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Stuck in Mediocrity? 7 Habits You Must Break 🏆

Have you ever wondered what separates the truly successful from the average? It’s not always about luck, talent, or intelligence. Often, it’s about the habits we cultivate in our daily routines. Average habits lead to average outcomes, while exceptional habits can propel us to greatness. In this blog post, we’ll explore the common habits that keep many of us stuck in mediocrity and how we can break free from them. If you’re ready to elevate your life and achieve your full potential, let’s dive in!

1. Living Life in a Straight Line

Average people, or “average joes,” tend to follow a predictable path: school, job, retirement. While there’s nothing inherently wrong with this trajectory, it often lacks excitement and growth. Exceptional people seek out new experiences, challenge the status quo, and aren’t afraid to deviate from the norm. This willingness to explore new ways and embrace change is a stepping stone to financial success and personal fulfillment.

2. Avoiding Discomfort Unless Necessary

Discomfort is where growth happens. Whether it’s physical, emotional, or mental, avoiding discomfort means missing out on opportunities for improvement. Embrace challenges and push yourself beyond your comfort zone regularly. Wealthy people and successful individuals like Elon Musk and Warren Buffett thrive on tackling difficult tasks that others shy away from.

3. Consuming but Not Creating

Consumption without creation leads to stagnation. Average people spend most of their time consuming content—whether it’s TV shows, social media, or news—without producing anything meaningful. Start creating: write a blog post, start a podcast, or learn a new skill. Creation breeds innovation and personal growth. This shift from passive consumption to active creation is one of the key productivity habits of successful people.

4. Spending What You Earn

Living paycheck to paycheck is a hallmark of average financial habits. Instead of saving and investing, many people spend as much as they make, if not more. Break this cycle by prioritizing saving, investing, and building financial literacy. Wealthy people understand the importance of having a financial cushion for a rainy day and avoiding unnecessary debt like car loans and excessive credit card spending.

5. Not Being Deliberate About What You Do

Living on autopilot is easy but uninspiring. Average people often lack intentionality in their actions. To rise above, be deliberate about your goals, time, and energy. Set clear goals and take purposeful steps toward achieving them. Having a to-do list and prioritizing important tasks can be a powerful tool for managing your daily schedule and achieving long-term benefits.

6. Complaining Instead of Changing

Complaining is easy, but it doesn’t solve problems. Average people often focus on what’s wrong rather than taking action to fix it. Shift your mindset to solution-oriented thinking. When you encounter an issue, ask yourself what you can do to change it. This conscious decision to act rather than complain is a hallmark of productive people.

7. Planning and Dreaming Instead of Taking Action

While planning and dreaming are important, they are useless without action. Average people often get stuck in the planning phase, never making tangible progress. Turn your dreams into actionable steps and start moving forward, even if the steps are small. Small changes can lead to great things over time, and taking the first step is often the hardest part.

8. Making Solid Decisions That Pose Little Risk

Playing it safe might seem wise, but it can lead to missed opportunities. Exceptional people take calculated risks and learn from their failures. Embrace uncertainty and be willing to take bold steps toward your goals. Business owners and self-made millionaires often attribute their success to taking risks that others were afraid to take.

9. Being Oh So Busy

Busyness is often mistaken for productivity. Average people fill their schedules with tasks that keep them busy but not necessarily productive. Focus on high-impact activities that drive real progress rather than just filling time. Productivity tip: prioritize tasks that align with your long-term goals and avoid getting bogged down with busywork.

10. Spending an Excessive Amount of Time Looking Mindlessly at Screens

Mindless screen time is a productivity killer. Whether it’s scrolling through social media or binge-watching TV shows, excessive screen time drains your energy levels and attention. Set boundaries for your screen usage and allocate more time to activities that enrich your life and contribute to your goals. Successful people like Bill Gates and Mark Zuckerberg manage their screen time wisely, ensuring they have enough time for productive and meaningful activities.

