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5 Naturally Curly Hair Mistakes To Avoid

With naturally curly hair, there are a ton of mistakes to make. Mistakes that frustrate us so much because we curly girls put in so much effort into getting silky and voluminous curls.

On the one hand, those mistakes need to be made to figure out what works best for our hair. After all, especially naturally curly hair can vary so much from person to person.

Still, we, of course, want to limit those painful mistakes. And this is where the following list comes into play!

I’ve collected some of the mistakes I’ve made throughout my naturally curly hair journey for you.

They might not seem dramatic to you. It’s nothing like, “don’t burn your hair with a straightener.”

But little by little, a little becomes a lot, so we want to eliminate every tiny mistake.

Before we get into the list, I also quickly want to mention that I have 2c – 3a type of curls.

But now, let’s get into it.

1. Don’t obsess over tools or products

This mistake didn’t necessarily impact my curls, but it created such unnecessary drama and expenses.

I know that when you do research on the right products and tools to use for curly hair, it can be very overwhelming.

Often, curly girls will mention more than 5 products and each of them from some fancy brand and, therefore, at least $20 expensive.

This brings two main problems with it:

The expenses!!!! If you are a student without income like me and even more so when you are trying to build a business, you can’t/don’t want to go out and spend $100 on hair products every few months.
Those beforementioned fancy brands might not be available in your country. I remember how seemingly every curl tutorial I watched mentioned DevaCurl products, and I wanted to get them more and more. But, on top of being pricey anyway, I would have to pay extra shipping with Amazon because the products weren’t available in Germany at the time. Now, with the whole DevaCurl scandal, I am forever grateful that I didn’t purchase them.

So, what to do about the products and tools then?

My recommendation is this: Don’t frustrate over purchasing those fancy brands. Simply go into your local drugstore (for me, that’s Rossmann) and check out the products.

I don’t believe that products are miracle solutions for your curls. I like to think that at least 80% of how your curls look comes down your hair’s health. And only the rest 20% of its appearance can be improved by products.

Now, what about products that improve the health of your hair in the long run? For me, that simply means that they are not damaging.

They don’t need to have any secret ingredients. In fact, the more natural they are, the better.

Try to find products without silicones, parabens, or alcohols. If you want to buy oils, buy virgin oil. You don’t want to have a long-ass and unreadable ingredient list.

To make things easier for you, get yourself apps like ThinkDirty or CodeChecker (ThinkDirty didn’t know many of my German drugstore products back when I tried it).

Those apps can help you analyze how toxic a product is. However, you should still be aware that apps like these might be biased. There is no telling if they do rate the products entirely objectively.

Also, there are always different kinds of scientific studies on the effects of certain ingredients, so it very much depends on which one you believe.

But these apps will definitely benefit you more than blindly buying any product.

Also, you might be surprised at how much cheaper the healthiest product is compared to those fancy brand products/tools.

2. Don’t deep-condition too long

As I mention in 9 Tips To Improve Naturally Curly Hair I’ve recently learned that there is such a thing as over conditioning.

For three years, I’ve been deep conditioning my hair once a week. I used to leave the conditioner in for 2-3 hours because I saw someone doing it in a tutorial.

For the first two years, this has worked just fine. My deep conditioned curls were my best curls.

But in recent months, I’ve become annoyed at how soft and stretched out my curls get after deep conditioning them.

From my research, I’ve learned that you shouldn’t leave your hair wet for too long.

Also, you need to balance out moisturizing your hair and providing it with protein. I haven’t focused on the latter so far.

So, keep a lookout for how your hair reacts to the deep conditioning.

It is normal to lose a bit of its curliness because of the added moisture, but if it turns very soft and more wavey, you might want to change your routine.

3. Don’t use heavy products if you want volume

Heavy products weigh down your hair. The thinner your hair, the easier it will get weighed down.

Experiment for yourself with different products. Maybe a mousse is better for you than a gel. Perhaps it’s just that specific gel that weighs your hair down that much.

Just be aware of this possibility and change your products accordingly.

4. When airdrying your hair don’t wear a top with rough texture

I like to airdry my hair. I know many curly girls say airdrying takes too long, but for me, it’s the opposite.

While airdrying, I can go about my day and study as I usually would. Diffusing, on the other hand, would probably take me 45 minutes. During that time, I can’t do much else.

So, yeah, I like to airdry most of my hair after giving it a short diffusing session.

Anyway, what I’ve noticed is that at my neck, my hair turns out very straight.

I’m not sure if some of it might be contributed to those hairs genetically not being curly. But part of it, I was able to improve by not wearing something rough like a chunky cardigan while it dries.

If your hair dries, it is still susceptible and quickly brought out of shape. So you don’t want it to get caught in your top and stretched out.

Try to wear something sleeker when air drying. Maybe you even have a satin top or kimono or something alike.

5. Don’t brush your hair after drying it with a towel

Very early on in my curly hair journey, I learned that you shouldn’t brush your hair when it’s dry.

So I only brushed my hair while it was still wet.

However, for a long time, I brushed it one last time after getting out of the shower and drying it with a towel.

It was still wet then, just not sopping wet.

Then I learned that this can increase frizz and that you shouldn’t brush your hair after drying it with a towel.

Now, I only brush it in the shower while it’s still dripping. And I can genuinely say that it reduced the overall frizziness once my hair is dry.

Try it out for yourself!

It’s just a little change, but it can make a positive impact.

I hope you learned something new from my past mistakes.

Don’t frustrate too much over your curls if you are still at the beginning of your naturally curly hair journey.

I’ve been taking care of my curls for over three years now, and I am still improving it.

Give it the time to grow back healthy and strong.

Until next time,

Sophie

9 Tips To Improve Naturally Curly Hair

Curly Hair, Miscellaneous Topics

Hello, curly girls and curly ladies! I am incredibly excited to share with you my top tips to improve naturally curly hair.

This is the first time I am doing a blog post on something that is not Personal Development or Online Business related. That’s why it is an exciting moment for me!

Should you be interested in those two topics, do check out my posts! I’m sure they will inspire and help you.

My curls

To begin this, let’s first go over what kind of curly hair I have.

I’d say I have 2c – 3a type of curls. On the top of my head, they are curlier than at the neck.

Also, I have rather fine hair on top that is a bit of frizz-prone. The hairs at the bottom of my head are much thicker and naturally nourished.

I’ve rediscovered my curls when I was almost 18. Before that, I always used to blow dry and brush my hair. Which is why I used to think my natural hair was all fluffy and frizzy and slightly wavey.

So with 18, I started to wear my curls, meaning I stopped blow-drying and brushing them, and I began to deep condition them.

But only from when I turned 19, I started to go really deep into this whole curly girl topic.

Today, I am 21 years old. So I have more than three years of experience in getting back and improving my curls.

Although I am still experimenting and learning and improving my curls, I’ve already come a long way. My hair is much healthier and curlier than it was in the beginning.

And now it’s time to share with you the steps I took to achieve that.

