shell and conquer your fears. 

To do that, you could challenge yourself to do something that is beyond your comfort zone at least once every month. 

If you make it a habit, it will become easier, and before you know it, your comfort zone extends so much further than at the beginning of 2020. 

10. Buy presents on time 

Are you one of those people who always struggle to find the right gift a few days before the birthday of a friend or shortly before Christmas? 

Not this year! Pay close attention to the interests and wishes that your friends and family voice throughout the year. 

I guarantee you; you will quickly get ideas on what to gift them. And once you have one of these ideas, write it down so that when the gift time approaches, you are prepared. 

11. Create a stream of passive income

Creating a stream of passive income seems impossible to most people. And those who have started to believe that it is indeed possible are often still intimidated by the prospect of getting started. 

However, what would you say if I told you it is entirely realistic to create a good stream of passive income within a year or even a few months? 

There are countless entrepreneurs out there who have started to make a substantial income through their business within a few months or few years. 

Can you imagine yourself in one, two, or three years being at a point where you don’t have to work a 9-to-5 to support yourself financially? 

How amazing would that be!!! 

I know the beginning can be daunting, but I encourage you to get started with your business or whatever idea for a passive stream of income you have.  

It is now the end of 2019, and I’ve been working on my business for almost a year now. I can’t believe how fast the time has flown by, and I am unbelievably glad that I had the guts to start this journey. I am not yet at a point of financial freedom, but I can feel myself getting closer and closer every single day. Gosh, I already get excited just thinking about it! 

If you want some help with your this goal you might want to check out: 

• 9 Reasons You Should Start A Business
• K Money Mastery, a course that teaches you to publish hundreds of Kindle Books without having to write a single one of them 
• Paid by Pinterest, an ebook/course that gives you the basics on how to make money through Pinterest 

12. Create a mindset of abundance 

This will not be an easy goal for you, but it will definitely be worth it. Try to analyze your thoughts for a while and figure out where you are having limiting beliefs. 

Do any of these thoughts occur regularly to you? 

• I can’t afford to buy that
•  Time is running out again! I will never be able to complete all of my tasks. 
• I won’t find a parking spot anyway. 
• Why should they choose me? I am just one among many. 

Very often, it is not the circumstances we live in that limit us but more so our thoughts. 

If you create a more abundant mindset, your brain will automatically search for things that will confirm that belief. 

Suddenly, you will have all the time in the world, or you will find just the perfect parking spot. 

Try it out. It will take you quite some time to get out of your past pattern, but it will be worth it!

13. Spend time with your loved ones 

Your loved ones are one of the essential parts of your life. Could you even imagine going through life without a single person – family, or friends – you loved and cared about? 

These are the people that support us. The people we are excited to tell our successes to. 

Yet, many people seem to take them for granted or prioritize their job over them. 

But 2020 is going to be different! For 2020 I challenge you to make time for your loved ones deliberately. 

You could set the goal to call every family member at least once a month and see your closer family members maybe once a week. 

Why not set the goal to go out with your friends at least once a month? 

This will result in a lot of quality time spend with your loved ones and many enjoyable memories you can look back on throughout your life. 

14. Create monthly goals and keep track of them

Many people set themselves at least one New Years Resolution. But shockingly enough, the vast majority of these resolutions get abandoned even before February arrives. 

As Felicity Seekers, we don’t set new years resolutions but goals. Goals we can measure, goals we keep track of, and goals we will reach until the end of the year. 

Now, a big key to accomplishing all your goals for 2020 is to not tackle them all at once. There are 12 months or 52 weeks ahead of you. You should spread your goals out over this timespan. 

This will make it less overwhelming for you to accomplish them. And to make sure you are on track, you should review each month and see where you’ve made progress and where you could still improve. 

Now, this is where we finally come to the Free Printable I have promised you. This will help you to keep track of the most critical areas of your life each month. 

I’ve started doing this for 2019, and I loved it! It gave me such a feeling of accomplishment to see all the things I’ve done written down on paper. 

This can also give you some closure if your month wasn’t as successful (that happens to all of us, don’t beat yourself up on it). 

I highly encourage you to try it out! After all, the printable is free ;D

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15. Enjoy 2020 for what it is!

Setting Goals and accomplishing them to create the life of your dreams is great. However, please don’t get too lost in the things you are chasing. 