Breaking free from mediocrity requires intentional changes in our daily habits. By identifying and eliminating these average habits, you can unlock your full potential and achieve greater success. Remember, it’s not about making drastic changes overnight, but taking small, consistent steps toward a more exceptional life. Start today by choosing one habit to change, and watch how your life transforms over time. Your journey to greatness begins with the habits you cultivate—make them count!

How to Trust In Yourself | 7 Tips To Build Self-Confidence

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Have you ever had doubts about yourself or your ability to succeed? Do you feel like you always lack confidence when it comes to taking a risk or making a big decision? Learning to trust in yourself is not only a practical tool but an important life skill. In this blog post, we will discuss how you can boost your confidence, overcome low self-esteem, and learn to trust in yourself.

Steps to Building Self-Trust

1. Examine Your Beliefs: Uncovering the Root of Low Self-Esteem

Whether or not you are already aware of it, there must be a deeper reason behind your struggle to trust in yourself.

After all, little children never doubt themself. It is something that is learned as we grow older.

Of course, a certain amount of self-doubt is healthy and aids your self-preservation instincts.

But if you start doubting yourself with little things or things you have done before, that’s a clear sign of an issue that needs solving.

What exactly is the root cause of your low self-esteem? Only you can know. It can be useful to reflect on the moment those doubts first appeared. Do you remember how old you were? What happened during that time?

You could also ask friends or family members for their perspectives or consult a therapist or trained life coach. Unfortunately, things often look clearer from an outside perspective.

2. Setting Boundaries: Establishing Respectful Interactions With Yourself

Clear boundaries are important for building any healthy relationship. Too often, we forget that we not only have relationships with other people but also with ourselves.

As such, we should establish certain boundaries on how we treat ourselves.

One example would be to speak kindly to yourself.

Do you call yourself stupid, ugly, or a loser? Would you call anyone else that to their face? Probably not. Yet you do it to yourself.

This kind of damaging behavior causes your lack of trust in yourself.

If you catch yourself thinking poorly of yourself, make sure to immediately apologize instead of just committing to doing better next time.

For example: When you catch yourself thinking, ‘you are so ugly,’ stop a moment and then think, ‘no, sorry, that’s not true. You are simply having a rough day appearance wise, that happens to everyone.’

3. Reframe Your Thinking and Focus on the Positives

All of us make mistakes at times. Unfortunately, those mistakes are often embarrassing, painful, or annoying.

Because they evoke such strong emotions, they stay in our minds much more than good decisions. That’s why it is much easier to remember situations where you overestimated yourself instead of moments in which the trust in yourself worked out flawlessly.

You need to consciously counteract this flaw of our brains.

The best way to do this is by documenting moments in which you made the right choice. This extra attention will make it easier to remember these moments later on.

Furthermore, the list you create will be reassuring to look at in moments of doubt.

4. Confront Your Fears

Another tip for learning how to trust in yourself is to confront your fears. What would be the worst-case scenario if you trusted yourself with this decision or task and it went wrong?

Does it matter in the long term? Would it help you to do better next time? Do you know of others who have made this mistake? If so, how did it affect them?

In most cases, you will realize that your fear of making mistakes is exaggerated.

Most likely, you are not going into this task unprepared. Instead, you have at least a decent skillset and a well-functioning brain in your head. So you are going to do fine!

And even if things should go pear-shaped, then you can apologize and try again.

5. Practicing Self-Care: Nurturing Your Mind, Body, and Soul

How can you trust yourself to accomplish important tasks if you can’t properly care for yourself?

By practicing self-care and keeping your mind, body, and soul in tip-top shape, you prove that you are reliable.

You also put yourself into a state of optimal performance, which increases your chances of making good decisions and avoiding mistakes.

6. Celebrating Success: Acknowledging Your Achievements

Celebrate those moments when you did everything right!

Moments where you surprised even yourself with your competence. And also the moments where you didn’t even consider that anything could go wrong, and as expected, things worked out well.