1. Brush your hair in the shower

This has made a HUGE impact on my hair concerning the whole frizz prevention topic.

I learned early on in my curl journey that you shouldn’t brush naturally curly hair when dry.

I followed that advice and brushed my hair in the shower, while it had the conditioner in it. So that the strands could detangle more quickly, and the product was distributed broadly.

That worked well, BUT in the end, when I got out of the shower, I brushed my hair one last time. By then, it was not very wet anymore.

Later on, I learned that it could reduce frizz to only brush your hair when it’s really wet. Aka in the shower, or you could rewet it with a spray bottle of water.

That’s why I now only brush my hair in the shower when it’s still dripping wet.

Once I get out and dry it with a towel, a hairbrush doesn’t even come near it anymore.

And I honestly noticed a big difference in the frizziness of my hair.

Also, it’s kind of helpful to have a brush in the shower so that you can collect all the hairs that fall out instead of washing them down the drain. (Or – and I still can’t believe people do that – sticking them to the wall -_-)

2. Use a microfiber towel

This is a very 101 tip you get on pretty much EVERY tutorial for naturally curly hair.

Still, I resisted for a long time because I couldn’t believe it would make much difference.

Also, my hair already took ages drying. I didn’t want to use a microfiber towel that wouldn’t get much excess water out.

Eventually, however, I got myself a cheap one from Amazon.

And I genuinely have to say that it did improve the frizziness as well.

So get yourself one!

3. Deep condition your hair once a week

That’s one of the first things I started doing to repair my dry hair. And it has worked wonders!

You don’t even need to obsess over what brand you take. Just get yourself one that is free of parabens, sulfates, and alcohols and was cold-pressed.

If you want to be even more conscious about your product choice, use an app like Think Dirty or Code Checker to scan the product and get some help analyzing the ingredients.

I should also warn you: There is such a thing as over-conditioning.

During my first two years of deep conditioning weekly, my curls were at their best after those deep condition sessions.

But over the last months, I’ve increasingly noticed how my curls were much more stretched out and soft on those deep condition days.

I’ve done some research on it, so I think I have found two reasons for this.

I deep conditioned for too long. I used to deep condition for 3 hours even though the product only said it needed 30 minutes (don’t ask me where I got that idea from). Anyway, apparently, it is not so good for your hair to be wet for that long.
I have focused too much on providing moisture and didn’t balance my routine with a protein-providing product.

But as I mentioned, I have only started to work on that issue, so I can’t give you very detailed information on it yet.

However, if you are just starting and want to repair your damaged hair, you shouldn’t have to worry too much about it.

Using a typical, not too expensive drug store deep conditioner every week has helped my hair a ton throughout those first two years.

4. Put your hair up while sleeping

For a long time, I’ve resisted this idea. Mainly because I had never ever slept with my hair in a bun before, and I am very prone to headaches, so I was afraid having a bun or anything overnight might result in nasty headaches.

And if I tried to do a loose bun, it was simply too loose and fell off after two turns in bed.

The same goes for that scarf wrap some curly girls’ favor.

However, for a few months now, I have been successful and, most importantly, painlessly sleeping with a pineapple-ish hairstyle in bed.

It does indeed help prevent frizz for the top layer of your hair.

If your hair is too long for a regular pineapple (aka a ponytail on the very top and front of your head), simply pull the hair another halfway through.

It will result in a loose messy bun that might not look very attractive at the first tries, but it gets the job done.

5. Sleep on a silk pillowcase

This great frizz prevention technique has a significant additional effect on benefitting your skin as well.

And again, silk pillowcases don’t have to be that expensive. There are some rather affordable one-sided silk ones on Amazon.

6. Use cold or lukewarm air to blow dry your hair

Too much heat will damage your hair, you probably know that by now.

Therefore the next time you blow-dry your hair, use the cold or lukewarm mode on your blow-dryer.

This will keep your hair healthier for much longer.

Nowadays, I have no split ends anymore, and I contribute a big part of that to quitting blow drying my hair with hot air.

7. Stretch out intervals between wash days

Washing your hair dries it out. Just like your hands get all dry when you wash them too often without using hand creme.

Therefore try to prolong the phases in between your wash days.

I know a few curly girls with incredibly healthy and gorgeous natural curls that don’t wash their hair for 5-6 days.

Personally, I don’t think I’d feel comfortable going that long without washing it.

Right now, I wash my naturally curly hair every third day.

Another benefit of that is, of course, that it will save you quite some time. A lot of curly ladies have very extensive washing routines. So it’s great to have to do them less often.

But it takes a while to get to that point. The more damaged your hair, the quicker it will look oily, frizzy, and all over the place.

So simply start with washing it every second day. Once it gets healthier, you can prolong the intervals.

8. Use shampoo only on your scalp

Maybe it’s just me, but I used to apply my shampoo on all of my hair. I changed that for two reasons.

Most of my hair doesn’t need shampoo. It does just fine getting cleaned with water and then nourished with conditioner.
I am still working on my itchy scalp issue, so I use a shampoo with more chemicals than I would like. And I don’t want that on all of my hair.

Try it out for yourself and see if it makes a difference. My hair didn’t look more greasy or anything like that once I stopped using shampoo on the whole length.

Another benefit of this is that it reduces the amount of shampoo you use and therefore have to buy.

9. Get layers

The longer your hair, the more your curls will get weighted down.

If you wear all or most of your hair at the same length, you will barely have curls at the roots. Most of them will be at the bottom, causing you to look like a triangle – that’s slightly exaggerated, of course.

Personally, my hair has benefitted very much from layers. The next time I am going to get a haircut, I intend to ask for even more layers because it really enhances my curls.

Now, this is no one size fits all kind of rule. We all have different curls, and we all have to make our own experiences with them.

As I told you in the beginning, I have 2c – 3a kind of curls. You have to make that decision for your hair.

One advice, though, I learned from Manes by Mell that you shouldn’t thin out your hair. Layers: yes, thining out: no.

I hope these tips will help you enhance your gorgeous gift that is your naturally curly hair even more.

Embrace them! They can be one of your greatest physical assets and something to be proud of.

Sophie

9 tips to improve your naturally curly hair

15 Thoughtful Boss Lady Gifts

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Finding gifts can be difficult – even more so when you want to surprise a Boss Lady who is always very particular with the things she likes.

But don’t you worry! There are tons of amazing and unexpected gifts you can give the girl boss in your life.

Admittedly some of them are of a higher price point. But I tried to come up with a few more affordable ones as well.

Now, get out your journal and take notes! You won’t have to worry about the upcoming celebration with these fantastic Boss Lady gifts!

1. Self-care kit

Alright, so this has been one of the newer gift ideas I love to use.

Many Boss Babes love self-care. Yet, it is somewhat of a luxury that many of us don’t want to waste money on when we could do something better with it.

In that sense, it is one of those perfect Boss Lady gifts!

Now, I am talking about a self-care kit because it can consist of multiple items—the more of them, the higher the price point, of course.

But separately they also make brilliant presents, which is why they each deserve a separate mention.

