Personal Development

Putting things off is not only unnecessary but also sabotaging your success. It’s time you learn how to stop procrastinating. 

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Definition: What does procrastination mean? 

Procrastination means putting things off in favor of other, less important tasks, even though you could accomplish them immediately. 

It wastes immense amounts of time and causes unnecessary stress. 

Often times people only manage to overcome the urge to procrastinate if the urgency and stress of delaying the task hit a certain threshold. 

By then, they have already wasted far too much time. 

That’s why it’s so important to nip procrastination in the bud as soon as possible. 

Here are some tips. 

How to stop procrastinating:

1. Turn off all notifications

One of the main procrastination triggers nowadays is the constant bombardment with information even when we are not looking for them. 

Notifications are the prime example. They pop up while we are working on a task, catch our attention, and if we don’t have a steel tight grip on our self-discipline they suck us into a maze of distractions. 

And sure, you might argue that you need these notifications to be aware of important messages. 

But be honest, how often was there really a life and death situation that you needed to be aware of right this instant, and how often could you have waited a couple hours without any drastic repercussions? 

Any and all notifications you receive are much more damaging to your productivity than they are helpful to your social life. 

So if you finally want to overcome your laziness, you need to turn those ‘pings’ and vibrations off. 

2. Keep a tally of every hour you spend without falling back on your typical distractions

Keeping a tally or creating a streak is a great motivator to stop procrastinating. 

Apps like ‘Forest’ or a visual streak you keep on a notepad help you build that momentum and keep you engaged during those first few weeks of overcoming your laziness. 

Remember, procrastination is a habit that you can break. After all, you do manage to stop putting things off once the stress gets too much. 

You just need to replace that daunting stress with a more positive motivator to get things done. 

3. Dedicate specific places to your work and your distractions 

Both bad and good habits are easily triggered by certain environments.

For example, if you spend much of your phone time scrolling through Instagram, you will want to open the app whenever you pick up your phone. 

On the other hand, if you have an office or a specific table that you use exclusively for studying, you will find yourself quickly focused as soon as you sit there. 

Use this knowledge and create triggers that will benefit you. 

For example, if you have a tablet and a laptop, you might want to dedicate the tablet exclusively to distractive activities such as Insta, YouTube, or Games. But, on the other hand, your computer should be solely used for work purposes. 

You could also rearrange or redecorate your desk depending on what you wish to do there. 

You could also wear a certain pair of glasses whenever you wish to go into ‘nerd-mode.’ 

There are honestly endless possibilities that you should play around with. 

This fun method can truly help you to stop procrastinating. 

4.Set realistic expectations 

If you have unrealistic expectations, you will end up disappointing yourself repeatedly. 

How are you supposed to get motivated to tackle your to-do list if you already know you won’t be able to get it all done?

This creates a spiral into procrastination. 

Don’t make that mistake; instead, set no more than three achievable goals for the day. 

Should you get them done earlier, I am sure you’ll easily find other things to fill your time. 

5. Start small

Overwhelm is one of the biggest triggers for procrastination. If we don’t know where to start, it is only natural not to start at all.

To combat this tendency, you should break down your tasks into the smallest actions you can take to get closer to your goal.

For example, you might struggle to do your daily workout. No problem! Let’s commit to putting on your sportswear first. Done that? Great! You are allowed to pat yourself on the back. 

Next, let’s roll out your workout mat and sit down. Done? Alright!

Then how about finding a suitable workout video on YouTube. After that, aim to complete the first exercise and, if you’d like, maybe the second. 

And once you feel like you can’t keep going, do just one more to feel extra proud of yourself. 

And that’s it! You’ve overcome the urge to procrastinate one tiny step at a time. Congrats!

6. Use an accountability buddy 

Procrastination is mostly broken when bad feelings about putting something off hit a threshold. 

An accountability buddy can help you reach that threshold much sooner, drastically decreasing your procrastination time. 

Traditionally, an accountability buddy is a friend who checks on you and keeps you responsible. 

However, you can also make people your accountability buddies without them knowing. 

Just declaring your goal to get something done by a certain date to others will make you fear embarrassing yourself in front of them. In an urge to avoid this embarrassment, you will pick up your slack and get things done. 

This declaration can be especially powerful if you dare to do it in front of a whole crowd, for example, through social media. 

7. Use the 5-second-rule

You know exactly what you need to do. Don’t even pretend you don’t. 

You don’t end up doing these things because you allow yourself to contemplate if you should do it now or later. 

The longer you allow this indecisiveness to go on, the harder it will be to make the uncomfortable but better choice. 

Why are you making your life so hard? 

All this time you spend contemplating the ‘when’ and ‘how’ you could already be making progress towards finishing the task. 

That’s why Mel Robbins’ 5-second-rule is so powerful. 

The five seconds you spend counting down between realizing you should do something and actually doing it are not nearly enough time to lose yourself in a spiral of indecision. 

Before you know it, you will already be kneedeep in the task, and at that point, it takes far more energy to stop than to finish up. 