The more your self-doubt sabotages you, the more you must reward yourself for everything you achieved by having faith in yourself.

This celebration doesn’t need to be big or meaningful. It can be enough to do a happy dance throughout your room or to give the event an extra mention in your daily journaling session.

Just make sure to not brush it aside as if it were unimportant.

7. Cultivate a Supportive Environment and Seek Help When Needed

Nobody ever said you had to do this alone. If you are confronted with a choice or task above your skill level, just ask for help.

You can hire a financial advisor for monetary decisions. For example, if the task seems overwhelming, you can hire a freelancer on Fiverr to design your blog. If you don’t trust yourself not to mess up yet another romantic relationship, you can find a coach or therapist to help you work out the problem.

And let’s not forget your friends and family, who can provide emotional support whenever you don’t trust yourself enough to do something without an accountability buddy.

Of course, to take advantage of such emotional support, you must carefully curate your environment and distance yourself, at least temporarily, from people who lower your self-esteem.

Conclusion

In conclusion, trusting in yourself is a lifelong process that requires effort and dedication but is ultimately rewarding. When you make an effort to boost your confidence, challenge your negative thoughts, and understand the power of positive self-talk, you’ll discover a new level of inner strength and better self-trust. The key is to not be afraid to take chances, remain true to yourself, and develop positive and healthy self-love and self-esteem.

Start your journey of self-trust today by trying out some of the tips outlined in this blog post.

Share what worked for you and the strategies that you feel most comfortable with, then leave a comment and let us know your experience with trusting in yourself.

Until next time, Felicity Seeker!

How To Organize Your Life | 11 Tips To Keep Your Life Organized

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Does your life seem like a chaotic mess at times? It’s time you learn how to organize your life. Here are 11 helpful tips.

1. Create one folder for important documents divided by subjects

Bank statements, insurance contracts, login details – all these are important information you need to keep at hand.

To keep your life organized, you should have all this information in one or two places.

Ideally, you should know exactly where to look for an important document, even if you can’t remember the document’s existence.

If you still need to get such a place, buy one big folder and some dividers. Make sure to immediately put all the important documents you already have and all the new ones into their respective division.

Of course, not all important information nowadays comes in physical form, especially since login details are more often digital.

Unless you want to write them all down on paper, consider creating a password-protected spreadsheet that you can access digitally.

2. Create a box for the manuals of all of your devices

I never really knew what to do with the manuals of the devices in my home after I read them.

Logically, you should keep them in case you have questions later on or the device breaks.

But unless you also keep the packaging, which takes up quite a lot of storage, where would you keep the manuals?

The answer: In a neat little box.

Keeping them in a folder would be impractical, considering how small but thick some of the manuals are. That’s why I recommend a box or a drawer.

Either way, ensure you have one place where you know you’ll find the answers to any device-related questions.

Luckily, more and more manuals are also available online. So your box will most likely never overflow.

3. Delete old emails and take care of postponed emails once a week

I’m not talking about work emails. Those are wholly different issues. In fact, many employees spend large amounts of their workday dealing with (at times unnecessary) emails.

No, this tip on how to organize your life is about your private emails. Some are important, others are newsletters, and too many are spam.

If an email doesn’t seem urgent, we often don’t deal with it immediately but rather take a quick look and leave it in our inbox to deal with in the future.

To keep your life organized, you also need to keep your inbox organized. That means blocking some time every week to deal with old emails.

Dealing with them will most often mean deleting them. Some of them may be important for later reference. Those emails should be in a separate folder in your account.

With these weekly email cleanses, your inbox will be a neatly organized place you don’t dread visiting.

4. Put worn-through clothes aside immediately and replace them the next time you purchase clothing

Holes in socks and underwear are inevitable with long-time use. And it’s easy to think that you’ll wear them just one more time and then again just one more time and again and again.

Eventually, you will find yourself with few presentable socks, which can lead to slightly embarrassing situations at the doctor’s or when you visit someone at their home.