2. Scented candles

These can be very cheap if you go looking in dollar stores, for example.

3. Scented oils

The girl boss in your life can use them in a diffusor, in a bath or directly on her wrists from time to time.

4. Hot stones

A very unexpected gift. However, you might only want to gift them, if there is a person in this Boss Babes life, who can help her use them on her back.

5. A jade roller

Very trendy and very soothing if cooled down.

6. A massage gift card

Don’t freak out on this one, it can be cheaper than you might think. You don’t have to purchase a whole spa day.

Sometimes a one hour face or feet massage goes a long way. And it won’t explode your bank account.

7. Blue Light blocking glasses

Alright, this one might be unexpected for you, but let me explain.

Successful women, like so many others nowadays, spend a ton of time in front of screens. Be it their laptop, tablet, phone, television, kindle, apple watch, or whatnot.

Screens emit blue light, which can impact our sleep quality, cause headaches, impact your focus, and cause dry eyes.

I am no expert on this topic, so you should do your own research.

But basically, it is beneficial for your eyes and your sleep to have blue light blocking glasses.

And they can be stylish, too!

AND they don’t even have to be expensive!

Shops like glassesshop.com and Warby Parker offer blue light lenses for all of their regular eyeglasses models.

That is undoubtedly a unique and thoughtful present for a Boss Lady!

8. Skillshare/Udemy subscription

Girl bosses love to learn. So why not give them the gift of learning anything they want?

A subscription for course sites light Skillshare or Udemy (or on a higher price point Masterclass.com) can go a long way!

A Skillshare gift card for 3 months costs at the time I am writing this US$ 36.

If it’s too expensive for you alone, consider sharing the costs with someone else who wants to give a fantastic present to this incredible Boss Babe.

Read also: 11 Ways To Spend Your Money Wisely

9. Blinkist/Audible subscription

If the Boss Lady in your life is very busy and doesn’t have much time at hand, an audio subscription might fit in perfectly in her day.

Blinkists are short audios that summarize the most important lessons of books.

And Audible gives you the whole book.

And again, the great advantage lies in the fact that your friend can choose for herself what exactly she wants to listen to. And there are a ton of options to choose from.

10. A Journal

Does your Boss Lady love journaling? Why not gift her a gorgeous journal. There are so many to choose from nowadays. I am sure you are going to find one that fits her style and your price point.

11. A reusable water bottle

So many people nowadays try to be more environmentally conscious by reducing the amount of plastic they use.

That’s why many Boss Babes have started using reusable bottles.

So why not gift the Boss Lady in your life a gorgeous reusable bottle? It’s not only a pretty but also a useful present she might take advantage of each and every day.

12. A silk pillowcase

Alright, so I am a curly girl, and if you are one too, you know that silk pillowcases are essential to keep your curl untangled and reduce frizz while asleep.

But a silk pillowcase is also beneficial for your skin.

And it just feels incredibly luxurious. Which girl boss doesn’t like a little glam in her life?

So whether the Boss Lady in your life is a curly girl like me or not, this might be an excellent gift for her!

13. A Magazine subscription

Don’t write this one off so quickly! Hear me out first:

I recently discovered Readly. An App with tons of magazines – Women’s Health, Rolling Stone, Grazia, Cosmopolitan, Jolie, etc.

And not just the current magazines but also past ones.

And all of those magazines free to read for 3 months for just 30€.

Again, probably an extraordinary gift that is at least worth a try.

14. Spiritual reading with Keen

Keen.com is a website that offers spiritual, psychic and tarot readings and many more.

You can choose between many psychics that offer their services. Once you have selected your psychic, you call them and pay by the minute.

I believe it is a sweet little adventure to call psychics for a short reading. Especially for someone who has never done anything like this before.

Now, the only downside is that there is no real gift card as far as I can see.

But you could let your friend have the call over your account to wrap the whole thing more like a “gift.”

15. A Course

Just as mentioned at the beginning of this list, a Boss Lady loves to learn especially through courses.

If you know a specific course your friend would love to purchase, maybe you have the financial means to buy it.

This will probably end up costing at least $200, so it’s definitely on the pricier side of things.

But of course, there are also cheaper courses out there to take advantage of.

I hope this gave you some ideas on fantastic Boss Lady gifts for an awesome person in your life.

Until next time!

Sophie

10 Mindsets Of Successful Women You Need To Adopt ASAP

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By now, you probably know that your mindset is the most significant component that contributes to your success. Therefore we should ask ourselves what the mindsets of successful women are.

What exactly are they doing, or instead, how are they thinking differently than other “ordinary” people to make them stand out that much?

You will come across the repeating mindset patterns if you spend time consuming content on personal development and entrepreneurship.

In this list, I have compiled some of these mindsets I have noticed repeatedly.

Since I am always learning more, you might want to check out 7 Mindset Changes You Need To Make In 2020.

It contains some additional mindset shifts you should consider working on.

But now, let’s get into it!

1. She welcomes failure

One of the most significant differences in mindset between successful women and ordinary people is her attitude towards failure.

Most people hate failure. They try to avoid it at all costs and beat themselves up endlessly whenever it happens.

Therefore they tend to develop a fear of learning anything new. Because no matter what skill you are trying to learn – be it a language, dancing, writing, building a business – in the beginning, you are going to suck at it.

But that’s the most natural thing. After all, when a child learns to walk, it’s going to fall a few times. When a child learns to speak, it won’t articulate every word correctly.

And we don’t expect the child to be perfect at its first try. We are excited about every attempt it takes and we look at the failures along the way lightheartedly.

Yet, for some reason, as we grow older, we loath that beginning phase of failing and learning.

A Boss Lady keeps reminding herself that this is the natural beginning of every great skill.

There is no mastery without failure first. Partly because failure teaches us so much more than succeeding ever will.

Each failure is like a signpost on the road to success, telling us we are getting closer because we are learning.

So frustrating as failures might be, a Boss Lady doesn’t get discouraged by them. Instead, she gets excited because it means she is growing and that success is getting nearer.

2. She knows the world is abundant

Ah yes, the abundance mindset. It certainly deserves its place in every mindset list, doesn’t it?

Successful women don’t have an abundant mindset in the sense that they go out and spend money frivolously because “hey, money is ample.”

If you want to, you can turn every mindset upside down and make it into something harmful.

But a girl boss uses it to ease her mind and act with confidence and faith.

Whenever she starts to feel like there is not enough, she reminds herself that there IS enough for her to get a slice as well.

Once you believe that there are infinite money, opportunities, ideas, friends, soulmates, good times, etc. out there, you will act very differently in life.

You will stop living in constant anxiety and instead start to passionately try to tap into these infinite resources.

Just because there is more than enough money out there for you, it doesn’t mean you can waste it and magically attract more to lose.

It means that as long as you work towards earning money, you don’t have to worry about not being able to make anything.

Maybe the specific tactics you use to earn money stop working. But you can be confident in the knowledge that there are always other ways available for you to make more money.

So dare to think abundant, but don’t try to challenge the abundance of the universe by foolish behavior.