8. Do the most daunting task first

My favorite way of procrastination is doing something else work-related, even though it is not nearly as important as the task I should actually do. 

That way, I avoid feeling lazy. However, it doesn’t keep the panic at bay once the pressure rises on my procrastinated task. 

Don’t allow yourself this kind of pseudo-productivity. 

Instead, force yourself to do the most uncomfortable and disliked task as soon as possible. 

9. Organize to avoid overwhelm

Another thing that can lead to you putting things off is a feeling of overwhelm. After all, not tackling a task is much easier than trying to figure out how to unravel a confusing mess. 

In those cases, it can be worth it to take some time beforehand to bring order into the situation. 

You need to identify the urgency and importance of the task and your first step. 

For example, writing your Bachelor thesis is very important but depending on how early you start, not very urgent yet. 

Your first task could be to read about the topic so that you can create a rough outline for your work. 

Now, you can get started more easily. 

10. Just get started!

One group of people – besides the perpetual lazy – that often end up procrastinating are the perfectionists.

In their quest to do everything perfectly, they plan and prepare and research and, in the end, waste all their time doing anything but the important things. 

This might apply to you without you even realizing it. 

So, force yourself to get started as soon as you have an idea for what you should do first.

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Do you think these tips will help you to finally stop procrastinating?

If you are ready to sit down and hustle, comment ‘Let’s Get it!’ below. 

Until next time, Felicity Seeker!

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Students are often short on time and can benefit greatly from time management tips for students. Here are 9 ideas on how to manage your time better.

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The importance of time management

Why is time management so important for students? First of all, time is your most important asset.

You can always get more money, connections, or skills, but you can never gain more time. 

Once time is spent, there is no getting it back. And especially in the age of on-demand distractions, it is infuriatingly easy to have time run meaninglessly through your fingers. 

Students can hardly afford all this wasted time. Instead, they constantly have deadlines; they need to organize their study schedule, social life, and hobbies while finding their place in the world. 

The older they get, the more responsibilities pile up, which requires increasingly skilled time management. 

If you don’t learn how to manage your time effectively while in school or college, you will struggle quite a bit once you have a job and a flat to manage. 

Time Management Tips For Students

1. Use a planner

This is probably the most commonly used tip for time management, and with good reason!

Keeping a planner and visually drawing out your tasks and appointments for the day, week and month have many benefits. 

Firstly, it makes it less likely that you will forget anything important. Of course, you might argue that you’ve never forgotten anything before because you have a great memory. 

But frankly, life tends to be chaotic and unpredictable; one day, you will forget something. At least make an effort to decrease that likelihood as much as possible. 

2. Anticipate delays and leave room for error 

No matter how well you plan, it isn’t easy to anticipate how long something will take. 

That’s why you should always leave room for a buffer between one scheduled task and the next. 

3. Work smarter, not harder

Working harder is not the solution to everything. But, more often than not, far better results can be achieved by working smarter instead. 

I recommend looking at the tasks you have to do most often and finding ways to do them quickly without sacrificing quality. 

This change could mean switching to digital flashcards instead of physical ones, or maybe ditching this one lecture and reading the extensive script instead. 

Play around with different options and see what works best. 

You will never know how to manage your time better unless you try it out and compare the results. 

4. Count your losses

Sometimes, managing your time better means ditching tasks altogether. 

When taking up a new task as a student, you should not do it simply because everyone recommends it and because it seems beneficial. 

You should only dedicate time to this task if the results are worth the costs. 

In other words, reading this 600 pages of the textbook might provide you with all the relevant information for the exam. However, reading much more will give you the most important information while freeing up enough time to do practice tests. 

Working smarter is about finding an alternative that is at least 1% better in its costs/rewards ratio than you did before. 

5.Utilize task patching 

Another great way to manage your time is by doing similar tasks in one go. 

Of course, you can’t apply this principle to things like studying or working out. For example, one 5-hour study or workout session can’t substitute for five days of repetition. 

But it makes much more sense to clean the house in one go instead of spreading the task out over days. 

6. Take advantage of ‘mindless’ tasks 

By now, you’ve probably heard that multitasking is supposedly not real. So when we multitask, we rapidly shift our attention from one task to the next. 

This statement is much too generalized, though. It’s not so much multitasking that’s the problem and much more multi-focusing. 

We simply can’t give two tasks an equal amount of focus at once. All we can do is switch back and forth. 

However, multitasking is possible as long as one of the tasks is mindless and doesn’t require focus. 

Most often, that’s the case with tasks that rely on muscle memory (e. g. brushing your teeth, tying your shoes, cooking your favorite meal, walking, etc.) 

Combining these mindless tasks with another activity is a great way to manage your time better. 

For example, you could listen to podcasts while cooking or driving a car. You could also watch your favorite series while you work out or eat. 

Or you could listen to an online lecture while taking a walk. 

If done right, multitasking can save you a lot of time. If done wrong, you will have to do these tasks twice because the first time wasn’t done well. 