An organized life also means keeping track of the state of your clothes and when they need replacing.

The easiest way to do that is by putting the clothes immediately aside once you notice a tear or hole.

You don’t have to immediately buy a replacement. But the next time you buy some clothes, you only have to look at the clothes you put aside to know what you have to restock.

5. Check your finances once a month and keep track of your expenses/income

Another tip on how to organize your life is to always know how much money you have. After all, if you know how much you have, you also know how much you can spend without amounting to debt.

You also need to know how you spend your money and what expenses can be expected in the near future.

Different programs can help you track how you spend and earn your money.

Looking at your financial history and current financial situation once a month will help you make smarter decisions and keep you out of trouble.

6. Put things back in their designated place as soon as you don’t need them anymore

Leaving things lying around in random places is a bad habit that creates a cluttered environment and wastes a lot of time searching for things.

To keep your life organized, you should know exactly what item belongs in which place and always put it back once you finish using it.

7. Always have a digital or physical notebook with you to braindump

It’s hard to focus with thoughts flowing around your head. Some might even be important for later, and it would be a shame to forget about them.

That’s why it’s important to always have something at hand to quickly braindump your thoughts before focusing all your attention on the task again.

One such brain dump place can be the notes app on your phone; you could also record short memos.

8. Check your braindump places at least once a week and deal with or reorganize the information

It’s easy to forget the random thoughts you’ve written down throughout the day. But often enough, some real gold can be found there, so they shouldn’t be disregarded.

So take some time, once a week, to review these notes and deal with the information as needed.

9. Get rid of old and useless information, documents, photos, and miscellaneous things

Being organized also means knowing when to get rid of things. The more you hoard, the more difficult it will be to keep your life organized.

Therefore, you should take some time at least once a year to eliminate useless things.

Photos that you’ll never look at again, clothes you never wear anyways, funny gadgets you haven’t used in ages, etc. All these things should be thrown out before your storage spaces overflow.

10. Make Backups and use the Cloud!!!

Organized people prepare for worst-case scenarios. This includes losing access to the contents of your digital devices.

Our whole life is on our phones, laptops, or tablets. I’ve heard from multiple students at university who lost weeks or even months of hard work because they didn’t save their documents in the cloud before their laptops broke down.

You might also lose many contacts and chat history if you don’t back up your phone regularly.

Another tip for organizing your life is to arrange a backup system.

If you have enough storage in your cloud, you should be able to automize it. If not, then you should save your data manually at regular intervals.

11. Schedule all due dates in a digital calendar immediately, no matter how far in the future they are

Do you know all the subscriptions that are running in your name? Do you know when the next payment is due and by which date you can cancel them?

What about your ID, passport, credit card, and driver’s license? How long do you have until you need to renew them?

Oh, and let’s not forget all your vaccinations. Do you know in how many years you have to boost them?

The older we get, the more due dates fill our life. Unsurprisingly, we can’t remember all of them.

However, forgetting these deadlines is inconvenient (you can’t travel far if your passport is past its expiration date) and incredibly expensive (yearly subscriptions can be pricey, and you want to cancel them in time).

The best way to keep up with all these dates is by writing them down into a digital calendar as soon as you know about them.

This goes especially for those due dates that are years in the future. They might not seem urgent yet, but those are the most likely to be forgotten.

On a rate from 1-10, how organized would you say your life is? If it’s not a 10, which of these tips will you try to improve your organization?

We’d love to hear your thoughts.

Until next time, Felicity Seeker!

101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think Book Review

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I’ve finally come around to reading the highly recommended “101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think,” and here is my book review.

Book Review

101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think by Brianna Wiest is basically like a collection of high-quality personal development blog posts. It was a nice and thought-provoking read full of great lessons. The main ones repeatedly appeared throughout the book, so they were really made to stick.