3. She knows that she doesn’t know everything

I wish this mindset was more common in our world. But for some reason, humans seem to fall easily into being a know-it-all.

Maybe that was even true in our hunter-gather past as there wasn’t that much to know. But in our current informational age, it seems almost ludicrous to think you could ever know everything on even one topic.

How could you, when seemingly every day some new information are discovered or innovations made.

But that is also the beauty in today’s world. You don’t have to know it all because you can collaborate with others, who fill in your lack of knowledge.

Still, it is, of course, beneficial for everyone to keep learning new things. The word doesn’t stop moving after all, and you will be left behind if you keep doing what you’ve always done.

That is why a Boss Lady is always open to learning something new. Be it by teaching herself or learning from experts (who she is aware also can’t know it all).

She is a student for life.

4. She knows that if she puts in the work, she can accomplish anything

Successful women shoot for the stars. They see what others can accomplish and know that these people have started out as someone like herself as well. So why, shouldn’t she be able to follow their lead?

It all depends on her own hard work and persistence. So she makes a plan and starts working until she has reached her destination!

5. But she knows she might not be able to accomplish everything at the same time

At the same time, successful women are aware that they can’t accomplish everything at once.

Working on multiple big projects at once means splitting her time and effort. And some things simply need your full attention.

Look at Arnold Schwarzenegger, for example. He has been a bodybuilder, an actor, and a governor. Yet, he, of course, didn’t claim all those titles within a year or so. He succeeded at one after the other, always focusing his efforts at that next goal.

So dare to dream big!

You can be a six-figure entrepreneur of multiple businesses, a bestselling author, an investor, and so much more during your lifetime.

But you have to work on one goal first and only move on to the second once the former one has been sufficiently accomplished.

6. She dares to be rationally optimistic

We, humans, tend to be pessimistic by nature. We are always looking for and pointing out what’s wrong instead of what’s good.

You only need to take a look at the current headlines of any news channel. No matter at which day you are going to look, they will always sound rather pessimistic.

And in some way, we can’t be surprised by that tendency. After all, our hunter-gatherer ancestors needed to be continually looking out for possible dangers.

There was hardly any time for dwelling in gratitude and optimism.

Fortunately, today no sabertooth tigers are lurking around the corner when we go to buy our groceries.

Still, people like to predict the impending doom of our society. Whether it is by forecasting recessions, pandemics, wars, global warming, overpopulation, nuclear accidents, etc.

I have just finished reading the Rational Optimist, which you can also find on my Reading List for Personal Growth. In it, the author uses facts and history to make time and time again a compelling point for a bright future.

I always find it funny to look back at history and see all these doom predictions that didn’t occur. For example, back in the 90s, everyone was terribly afraid of the crash of all computers at New Year’s of 2000.

It didn’t happen, of course. The computers were very well able to deal with the millennia change.

If you are interested in more of these faulty predictions, you should read the Rational Optimist.

Anyway, successful women are not naive. They are aware of the possible dangers that might come, and they do prepare for it.

However! They also acknowledge the facts that they point out a positive future. Therefore they don’t fall into a damaging hysteria but rather keep on creating a great life.

Meaning, they would never stop donating to Africa because they fear if the continent with it’s massive populations starts to grow wealthy, the planet won’t be able to support that, for example.

Instead, they analyze all the facts available to them, good as well as bad, and take massive action to guarantee that Africans can be wealthy without pushing humanity into collective poverty again.

That might mean supporting African startups that can prevent future problems instead of charities that only solve the current issues.

I guess what I want to bring across is this: Dare to be rationally optimistic! Dare to believe that we are not doomed but that things are going to get better. And then ask yourself how you can contribute to making them better.

7. She always gives, gives, gives before she receives

Successful women know that they will inevitably get something back if they give unconditionally and with the intent to help.

That’s why a girl boss puts a lot of effort into giving as much as she can to the people around her.

As an entrepreneur, she doesn’t try to rip them off. Instead, she makes an effort to always overdeliver on what they expect to get for their time or money.

Of course, this proves a bit challenging at the beginning of one’s journey when you are still very keen on earning money to make a full income.

Later on, when you already have your basic monetary needs met, this will be easier.

Still, try to adopt a mindset of giving. Always ask yourself how you can put just one more bonus on top of it.

If you do that, you will build great trust, whether it be with your customers or personal relationships.

8. She knows that being feminine and a woman isn’t weak

A Boss Lady knows that being a woman and a feminine one at that doesn’t make her weak.

She can accomplish just as much as any man can if she puts in the work.

At the same time, she also recognizes that being a woman doesn’t make her better than men.

A Boss Babe doesn’t engage in men bashing. She knows that every gender has its own strength innate. There isn’t one that’s more superior than the other.

They are equally as powerful but differently, and that’s the beauty of it.

Therefore successful women don’t feel the need to prove themselves equal to men. They don’t try to act all tough and independent, and “I don’t need a man in my life”-like.

A Boss Babe is merely working on being the best version of herself. Whether that means being an extremely girly woman or being a badass and fiery woman.

She is aware that as long as she acts in alignment with her nature, she is powerful. And that nature can be masculine, by the way. Again, there is no universal right or wrong. Everyone has to discover their own character.

9. She recognizes the power in collaboration and specialization

Successful women don’t try to do it all on their own. They take advantage of the power in collaboration and specialization.

Only through specialization did our society create so many incredible investors and is continuously raising its living standards.

Yes, common knowledge on broad topics is excellent and can help you in many aspects of life.

But it pays very well to deeply specialize on one or a few topics.

So, if you need help with something and there is the chance to ask an expert for advice or even let him do it for you, take advantage of that!

Don’t be too proud and stubborn. Don’t try to reinvent the wheel. Don’t try to be self-sufficient; after all, nobody in today’s world truly is.

Collaborate with others and create amazing things together that all of you will benefit from.

10. She dares to be unique/crazy instead of fitting in

This one should be almost common knowledge nowadays. It pays much more to be unique in life.

After all, think of a few famous people you know or look up to. Are they ordinary, or do they have their quirks that make them stand out?

Or think of your past classmates. Who do you remember most? Probably students that stood out for one reason or the other.

If you dare to be authentically yourself, flaws included, people will be able to connect with that. Because they have flaws as well.

Sure, there may be some quirky aspects of you that some people can’t stand.

But in all honesty, isn’t it much better to have fewer raving fans and honest friends that love you for who you are. Then having to hold yourself back and be more or less liked by a ton of people?

I know I’d choose the former.

Read also: 16 Habits Of Successful Women

I hope some of these mindsets inspired you to make a change in your own thinking.

Comment down below, if you have noticed another mindset of successful women.

Until next time!

Sophie

9 Things A Boss Lady Has That You Don’t

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Don’t we just all want to be a badass Boss Lady that rocks her life? I know I do. So the question we have to ask ourselves is: What does a Boss Lady have that we don’t … yet?

If we can answer that, we are one step closer to our end goal of being a girl boss. Now, we only have to plan out the steps necessary to get those things as well and then take massive inspired action.

