Confidence makes it easier to live a happy and successful life. Are you confident? Here are 11 signs you need a confidence boost.
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1. You keep overthinking the things you said to pretty much everyone outside of your inner circle
Have you ever come home from meeting people and suddenly started dissecting everything you said and thought you should have just said less?
This might be a strong sign that you need a confidence boost.
The stuff you say is good the way it is. Other people stumble over words every now and then, too. They sometimes blurt out more than intended or interrupt someone if they are excited.
You are not alone with these things, and the sole fact that you try to be a better person is more than most people can say of themselves.
So stop overthinking conversations that you were enjoying the moment they happened. Most likely, others didn’t even notice or at least won’t even remember what you are beating yourself up over.
2. You often feel like you are the dumbest person in the room even though you know for a fact that’s not true
Have you ever been in a lecture or at a dinner table, just listening to the other people talk and wondered how they know these things or how they manage to articulate them so well?
Most likely, you are highly underestimating yourself. Even if you lack some knowledge about the things these people talk about, you most likely outshine them in other areas.
And it’s always easier to speak eloquently about a topic you feel comfortable in than about something you haven’t entirely grasped yet.
If you feel like the dumbest person in the room often, you should integrate some self-worth and affirmation exercises into your daily routine.
3. One rude comment pushes you into a deep pit of self-doubt
Some people are just assh#les, who like to hurt others without a good reason; others may have had a bad day and let it out on the next best person without really meaning to.
Sooner or later, you will come across both types of people. And in any of these situations, what the other person says to you has far less to do with you than it has to do with them.
Confident people don’t let these comments bother them much, especially since insults hurt most when you are already partially insecure about their target.
For example, if someone were to try to insult you by saying you are an ugly tree, you would probably just blink stupidly and be amused by that strange person.
You wouldn’t let a ridiculous comment by a foolish person ruin your day.
So if one slightly rude comment by a stranger manages to trigger an episode of self-doubt, you are in desperate need of a confidence boost.
4. You always say ‘yes’ when people ask something of you
You need to prioritize yourself simply because the better off you are, the more you can help the people around you.
But it takes courage and a sense of your own self-worth to do that.
So if you find yourself saying ‘yes’ to each and every request sent your way, even if you’d really want to say ‘no,’ you could use a boost in your confidence and self-worth.
Simply start by saying ‘no’ to a small request with a good reason to. Then slowly work yourself up to saying ‘no’ simply because you don’t want to and with no need to justify yourself.
Practice makes perfect, so get started!
5. You have a hard time accepting compliments
What’s your default response to receiving compliments? Denial? Playing it down? Or just awkwardly hiding away?
You shouldn’t feel doubtful and uncomfortable when receiving compliments. Instead, you should feel happy and empowered in what you already believe.
After all, if you are proud of your grade on the test, you won’t feel very surprised if someone admires your grade.
And if you know that you are really good at something, you’ll likely feel good and smile knowingly when someone admires your work.
So keep an eye out for your reactions to compliments. They might be a sign you need a boost of confidence.
6. You go out of your way to fade into the background
You don’t have to like being the center of attention to be confident. However, someone truly confident wouldn’t go out of their way to fade into the background and avoid attention like the plague.
Confident people don’t care about what other people think of them.
They know that even if they embarrass themselves, it won’t change who they are and what they can do.
Do you know that, too?
7. You are extremely uncomfortable sharing your thoughts, opinions, and interests
There is something vulnerable in sharing your thoughts, opinions, and feelings.
In a way, you lay yourself bare and are open to attacks from others. By contrast, if you keep things to yourself, people won’t know where to strike you to make it hurt.
Confident people aren’t afraid of these attacks to their thoughts, opinions, or interests.
They know it says far less about themselves than it does about the person who is being hurtful.
8. You listen to everyone’s advice but your own
Mentors and their advice are important stepping stones on your way through life.
However, they can also be one of the worst hurdles in your way if they are of the unhelpful type.
Bad advice can set you back immensely, while good advice can propel you forward.
But how do we recognize the difference and decide which advice to take and which not?
A big part of that is to be confident in your own intuition and competence.
You have to trust yourself to tell the good advice from the bad. And you have to be confident enough to dare to go against given advice and follow your own gut.
If you always follow the first advice you get, you need a confidence boost.
9. Your inner talk consists out of a lot of ‘can’t,’ ‘don’t,’ ‘won’t,’ ‘never,’ and negative words
Our mind is often our worst enemy. Many of us are incredibly self-deprecating and hurtful in a way we wouldn’t ever be to others.
Do you find yourself thinking many thoughts along the lines of ‘of course, I can’t do that,’ ‘I never get it right anyway,‘ ‘I should have known I won’t ever make it,’ ‘I don’t deserve wealth‘?
Your negative self-talk expresses your insecurities and doubts. It’s clear you need a confidence boost if you talk yourself down often.
10. You are embarrassed if you make mistakes in front of others
Failing is a part of life, and there is no success and growth without some failure along the way.
Therefore, there is little sense in feeling embarrassed about mundane mistakes as long as you learn from them.
Few people will judge you for a mistake you made because chances are they either didn’t even notice or have stumbled in a similar way once.
And the few people who will judge you clearly have enough issues of their own which is why they rather focus on other people’s shortcomings.
Confident people know this and see every mistake as a chance for improvement and a stepping stone to a better life.
11. You wonder whether you are confident or not
Self-awareness and self-assessment are important.
But you shouldn’t be doubting your own confidence regularly.
Confident people don’t despair over whether or not they are indeed confident.
They assess their confidence once in a while and feel assured in this assessment.
So if you keep doubting the extend of your own confidence, it could be a subconscious sign that you need a confidence boost.
How about you? Do you need a confidence boost?
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Until next time! Stay confident!