Lessons

1. Truly living means feeling all feelings to their fullest

If you were always happy, you wouldn’t feel happy at all because you wouldn’t be having the necessary contrast to sadness or any other negative emotion.

Being happy would just be normal. It would feel good but a bit ‘meh.’ Just like rich people get used to spending insane amounts of money without blinking an eye, you wouldn’t even see yourself as particularly happy if you didn’t experience the alternative.

Furthermore, your life would stagnate.

After all, besides chasing pleasure, the biggest motivator for many people is to escape the pain.

We don’t want to worry about money anymore, so we study hard to get a good job; we don’t want to feel restricted by a 9-to-5 lifestyle anymore, so we build a business, and we are sick of feeling ugly take care of our appearance.

Previously unimaginable amazing things have resulted from humans wanting a better life.

None of us would ever live life with our full potential if we always were happy.

So embrace your negative emotions as well!

2. You’re not meant to be happy all the time

“Negative emotions are good for you. In fact, maintaining a consistent experience of only “happiness”—or any emotion, really—would be a sign of mental illness.”
– Brianna Wiest (101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think)

“The goal is not to feel “good” all the time, it’s to be able to express a healthy range of emotion without suppressing or suffering.”
– Brianna Wiest (101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think)

“Happy people are not people who “feel good” all the time; they are the people who are able to be guided by their negative emotions rather than paralyzed by them.”
– Brianna Wiest (101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think)

“Pain is a signal that something’s wrong, suffering is what happens when we don’t heed it.”
– Brianna Wiest (101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think)

There is a lot of talk in the online world about being a high vibe all the time. Some gurus sell their formula to a high vibe life to hopeful customers.

And many of those high vibe tips work … until they don’t.

You can’t avoid negative feelings forever.

Beyond the previously mentioned point that truly living includes feeling all emotions to the fullest, there is also another reason you shouldn’t suppress negative emotions.

They are making you aware of a problem you need to deal with.

The more you suppress your negative emotions instead of dealing with the root of them, the more issues will pop up in your life: anger management issues, anxiety, stress-induced health issues, etc.

Those negative feelings will persist the more you resist them. Instead, healthily deal with them, and if necessary, don’t hesitate to take advantage of professional help.

3. Life isn’t about goals but the person you become through the pursuit of them

“The point of hard work is to recognize the person it makes you, not what it “gets” you”
– Brianna Wiest (101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think)

“Accomplishing goals is not success. How much you expand in the process is.”
– Brianna Wiest (101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think)

“The point of anything is not what you get from having done it; it’s who you become from having gone through it. It’s all about growth at the end of the day. “
– Brianna Wiest (101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think)

Our society has become very goal-oriented. The internet is full of content that’s supposed to help you hustle towards your next big goal.

However, it’s actually not the actual achievement of the goal that makes the biggest difference in your life. It’s more about who you become during the journey.

If you learn to see the benefit in work in between and actually enjoy it, you will lead a happier life and be more at peace.

You won’t just live for the fleeting moment in which you achieve your goal and until you set sight onto your next aim. Instead, you’ll live for the process, as well.

4. Some of your dreams might break, but that doesn’t mean you should give up on a bright future

“Don’t confuse a broken dream with a broken future.”
– Brianna Wiest (101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think)

Sometimes, we build this elaborate mental construct of our ideal life around this one dream scenario.

The longer you have this picture of your future, and the more you want it, the more it’s going to hurt when that bubble pops.

Teh sudden realization that this dream isn’t feasible can be dishartening and depressing.

It might take you a while to get over your loss of perspective for your future.

However, you should always remember that a future equally as good or even better is waiting for you to claim it.

Often enough, we end up idolizing our dream life without realizing that the actual day-to-day routine wouldn’t be ideal for us at all.

Luckily, there is always another, if not better, dream waiting for you.

5. Stop planning your happiness and start feeling it now

“You cannot save up your happiness; you can either feel it in the moment, or you miss it. It’s that simple.”
– Brianna Wiest (101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think)

Anyone who is more prone to overthinking than spontaneous actions has probably postponed their happiness at least once in their life.