So, are you ready for the first step? Let’s discover the things a Boss Lady has, but you might not have yet.

1. A vision for her life

One thing that is very common among Boss Ladies and high achieving people, in general, is that they have a vision for their life.

Their next goal isn’t just the next holiday or birthday or Christmas or the like.

Sure, a Boss Lady looks forward to these things, as well. But these are rather small scale goals compared to her vision in life.

A Boss Lady knows what she wants out of her life. She already plans for 5 or even 10 years ahead.

This doesn’t mean she has scheduled her day to day activities for the next few years. But she knows she wants to hit a specific income goal, she wants to build a business, or buy a house, for example.

She knows whether or not she wants to make an impact in life and how that impact might look like.

By knowing the general direction, her life goes in, a Boss Lady can take inspired action every day to get closer to that goal.

She isn’t merely dreaming but actually planning.

So what about you? Do you know what you want out of life? What legacy do you want to leave behind on this earth? What big successes you’d like to accomplish?

If not, no worries. You can’t rush these things. But you have to keep thinking about them and trying out different things in life to create your vision.

Also, something that helped me immensely was personal development content and hearing about other people’s vision for life.

9 things that successful women have but you don't

2. Multiple streams of income

A Boss Lady has numerous streams of income. Why?

Well, despite cherishing luxuries and financial freedom, a boss babe refuses to be a victim to recessions, depressions, or anything else that could pull the financial rug from underneath her feet.

Relying on just one source of income – and an active one like a job at that – is like balancing on a one-legged chair.

You might manage to live comfortably like that for a few years or even a few decades. But it remains a precarious situation because the slightest disturbance could bring you tumbling to the ground.

And most likely, not only will she be affected but also her family.

So instead of continually worrying about losing her job or hoping for it to remain until retirement, a boss lady strategically puts herself at ease through multiple streams of income.

3. An abundance mindset

I can’t afford that
Money doesn’t grow on trees
All opportunities are already taken
Not everyone can be rich

Yeah, those are thoughts a Boss Lady is banishing from her mind as quickly as she can if they even appear at all.

Boss Babes believe that the universe is abundant. There are always more than enough opportunities, money, ideas, and overall good things out there for you.

Once you genuinely start to cultivate an abundance mindset, you’ll be surprised how your perception of life will change.

It’s like that constant tightness in your chest eases up and you suddenly start to see more and more business opportunities out there.

Life can truly be happening for you if you only let it!

4. A mentor

A Boss Lady appreciates the power behind being taught by an expert.

She knows that very often, she can’t see her own limiting habits and needs someone from the outside to show them to her. Someone who can guide her to the next level.

So instead of trying to work out everything by herself and waste a lot of time, she invests into an expert than can help her.

5. Time as a priority

What I mean with that is that a Boss Lady uses her money to gain more time.

She invests in painters instead of painting the room herself just so save a bit of money.

She flies business class because the comfort allows her to work during the flight and sleep so that she has more time once she arrives at her destination.

She pays someone to go shopping for her groceries.

Maybe she eats a lot of delivered (healthy) meals to save time for cooking.

Now, I get that you need money to start with to invest it into gaining more time.

But sometimes, ordinary people value money unnecessarily high compared to their time.

Let’s take, for example, those people who drive miles for some cheap offers or cheaper fuel. Not only does that cost them tons of time but also the fuel, which very often results in the “offer” not ending up much less expensive at all.

The next time you want to go hunting for discounts, ask yourself if this reflects a time/money ratio you are comfortable with.

Once you start to ask yourself, which action prioritizes your time the most, you will make very different decisions.

Read also: 15 Ways To Spend Your Time Wisely

6. Assistants/Employees/Tools

Yes, you need money for that, too.

But you might be surprised to see how affordable it can be to have someone, who walks your dog, buys your groceries, does your taxes, etc.

A Boss Lady values the power in delegating. She knows that specialization reaps bigger rewards than broadening one’s efforts.

Sometimes that assistant might be a technological tool.

For example, I started using Anki to studying a few months ago. You wouldn’t believe how decision-saving that is!

Instead of having to plan out my revisions in addition to planning out the new subjects I have to learn. Now, I only have to open Anki, and it tells me exactly which flashcards I need to repeat to keep remembering them.

And I didn’t even have to pay a thing for Anki!

So look at your life and try to find areas where you could outsource a task to make your life easier.

7. Successful and like-minded friends

A Boss Lady is aware of the influence the people that surround her have on her and her life.

If they are like-minded girl bosses, they will empower her, build her up, inspire her, collaborate with her, advise her, celebrate with her, and just overall support her.

But if your closest friends and family have a limited mindset and don’t believe that you can truly create the extraordinary life of your dreams, you are going to suffer.

On the better side, you might just not be able to share your dreams, goals, and successes with them because they wouldn’t understand and just infuse you with more doubts.

If things are worse, then they will even hold you back, ridicule you, or also try to keep you from succeeding so that you won’t grow out of their reach.

I hope you can see the immense impact your inner circle can have on your joy and the achievements you make in life.

So, with whom do you surround yourself?

8. More ideas than she can work on

Because a Boss Lady has cultivated an abundance mindset, she discovers many business opportunities or other ideas she’d love to work on.

Yet, of course, there are only 24 hours in a day. So, unfortunately, she can’t realize all of them.

That stands in stark contrast to most people, who tend to be not very inspired to work on any kind of project. An indicator for that is the sheer amount of “?? things you can do when you are bored” content out on the internet.

9. A reading list that seemingly never decreases in size

A Boss Lady is obsessed with growing her knowledge on so many subjects.

There is always a course she’d like to buy or a seminar she’d like to attend or Podcast she’d like to listen to or a book she’d love to read.

Therefore, it isn’t astounding that a Boss Lady has a long and ever-growing reading list.

There are always more books being added than she manages to read, although she reads regularly.

What about you? Do you already know where you can learn something new the next time you have time for it?

If not, you should start a reading list on Goodreads! It’s great to be able to track your books like that even if they don’t fit on your shelf anymore.

Alright, those are the 9 things a Boss Lady has that you don’t have … yet.

Do you already have plans on attaining any one of them shortly? If so, comment down below which one you want to tackle first.

Keep improving, dear Felicity Seeker!

Sophie

33 Boss Lady Glow Up Ideas For 2021 – How To Level-Up

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Don’t we just all love these girl boss, boss babe, or boss lady vibes? There is just something very inspiring and motivating about seeing a boss lady rocking her life. Well, today you will take the first step of your Boss Lady Glow Up!!!

It’s time to step into your full potential. You becoming a boss babe is not just going to elevate your experience of life.

No, the world literally NEEDS you to be your highest girl boss self! Because the happier, smarter, more empowered, and successful you are, the more good things you can give back to others.

You have the potential to change millions of lives for the better. But to do so, you need to step into the best version of yourself.