You should take 2020 for what it is and enjoy it as a unique time in your life. 

I hope that gets you as excited as I am for 2020. Please tell me in the comments down below what you think about the Printable. Could I improve on anything? 

I wish you the most amazing, successful, passionate, and overall extraordinary 2020 you could ever hope for. 

Sophie

Decisiveness is one of those critical skills you need to have for success in life.

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1. Realize that deciding at all is better than choosing perfectly

One of the biggest things that keep us from making decisions quickly is the fear of making the wrong decision.

In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.

– Theodore Roosevelt

Your decision doesn´t need to be perfect. It primarily needs to be made. True leaders do not excel by making the right decision every single time. They stand out by having the habit of making decisions quickly and in the best possible way.

So get rid of that self-sabotaging habit of perfectionism.

2. Eliminate small decisions

We, humans, make endless small decisions throughout the day. You are not aware of it, but studies suggest that the average human makes around 35.000 decisions each day!

Of course, our brain gets a bit more tired after each decision it has to make. So you should not only try to make big decisions at the beginning of the day but also reduce the overall number of small choices you make.

3. Dare to be uncomfortable

If you take comfort out of the decision-making process, things will become much more manageable.

Very often, there is that one decision, we know is logical to make. But it makes us much more uncomfortable than its alternative.

You need to learn to embrace stepping out of your comfort zone and being uncomfortable. That is the only way you will truly grow, and the only way to create the extraordinary life of your dreams.

So once you start to seek out uncomfortableness and shift it from your contra to your pro list, decisiveness will follow.

4. Think long-term

Many people find it daunting to think about the effects a decision will have in the long run.

However, thinking long-term can also boost your decisiveness.

Imagine yourself in five or ten years and look back on the decision you have to make right now. Which one do you think your future self will thank you most for?

5. Realize that not deciding wastes your time

Sometimes we do not decide on something because we tell ourselves that we still have time to do so.

And that might be true, but until you have decided there will always be that little nagging thought in the back of your mind, that will remind you of the open decision.

As soon as you realize how much time of being happy you waste by delaying your decision, being decisive will become much more accessible to you.

6. Analyze why you are undecisive

Sometimes we spend so much time obsessing over a problem without even really knowing what the problem is.

Take a step back, listen to some music, do yoga, meditate, and simply breathe. Then look at the decision you have to make again.

Why is it so hard for you to be decisive? Start a pro-contra list for every choice you have.

Having everything logically and clearly laid out in front of you will do wonders for your decisiveness.

7. Gauge the worst and best case scenario

This one always helps me immensely. And although it seems like a rather obvious thought process, I feel like many people don´t think about it while they desperately try to decide for something.

So for every difficult decision you have to make, think about the best and the worst-case scenario.

Before I started this blog, I did just that.

The best-case scenario would obviously be me becoming financially free, living a life of passion, not having to work a 9-to-5, and traveling the world.

The worst-case scenario would have been that I wasted a few thousand euro, which I could earn back within 1-2 months. But I would have still gotten a ton of experience, and I would have no regrets later on in life.

Putting these two options next to each other, the logical choice seemed evident to me.

8. Set yourself a deadline

This one is important. You can´t ponder over a decision forever! First of all, you are wasting that time being anxious over which decision you should make.

Second of all, many people have made the experience, that quick and intuitive decisions, after having accumulated all the facts, are the best ones.

So once you have all the facts and are ready to decide, set yourself a deadline of 5 minutes, 10 minutes, an hour, or at most a day.

You will feel so much better after having finally made the decision. And then you can go back to enjoying life.

9. Flip a coin

Ok, before you declare me crazy, hear me out. Of course, I do not expect you to make a life decision by merely flipping a coin.

But in some situations, it can be somewhat of a guide.

Flip a coin and look at the result. Do you feel good about it? If not, you probably will quickly change your mind and follow the other option.

So this is some ultimate tool to lure out the decision you feel best with.

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The next time you struggle to make a decision, put at least one of these tips into action. Some might work better for you than others. But I am convinced that you will find them helpful.

Please, share your results using these tips down below. This will motivate your fellow Felicity Seekers and make the lessons stick in your mind.

As always, I wish you all the happiness and success of the world!

Until next time,

Sophie