This can look like forcing yourself to watch a series more slowly than you’d like because you want to have something to look forward to in the next few days.

Or perhabs you have this really deliciously scented candle, and you want to save it for a ‘special occasion, but then it just ends up lying around for years instead of providing you joy now.

Trying to plan our happiness can rob us of the very thing we are trying to secure.

For example, often enough, the excitement of the series or with the candle might fade, and you don’t enjoy it later on as much as you would have now.

Or you even forget about it entirely.

There will be plenty of reasons for you to feel happy in the future.

Don’t act as if your happiness is a limited resource that carefully needs to be distributed across time.

Be happy now, first and foremost!

6. You should be living life and not just think about it

“Make sure you’re living more than you’re thinking about living.”
– Brianna Wiest (101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think)

It is easy to fall into the habit of overanalyzing your life, especially as an introverted overthinker interested in personal development.

As such, we have to put a conscious effort into actually living life.

Stop creating all those Pinterest boards full of cute aesthetic cafés and instead take your laptop or book and spontaneously spend a few hours in one.

Stop planning out the perfect business idea in little detail and just start working on something.

And please stop obsessing over whether or not you’re ‘behind in life.’ Instead, take one step forward in a direction that’ll make you feel less behind.

You won’t remember all the things you’ve contemplated in life. What you will remember and be remembered for are the things you did. So start doing them!

7. Be careful to imagine your life as a synopsis

“You have to stop living for how other people will remember you. Stop living by telling yourself the story that you think other people will be happy reading.”
– Brianna Wiest (101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think)

This book made me aware that I am guilty of viewing my life from the outside and as a synopsis.

Do you envy the impressive CV of successful people?

Do you imagine what your CV will look like one of these days?

And have you ever imagined how other people will introduce you?

If you do, you are also having a synopsis-like view of your life.

You can keep imagining your life’s synopsis if it motivates you but redirects your focus on your life from your own perspective if you get increasingly disappointed.

8. Your fear is not only a warning but also a guiding sign

“Not wanting to do something would make you feel indifferent about it. Fear = interest.”
– Brianna Wiest (101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think)

“The presence of indifference is a sign you’re on the wrong path. Fear means you’re trying to move toward something you love, but your old beliefs, or unhealed experiences, are getting in the way.”
– Brianna Wiest (101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think)

Not every fear is a sign of danger. More often than not, fear is a sign that you are interested in something that lies outside your comfort zone.

To step outside your comfort zone, you might have overcome limiting beliefs, self-sabotaging habits or simply push yourself through it.

If you do that, you will experience immense growth, and your momentum will make it easier for you to follow other interests that have been appearing as fears.

9. Don’t let your past self dictate how you live your life today

“You owe nothing to your younger self. You are not responsible for being the person you once thought you’d be.”
– Brianna Wiest (101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think)

“There is no way you will be able to predict or plan what will be happening in 5 years from now. If you can predict and plan for that, dream bigger. Try harder.”
– Brianna Wiest (101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think)

My younger self of five years ago would have never been able to predict the kind of person I am today with all my interests and passions.

I’m sure to at very least a small extent, it’s the same for you.

So why would we think we can make a 5-year plan for our life that is guaranteed to make us happy?

You might dedicate your entire high school life to getting the grades necessary formed or law school because you’ve set it into your head that this is your dream career.

Does that guarantee you will like the college courses or the actual career? No!

So don’t force yourself to finish a 5- or even 10-year plan just because you are already a few years into it if you honestly hate it.

There is a fine line between stubborn persistence and foolish stubbornness; be careful what side you’re on.

10. Embrace your embarrassing past

“You’re supposed to be embarrassed of your younger self—really. It’s a mark of progress.”
– Brianna Wiest (101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think)

Many people cringe when they see pictures of or hear stories about their younger selves.

They obsess over how they could have done better and why they did this or that.