Now, you might be thinking: “Wow, girl … slow down! Why the hell are you talking about changing people’s life??? I’m just here for styling tips …”

If that’s you, I’m sorry, but you are going to be disappointed and might as well leave straight away.

There won’t be much appearance-wise boss lady glow up ideas in this list.

Because frankly, I couldn’t care less if you can look like a boss lady on your Instagram feed.

I want you to become a Boss Lady in real life! And your appearance plays only one of many parts in that.

So buckle up, ladies, and get ready to discover 33 Boss Lady Glow Up Ideas!

Mindset + Emotional Glow Up

Let’s start with arguably the most essential aspect of life: Your mindset and emotions.

1. Start a gratitude journal

The first thing you should focus on is gratitude. Gratitude can erase any negative emotion. But it needs to be practiced.

The more you focus on the things you can be grateful for, the more things you will effortlessly find yourself being thankful for.

And whenever fear, anger, anxiety, stress, or worries arise, all you have to do is focusing on that emotion of gratitude. Because it simply can’t coexist with toxic emotions.

And to be able to tap into that state of gratitude more quickly, you should start a gratitude journal.

From today on, write down three things you are grateful for each day and try to find new ones daily.

You don’t even need a real journal for that, simply open up a notes app on your phone and find some quiet place for a few minutes.

2. Practice faith

I know this is not everyone’s jam, and I myself haven’t been spiritual or religious for the vast majority of my life.

But a few years ago, I stumbled over the law of attraction, and I liked the principles it is teaching.

And while I was trying to raise my vibrations, I also kept looking out for signs from the universe.

And if you are receptive to them, you will find them. And keeping that look out for angel numbers and synchronicities paired with gratitude is growing my faith.

It doesn’t really matter what you have faith in or how you name it. If you want, you can have faith in your intuition or your gut instinct to lead you in the right direction.

But I am increasingly convinced that faith in something that creates a very much needed calmness and sense of security in a person.

So try to find something you feel good about having faith in and work on that.

3. Ease Guilt and Regret

Guilt and regret are ugly emotions that can suck all joy out of life. If not resolved, they manage to cling to you for years, if not decades.

Yet the past is the past, and there is no sense in fretting on it. So to fully embrace the now, you need to ease those toxic feelings.

A life coach or specific practices can help you with that.

4. Ease your worries

Talking about joy sucking emotions, worry is definitely among them.

Most people nowadays seemingly always worry about something, be it their finances, their job, their relationships, their appointments you name it.

What are your current worries?

Write them down.

Now, analyze them. Are they really something you should worry about? Will your worry about them be able to change anything, or is a positive mindset going to be more beneficial?

If you can influence the thing that worries you, make an action plan, and decisively follow through with it.

Life is way too precious to worry longer than necessary about irrelevant things.

5. Increase your confidence

Ah confidence, what an incredible boost for any kind of success in life. If you are confident, life just becomes so much easier, and you take action much more decisively.

So, how confident are you?

What are your self-esteem pain points?

What do you feel insecure about?

Brainstorm and journal about these pain points.

Are you insecure about your appearance? Your style? The way you walk? The way you express yourself? Do you feel self-conscious about your drawing or dancing skills? Your grades in school/uni? Your job?

Find as many of your insecurities as possible, no matter how idiotic they may seem.

With some of these insecurities, you might be waiting to find your significant other so he/she can erase them for you.

But darling, that’s not his/her job! It’s YOURS.

Only you can overcome your insecurities. If you don’t feel insecure because someone else gives you a confidence boost, it doesn’t mean these insecurities are gone. They are just buried under that confidence boost for the time being.

Also, it is simply not fair to burden your partner with the expectation that he/she has to make you more confident. You should want to be your best self for him/her so that you can give your all in this relationship.

So don’t wait for a prince charming to come around and save you from your insecurities!

First, you need to get clear on what they are, and then you should create a plan to get over them, each at a time.

Maybe you tackle one insecurity each month or if they are bigger, one each year.

Just do something about them! You will have a true Boss Lady Glow Up if you stop accepting them as a permanent part of your life and decide to get rid of them.

Read also: 12 Powerful Ways To Be Confident

6. What makes you happy?

If I’d ask you what makes you happy, could you answer me confidently?

A Boss Lady knows what lights her up. She knows where her passions lie and what activities make her loose track of time.

And that knowledge is powerful! If you know what makes you happy, you can consciously do more of it.

Can you imagine the Boss Lady Glow Up you’d experience if you do at least one thing a day that makes you feel utterly and entirely happy?

How would your experience of life change? How would it affect your motivation and energy to go about your day?

I know it can be challenging to find your passions. I know I struggled with that when I started building a business because, ideally, it should revolve around something I am passionate about.

I don’t believe you can forcefully discover a passion of yours. If you can’t think of one, simply keep looking. Sooner or later, you will notice it.

So don’t despair if you can’t think of something immediately. Just keep looking. And maybe try to look in areas of your life that are not so obvious. Ask yourself, what makes you lose track of time?

Whatever you come up with, try to incorporate an hour or so of it into your day. Intentionally block out time for it. Perhaps at the end of your day so you have something to look forward to.

7. Find some new inspirations and incorporate them into your day.

Ah, what a beautiful state it is to be inspired. Suddenly we have all that energy and come up with brilliant ideas out of nowhere.

Sometimes that inspired state can last for multiple days and sometimes for just a few hours.

Regardless of how powerful the inspiration is, I genuinely believe we all need it to awaken the best boss babe version of ourselves.

That’s why you should get some new and possibly inspiring input regularly, if not daily.

Incorporate Podcasts, inspirational YouTube videos, books, blog posts, or whatnot into your routine.

But a word of warning! Avoid incorporating them before phases of concentration. Because once inspiration strikes, it will be hard to focus on anything else.

And if you can’t fully embrace your inspired state because of other obligations, it will sadly be wasted. And that is truly a tragedy!

Career + School Glow Up

Another significant part of our life that some people even put way too much focus on is your career or your educational path leading towards it.

School and work take up a large part of our life. If you work 8 hours a day, that’s 1/3 of your day! And that 5 days a week for 40-50 years of your life.

Naturally, this area of your life definitely should be part of a Boss Lady Glow Up!

But what can you do?

8. Sort out your mess

First things first, get your shit together!

I’m sure you have some loose papers lying around, or maybe some of your pens are empty, and you should get a new one.

Maybe your files on your laptop or tablet need sorting or deleting.

Whatever your mess is, sort it out.

9. Evaluate your past performance and analyze problems

So, how have you been doing in school/college/uni or at work/in your business over the last year?

What were your successes and losses?

What are you struggling with currently?

10. Plan your next action steps

Goals in life are essential. You need to know where you want to go to get there as smoothly and quickly as possible.

So, what is your next goal work/school wise?

Is it rocking that math exam? Graduating with a good average? Getting into that university? Getting promoted?

Define your goal and then create an action plan to get there.

Maybe that consists out of writing applications for jobs or colleges. Or do some research on which college fits you best.

Perhaps you need to upgrade our study routine. If you’ve been studying a lot but not getting the results, you have to change the strategy. So do some research and try out new study methods.

