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If you are a sophisticated woman, it is easier for you to attract a high-quality life, including a high-quality soulmate.
But how does a girl from next door turn into a sophisticated woman? Do you need decades of life experience to fit the role?
Don’t worry, while more life experience certainly helps, you can speed up the process by intentionally pursuing specific skills and traits.
No matter who you’ve been so far, you can become a sophisticated woman if you set your mind to it.
So let’s get into the different steps.
1. Be well-dressed
If I think about sophisticated women, the first thing that pops into my head is impeccable style.
Whether we like it or not, we humans can’t help to judge a book by its cover.
And our cover is the way we dress.
It will be next to impossible to pull off the sophisticated woman aura if you turn up in hot pants with a rip that shows your ass and a see-through top.
So I advise dressing to impress.
One of my favorite ways to do that is through 2-color schemes or even monochromatic style.
Every outfit looks immediately so much more elevated and thought through if the colors match and exude harmony.
Anyway, you should take some time to analyze what you could improve styling wise.
I have a few blog posts to help you with that:
Read also: 11 Fashion Hacks For Stylish Women
2. Pursue broad interests
Sophisticated women pull people towards them like a magnet.
One of the things that makes them so lovely to interact with is their ability to talk about a wide variety of topics.
Think about it; I’m sure you’ve met at least one of those people who seem to be interested in just a handful of topics. It is bloody difficult to hold a conversation with them.
Now, the best way to be able to talk about many topics is to have broad interests.
You should set time aside for personal development every day and a little time to pursue your current interests.
And this doesn’t mean you have to take up a hobby or join a club.
This can be as simple as listening to ‘We Didn’t Start The Fire‘ by Billy Joel. Suddenly, you find yourself interested in what exactly happened with Walter Winchell and Studebaker.
Allow yourself to pursue information without direct use for them.
You don’t have to write an exam about something to spend time diving deep into it.
One way that always gets me interested in new topics is listening to interviews with celebrities that I like.
For example, I love Formula 1, and on their Beyond the Grid podcast, there are some amazing up close and personal interviews with the drivers. A few of those interviews have sparked new interests in me.
3. Be well-spoken
I’m always blatantly in awe of people that can smoothly express themself.
I frequently find myself repeating phrases of movies or series characters that I really liked.
A great way to broaden your vocabulary is through reading a lot. Personally, I am an advocate of reading books. Still, as a Fanfiction addict, I can definitely attest to the value of reading Fanfiction as well.
Just read! Focus on the way people express themselves.
If I’m honest, this topic is currently a very sore spot for me. For some reason, I tend to stumble over my words or mix them up.
Ridiculously enough, I feel more eloquent in English than in German, and that definitely needs working on.
With that being said, I also believe that a sophisticated woman can speak a few different languages.
Personally, I love languages, and I’ve been working on my French for a while now.
What new language could you pick up? Implement it into your daily life by watching a series in that language with subtitles.
4. Don’t swear
This, of course, does somewhat belong to the ‘well-spoken’ category, but it’s important enough to deserve a separate mentioning.
Swearing like a drunken sailor manages to ruin a carefully crafted image quicker than anything else. It belongs in a category with burping, farting, and picking your nose.
Now, don’t understand me wrong I don’t expect you to be a saint that says ‘dang’ instead of ‘damn it’ or ‘fuck’.
But there is somewhat of a severity system between the swear words. I’m sure you are easily able to differentiate between the more vulgar ones and the common ones.
At any rate, you shouldn’t use too much of the common ones either. If you say ‘fuck‘ and ‘fucking‘ three times in a single sentence you will have trouble being depicted as a sophisticated woman.
5. Never stop learning
Sophisticated women love learning. They see themselves as students for life.
I always find that it starkly shows whether a person has stopped learning once they finished school. It shows in the conversations you have with them and the lifestyle they lead.
Don’t make that mistake!
Successful and sophisticated women are students for life. They don’t need a curriculum to motivate them to grow and fill their mind with information.
Read also: 6 Personal Growth Courses I Want To Take
6. Be independent without having to prove it
A common struggle for women is the urge to be independent.
Because for so long, women were dependent on men and told that they couldn’t achieve the same things as their male counterparts, we had to fight extra hard for our independence and show our strength.
At the beginning of the emancipation, this was undoubtedly necessary. Nowadays, in countries with female leaders, female entrepreneurs, female engineers, and tacticians (even though there are always pay gaps), it isn’t so much anymore.
For you, as a sophisticated woman, that means you can embrace your independence without a struggle. Buy yourself that apartment of your dreams, change your flat tire on your own, and build that business.
However, don’t fall into the trap of proving your independence to anyone.
A lot of women’s inner conflict is that they want a soulmate who gives them their jacket when they are cold, who opens a door for them, and pays for the dinner.