But the thing is, back then, it was most likely the best you had to offer.

The fact that you could do so much better nowadays should make you proud of how much you’ve grown.

Focus on that instead of on the embarrassing thing nobody, but you obsesses over.

11. The things you love and hate about others tell you a lot about yourself

“You love in others what you love in yourself. You hate in others what you cannot see in yourself.”
– Brianna Wiest (101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think)

If you have a very strong reaction to people who interrupt others, perhaps that’s because you refuse to admit to yourself that you are prone to interrupting others as well.

If you absolutely hate women caked full of makeup, perhaps that’s because you don’t want to admit to yourself that you’d like to be able to make up as expertly as them (though not necessarily as much of it as them).

After all, if you don’t care about it, you would feel indifferent towards it.

Take your strong emotions as cues to find out more about you and heal your hate by finally admitting to yourself the things you’ve been keeping suppressed.

Comment down below on your favorite lesson from the book.

Until next time!

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6 Practical Tips To Move More Gracefully And Elegantly – Tips for Modern Women

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Sometimes it feels like we are doomed to move clumsily and brutish for the rest of our lives while others appear born to make graceful and elegant pirouettes.

But the way you move can be trained. Just look at the Next Topmodel shows and how the aspiring models learn to walk on runways.

Perhaps you can remember a time when you altered something about your handwriting. For example, I changed my ‘i’ dots to circles. And I managed to change that habit surprisingly quickly once I was determined to do so.

The point is, there are few things we are stuck with from birth on. The majority of things we can improve if we dedicate ourselves to it.

And since you are reading this, I assume you are motivated to move more gracefully and elegantly.

Well, let’s get into the tips.

1. Take your time when picking up things

One of the easiest ways to appear and feel more graceful and elegant is to pick things up more slowly and deliberately.

I’ve noticed it in myself that I tend to hurriedly grab for things, which not only looks rushed but sometimes also ends up being somewhat noisy.

Instead, I now try to pick things up as if they were delicate and easily breakable.

It might feel silly initially, but the goal here is to counteract your habit of madly grabbing for things so that you will automatically settle for an elegant middle way in the long run.

2. Find a “mentor” and copy them

It is always easier to learn something by example. Suppose you are not lucky enough to have a real person in your life that moves as gracefully and elegantly as you desire to move. In that case, you can simply use the unlimited internet for inspiration.

One of my inspirations on that topic is Magnus Bane from the Shadowhunters TV show.

He is so suave and graceful in everything he does. It is fascinating to watch his mannerisms and try to copy them.

If you keep your eyes open from now on when watching series, movies, music videos, or such, you will quickly notice people that move gracefully.

Focus on small things that they do first, like sitting down or moving their hands when talking or perhaps turning around.

3. Broad and fluent movements

Often times, people that look clumsy move in a swift and unprecise manner. They just seem to always be in a rush.

And as the Princess Diaries taught us: A queen is never late. Everyone else is simply early.

Part of that graceful elegance that royals portray comes from them taking their time.

They don’t hastily gulp down their drink or almost fall over because they try to put their shoes on quicker.

Allow yourself the time for fluent and broad movements.

Whether it is with your hand gestures, while taking off your jacket or getting in and out of the car.

If you take more time for the way you move, you can do so in a much more precise manner.

4. Dress accordingly

Let’s be real, it is pretty hard to come off as graceful and elegant wearing baggy pants and a dirty oversized t-shirt.

I’m sure some people manage to pull off even that, but you are most likely not at that level of elegance yet, if you are reading this.

So do yourself a favor and dress to impress.

This doesn’t need to be in an overly chic way. Simply try to keep your clothes neat and matching.

You also don’t need to choose feminine colors like pastels or nudes or the like to exude feminine elegance.

Just take a look at Isabelle Lightwood from Shadowhunters. She wears lots of black and bright red, and her clothes are emphasizing all her feminine assets.

But that doesn’t stop her from appearing elegant.