Financial Glow Up

The next area of life most of us need a boss lady glow up in is our finances.

If you are a fellow Felicity Seeker, you are currently working on becoming financially free, so this is a very interesting topic for you.

11. Make a budget

First things first, let’s take an inventory.

How much money do you actually have?
On what are you spending your money on?
Is that necessary?
How much will you have to spend within the next year?
How much money are you making?
How safe are your source(s) of income?

To sum it up, what is your financial situation like? If you answer all of these questions, you know much more about your finances than most people ever know about theirs.

Also, you won’t be surprised by the payments that are going to have to be made within the next year, which erases quite a bit of stress and anxiety.

12. Automate savings

Alright, the next step is to start saving money. Many people recommend having savings worth 6 months of living expenses.

That way, you won’t have to freak out when you lose your job, or something else happens to your source of income. It gives you enough time to create or find a new source of income.

Now, if you are a student like me without a real income yet, you won’t be able to save much.

Still, I automated my bank account to transfer 5 € a month to my savings account. Not much, sure, but at least something.

And once I earn more, the amount I save will also grow.

13. Automate donations

The same goes for the contributions you want to make. I, for example, have automated monthly donations of 5 € to a charity of my choice.

Again, not incredibly much, but it is a start I am eager to build upon.

Another possibility is to join programs that automatically round up your credit card payments and donate the difference to a charity.

So if you buy something for 9,50€ for example, 50 ct. will automatically be donated.

I love that concept! It’s just so effortless yet effective.

14. Start working on creating another stream of income

It’s always nice to have more money and more secure forms of income. That’s why a Boss Lady likes to have multiple streams of income.

Are you currently working on creating a new one? If not, I highly encourage you to do so. There are truly endless options out there for you to earn more money.

Whether it is through a Blog, a Kindle Publishing Business, or through a creative DIY Etsy store, whatever you choose if you stay committed and keep working on it, chances are you will be able to see money coming in within 1-2 years, maybe even less depending on your skills.

Relationship – Boss Lady Glow Up

15. Define your inner circle

Do you know who your closest friends and family members are? Who truly understands you? To whom would you go when sh#t hits the fan?

Knowing your inner circle is crucial because it enables you to spend more time with them instead of people that simply don’t matter as much to you.

16. Plan activities with them

Once you know your inner circle, plan out some activities, or meetups with them.

In the hectic of daily life, going out with friends quickly get’s neglected. Especially if you are an introvert. After all, it’s just so comfortable to stay at home. Trust me, I know.

To overcome this, talk to your friends and dedicate yourself to meeting at least once a month/every two weeks/every week.

If you all commit to it, you can hold each other accountable. Suddenly, it will become much easier to meet up regularly and create new memories.

17. Define toxic people and take measures

On the other side of the coin, you should also know who the toxic people are in your life.

We all have them, and many of us spend way to much time with them. Sometimes because they are family members and we can’t just cut them out of our lives entirely.

But once you have picked out the people that simply do not make you happy, you can at least reduce the time you spend with them or prepare yourself mentally for their toxicity and put up a wall.

It’s not easy, but the least you can do is to prepare yourself.

18. Get clear on what your ideal partner should be like

Another relationship you should invest some thoughts in is your romantic one.

Especially if you are not currently in a relationship, it is a good idea to get clear on what your significant other should be like.

And I don’t mean stuff like “funny, abs, nice butt, fluffy hair.” Those are just superficial.

I want you to dig really deep and think about the core values and the vision for life your partner should have.

Let me give you some example of what I mean by this:

Imagine you are very athletic and you love to stay healthy and move your body regularly. In the long run, your will most likely clash with a partner that is the definition of a couch potato and has no interest whatsoever in keeping himself/herself healthy.

Or if you’d love to travel the world and be in a new place every month, but your partner just wants to stay in his/her corporate job and the city he/she grew up in.

Or you see yourself with tons of kids running around your big garden, but your partner doesn’t want kids or a house with a garden.

I think you get the point.

This is not about being super picky and having unreachable high standards. It’s about being realistic and thinking long term.

If you keep each other from living your dream life, you will only end up resenting one another, and that would be a real tragedy.

19. Ask yourself if he/she would be attracted to you? Work on yourself to level up to his/her level.

Now that you know what your ideal partner is like, you should ask yourself: Would someone like that be attracted to someone like you?

And again, I am not talking about your appearance (although general hygiene would surely help).

Let’s say you want someone kind and generous. Someone like that probably wouldn’t be attracted to someone with a lack mindset who clings to every penny they have and doesn’t donate a thing.

So basically, you are trying to step into your ideal partner’s shoes and answer the “what is your ideal partner like” question out of their perspective.

And once you have your answer, you can work on becoming that person. And most likely this will be the best version of you anyway, but now you have additional motivation to pursue that

Health Glow Up

A Boss Lady knows how precious life is, and she wants to make the most out of it. Therefore she makes an effort to be as healthy as possible. And that’s why you need a health boss lady glow up!

20. Analyze health issues

To do that, your first Boss Lady Glow Up task should be to analyze any potential health issues you might suffer from.

And with that, I mainly mean those seemingly little ones you have resigned yourself to live with.

This could be acne, menstrual pain, insomnia, dandruff, or anything else you can think of.

21. Take action on them

Once you know about the health issues you have, you need to decide to take action on them!

Again, don’t tackle all at once, as it will overwhelm you. Decide on the most bothersome of the issues and start to inform yourself on it.

Although you should always treat doctor Google carefully, I do believe it can be helpful to do some in-depth research in addition to doctors’ appointments.

22. Stand more

Our society is sitting waaaaayyyyy too much!

Sitting is not a natural body posture. Our bodies were built to remain standing for the majority of the time.

Yet because we all work a ton at our desks, we tend to spend the vast majority of our day sitting and then about one-third of it sleeping.

One way to stand more is to get yourself a desk that can be elevated into a height that makes it possible to work while standing.

But those can be expensive. So if you are like me and don’t want to spend that money at the moment, you can improvise.

I, for example, like to put my laptop on top of my commode to work standing for a while.

And I have dedicated the time I take for studying flashcards to a time I spend standing or walking around my room/the house.

In the beginning, you will want to sit down very often because you are simply used to it. But slowly but surely it will get better.

23. Stay hydrated

This one is a no brainer, and you’ve probably expected it on this list. But yeah, you should stay hydrated.

24. Devise a workout plan

And another no brainer. Of course, you should move your body regularly.

To really stick to a routine, I’d recommend you to create a fluent workout plan. Meaning, stick to the same workout time every day. Otherwise, you will forget about it during the business of daily life.

Also, if you like to use workout videos as I do, stick to the same source. You don’t want to browse through YouTube for half an hour before finally deciding on a workout you’d like to do.

A simple and fun way to do that is to follow workout challenges like the ones Blogilates, Chloe Ting, or the Tone It App create.

Alright, so that is the planning part of your workout routine. Now, I have recently tried to make my routine more fluent.