Yet, at the same time, our habit of proving our independence makes life so much harder for chivalrous men.
If a man offers to carry something heavy for you, it doesn’t mean he thinks you are weak and dependent on stronger men. It merely means he’d like to help you out.
This was just one quick example. But try to observe yourself when making decisions.
Do you ever get that almost unconscious urge to play tough and show your strength? I know I have in the past, and I am always working on it.
Next time that feeling comes up ask yourself if life wouldn’t be easier without proving your independence. Does anyone even question it?
Be honest with yourself!
7. Recieve gracefully
How do you react when someone offers you a compliment or offers to drive you somewhere or pay something for you?
Do you say ‘thank you, that really wasn’t necessary‘.
Or perhaps you try to reciprocate immediately saying ‘thanks, I love your style too!”
Maybe you even try to play it down, saying ‘this old thing, pfff, it’s nothing special but thanks.‘
A sophisticated woman has mastered the art of receiving gracefully and gratefully.
Because she always gives freely, be it in the form of compliments or favors, she doesn’t feel bad about receiving either.
8. Declare your self-worth
This is a pretty new concept for me that I am currently working on. I’ve learned it in the Transform Your Wealth course.
I’m sure most of us know that we are worthy, simply because we exist. We have an intrinsically human worth.
However, if you are striving for an extraordinary life, you can’t merely be ordinarily worthy.
That won’t sit well with your subconscious, and you will sabotage yourself any time you could accomplish something above average.
To attract great things in your life, you need to know why you are worthy of having them.
Sophisticated women don’t expect others to declare their worth for them. They take matters into their own hand and make sure to know their worth without anyone having a say in it.
So what about you? What makes you worthy of having the extraordinary life of your dreams? What do you bring to the table in all areas of life?
You should write this list down regularly to make sure you never forget your self-worth.
9. Assume ignorance before malice
A sophisticated woman assumes ignorance before malice. She doesn’t lash out at people who are rude or make mistakes because she knows that nobody is perfect, and the least people are aiming to be malicious.
Life gets much more manageable and brighter if you follow this principle.
10. Honor your privacy
Privacy is one of the most valuable assets we can have in this digital world. That’s why a sophisticated woman takes her privacy very seriously.
She knows precisely where her privacy starts and where it ends, and she isn’t afraid to draw a line if necessary.
You won’t find any nudes or scandalous stories of family feuds from a sophisticated woman.
She doesn’t feel the need to share every part of her life with the public.
How private are you?
Read also: 11 Easy Ways To Honor Your Privacy
11. Master the art of body language
Your body language can intimidate people, make them feel superior, or make them relaxed around you. Your posture can even alter your own emotions.
There are many ways body language can help you in daily life. Yet, most of us use it unconsciously.
A sophisticated woman recognizes its power and makes a conscious effort to use it to her advantage.
Personally, I find it interesting to watch body language analyses of fictional characters in movies or series. It is a fun way to learn a lot.
12. Be on top of your finances
You need to handle your finances!
The moment you give up control of your finances, you give up control of your life.
There was a reason once upon a time, women needed the approval of their husbands to open up a bank account.
That’s why a sophisticated woman doesn’t shy away to take her finances into her own hands.
She might hire accountants and brokers along the way to free up more of her time and leave increasingly complicated work to specialists.
But successful women make sure to know the basics about their income, taxes, investments, debts, savings, and everything else concerning their finances.
Read also: 11 Things You Should Not Spend Money On
13. Protect your energy
If you are available for everyone, whether they are high vibe or toxic, it will deplete your energy and keep you from doing something meaningful than brings joy.
A sophisticated woman values her energy and protects it accordingly.
She doesn’t stand for toxic people be it in real life or on social media.
She accepts that there are times when you need to deal with them, but she keeps those moments to a bare minimum.
14. Be kind
Be kind, just because.
Seriously, if you have to choose between being an ass or being kind, why would you ever choose the former?
Don’t let your bad mood out on undeserving people.
Instead, try to make someone’s day by simply being kind to them. Who knows, it could very well be the best thing that’s happened to them on a shitty day.
We all need more happiness and kindness in life.
15. Learn how to read a menu
Ok, there is no way you don’t know that situation:
You go into a restaurant and read the menu, and there is at least one word that you just don’t know.
Of course, it’s the 21st century, and you can just quickly google it.
But there is something very sophisticated about people who know their way around food and beverages.
It speaks of worldliness – that they have experienced a lot and tried out many different things.
So learn your food and beverage vocabulary!
Well, I hope this gave you some new goals to work on. If you are reading this, you are already much closer to being a sophisticated woman than most other women are.
So pat yourself on the back.
I wish you much success on your quest to becoming a stunning personality.
Until next week!
Sophie