Meaning, although I know the source of my workout videos, I allow myself to choose the specific video based on my mood of the day.

Sometimes that also means to be gentle with me. On days when I really don’t feel like working out – e. g. I have a headache, and I know I have been working out the past few days – I ditch the workout for a gentle Yoga with Adriene session.

And on days where I have early appointments or lectures and can’t squeeze in my workout at its usual time in the morning, I tend to also go easy on myself and don’t force myself to do the exercise in the afternoon, if I don’t feel like it.

This fluent workout routine has me most weeks working out 5 times a week and doing yoga and stretching on one day each.

If I were a hardcore drill sergeant, I doubt I would keep up with my workouts.

That’s why I encourage you to make this routine truly yours. Listen to your intuition and your feelings. If you are not feeling well, be gentle with yourself.

In the beginning, you might need to be more strict with yourself until you have made working out a habit, but in the long run, I recommend a fluent workout routine.

Try it out. It is truly amazing what an impact fitness makes on your overall Boss Lady Glow Up.

25. Become conscious of the chemicals you put in/on your body

This is something I’ve recently been working on. Nowadays, I guess we all know that we are putting a ton of chemicals and microplastics into our bodies through the foot and the cosmetics we consume.

However, it seems utterly overwhelming to improve that as there are so many products you’d need to find an alternative to.

Therefore, I feel like many of us simply give up and stick to our regular consuming habits.

But, it doesn’t have to be this way. You don’t have to throw out all of your cosmetics overnight and become toxin-free within a week.

Why not try to swap out your regular products for healthier ones, one at the time. The next time you have to get a new shampoo, use an app like Think Dirty or CodeChecker to scan a few products and pick the healthiest one.

Of course, those apps aren’t perfect either, and they might be biased towards certain brands. Still, it is better then not trying at all.

Try it out for yourself. Some of the healthier products are even cheaper than your original product.

And don’t be fooled into thinking you need to order healthy products like those online. I was surprised to find my local supermarket to have tons of choices available.

Appearance – Boss Lady Glow Up

And lastly, the category you might have been hoping for when clicking on this blog post.

I wanted to include this here because despite being superficial, your appearance can also lift you up or bring you down significantly depending on how happy you are with it.

So, here are a few tips on how to glow up in this area of your life.

26. Clean out your wardrobe konmari style

First things first, you should clean out your wardrobe.

Does this sound familiar? You are standing in front of your closet completely frustrated and maybe even close to tears because you have nothing to wear despite every inch of it being crammed?

Well, this is why you need a cleanout and a konmari one at that! This means you get everything out of your wardrobe and throw it on the floor or your bed in a huge pile.

Then you hold up every piece separately and ask yourself if this ignites joy in you.

Sounds cringy, yes, but ideally, you should want to be excited about wearing a piece of clothing. And if you can’t decide on anything to wear, chances are you don’t really like your clothes.

So might as well get rid of them. And ideally in the form of donations.

If you want to go more in-depth into this konmari technique, you should read The life-changing magic of tidying up. I’ve also listed it in my Reading List for Personal Growth.

27. Find style mentors

Now that you’ve gotten rid of a ton of stuff you don’t even wear, it’s time to learn how to buy clothes that genuinely excite you.

And the first step for this is to find at least one style mentor.

Scroll through Instagram or Pinterest to find someone whose style excites you. Ideally, they even have the same body type.

For me, one of those inspirations has been the petite Mira Duma or Dearly Bethany on YouTube and TaliaCupcake on Instagram.

Now analyze the outfits that inspire you most. What do they have in common? And what pieces would you need to replicate them?

28. Decide on a basic color scheme.

The probably most helpful tip I have learned on setting outfits together more relaxed and more stylish is to stick to a 2-3 color scheme.

Meaning, whatever outfit you wear, try to stick to 2-3 primary colors. You can wear different shades of them, of course. But sticking to few colors makes it look so much more cohesive and put together; it’s truly life-changing.

And in addition to that, decide on 5 primary colors for your personal style. Mine are black, white, beige, rose, and bordeaux.

Now that I know that, I pick the majority of my clothes in those colors. This makes it so effortless to mix and match them and still end up with a stylish outfit.

And once in a while, you can wear a flashy accessory or jacket in a different color. This will give your outfit that little spice.

29. Start buying quality over quantity

Yes, it can be great to buy cheap but stylish clothes from places like Shein, Zaful, or Primark.

But it’s no secret that that’s not the best quality. The pieces will rip easily or stretch out quickly or just not fit very well and sometimes be extremely smelly.

An appearance glow up a la boss lady happens when you ditch those cheap clothes for others of higher quality.

You don’t have to go all-in and write off your go-to stores overnight. But maybe invest in one or two good and pricey pieces a year. If you take care of them, they will last you for years to come!

I have a warm winter jacket from Zara, for example, that has lasted me 5 years by now, I think. And I am 21 … so almost for a quarter of my life. Huh, crazy to think about it.

Anyway, but I also want to mention that quality doesn’t have to be the most expensive piece on the rack.

At some point, the price is more due to the brand than the quality.

I feel like, we can very often intuitively sense whether or not something is of a good (not necessarily excellent, but good) quality. So just follow your gut.

30. Buy a few timeless pieces.

Stop chasing trends!

Sure, that pink glittery fanny bag might be totally in this year, but can you see yourself wearing it in 3 years?

The majority of your wardrobe should consist of timeless pieces. Stuff that you’ll feel comfortable wearing even in 5 years.

Those few flashy items I’ve mentioned above, those are the ones that can be trendy and cheap.

31. Invest in good jewelry

Jewelry and accessories can genuinely elevate your outfit. It’s incredible what a difference a simple belt can make or one chain necklace.

Ideally, you should start building a high-quality jewelry portfolio. Meaning jewelry that won’t oxidize after wearing it for a month.

Jewelry that you might even pass down to the next generation.

Again, this is a pricy task, but you don’t have to do it overnight. Take your time and invest in one good piece of jewelry a year or so.

That way, your style will become better and better as time passes.

32. Set reminders to shop pre-season

That was an essential step for me. Because quite frankly, I am just not in the mood to go shopping for summer clothes while we have winter temperatures or the other way around.

Why can’t shops sell summer clothes in summer and winter clothes in winter?!?!

So by the time I finally got the idea to get new sandals or boots, the stores didn’t have much left. And even worse, I didn’t have any to wear although the weather demanded it.

So yeah, set yourself a reminder on your phone to not forget your pre-season shopping!

33. Clean your shoes and accessories

This is very non-explanatory, but I feel like it’s very easy to forget. So here’s the short reminder.

And yes, people will notice your shoes having salt stains on them! So just clean and polish them!

Wow, that has been by faaaaarrrr my longest post up to date!!!! I am genuinely impressed by myself ^^’

If you’ve stuck with me till the end, please leave a comment down below on the first boss lady glow up idea you want to implement.

Other than that, I wish you a fantastic Boss Lady Glow Up!

Keep improving yourself!

Sophie