Of course, you should also remember that multitasking is the bane of mindfulness, so if you strive to be more mindful in everything you do, then multitasking might not be for you.

8. Work past the crowd

You can save an immense amount of time if you avoid rush hours. 

Driving to school or university an hour earlier can reduce your driving time by 50%, and you can spend that additional time on campus studying what would have been left at the end of the day. 

Similarly, it makes sense to avoid the library when it is especially busy, or you might not even get the books you need or a desk to work at. 

That’s also why waking up early can be very beneficial. You have all this time for yourself to get work done without others interrupting you. 

Make sure to take advantage of student life’s flexibility and manage your time accordingly. 

9. Set yourself deadlines

The last time management tip for students is setting yourself deadlines. 

I have often noticed that I get things done much quicker than before as soon as there is a bit of pressure because of an approaching deadline. 

Often, we stretch out tasks for as long as we’re given time to accomplish them. 

If you have to write that essay in two weeks, it will take you two weeks. If you had to write it in two days, you’d find a way to do so. 

That’s the power of deadlines. So they get us moving and save us much time. 

Of course, it’s hard to take self-imposed deadlines seriously. One trick that might help is declaring this deadline to an accountability buddy.

The fear of disappointing them or embarrassing yourself will light a small fire under your ass. 

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These were all of the time management tips for students.

What was your favorite time management tip, and how do you manage your time as a student? 

We’d love to hear any advice you have to share with us.

Until next time, Felicity Seeker! 

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Working without focus wastes a lot of time. If you want to succeed in life, you need to be able to concentrate. Here are tips on how to focus on a goal.

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What does focused mean?

First things first: What does it even mean to be focused? 

Being focused means directing all of your attention to a certain task. 

Someone who is focused achieves work at a high quality and in less time because their mind stays on the task to the exclusion of all other distractions. 

You’ve heard many people say that nobody can truly multitask; what we see as multitasking is quickly switching your focus from one task to another. 

That’s not entirely true. Multitasking is possible if one of the tasks you act on can be done mindlessly. For example, brushing your teeth or tying your shoes are tasks that require barely any focus at all because you’ve got them deeply imprinted into muscle memory. 

Therefore you can direct the vast majority of your focus onto another moderately challenging task simultaneously. 

This also makes one thing very clear: The more challenging a task is, the more intensely you need to focus on it to get it done. 

Why can’t I focus?

The overlaying reason is, plainly said, a lack of practice.

Or rather too much practice with the wrong thing.

We practice being unfocused every time we switch apps when we are bored, when we reach for our phone while waiting in line, and when we search for memes while trying to study.

We’ve practiced our lack of attention so much that we’ve become incredibly good at it.

So it’s not surprising that we struggle so much when trying to stay focused.

We are simply not used to it.

The following tips are supposed to help you start building the skill of focus.

But ultimately, you must keep practicing it as much as possible for it to become easy.

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Tips on how to stay focused

1. Make it a clear priority

Many of us have long to-do lists and always complain about how there isn’t enough time in the day to get it all done. 

But the truth is, there is plenty of time in the day. But, curiously, a minority of successful people get much more done than most in the roughly 16 hours we have at our disposal. 

Why is that? What are they doing differently? 

Well, first and foremost, they set clear and unwavering priorities. 

If they declare meditation a priority, they get it done no matter what other spontaneous tasks present themself that day. 

Sacrificing their priority for the day doesn’t even cross their mind. Instead, they sacrifice the things that are low on their list of priorities (e. g., finishing that series or cleaning out the wardrobe). 

If you want to be able to focus on a goal, the first thing you need to do is declare it an unwavering priority for the day. 

2. Have a notebook near to dump all stray thoughts that distract you 

Just because you’ve set your priorities straight doesn’t mean you won’t encounter stray thoughts related to other responsibilities. 

Staying focused on your current task can be incredibly difficult if you suddenly remember that you must prepare something for the next day. 

The best method to deal with these unwanted mental intrusions is to write them down. 

Writing a quick note will calm you down and release the thought from your mind as you know you’ll be able to remember it later.

3. Clear your mind before you get started

Focusing on a goal while your mind is running a million miles an hour about what happened during the day is a lost battle. 

You need mental clarity for any focus to happen. 

Meditation can help you to clear your mind. Even as little as five minutes can go a long way. Also, the better you meditate, the quicker you’ll be able to clear your mind. 

Furthermore, yoga and walking through nature can also get your mind to slow down enough to stay focused later on.

4. Avoid your usual distractors

You know yourself the best. What are the things that usually distract you from your goals? 

For example, if you tend to get really obsessed with Anime, you should consider not starting a new Anime until you’ve accomplished the goal you are focusing on. 

In the end, you need to decide between what’s more important to you: Short-lived fun or focusing on what you want.

5. Listen to binaural beats, lofi or white noise

Binaural beats, lo-fi tracks, or white noise can help you focus while working on a task. 

They are especially useful if you pursue your goal in a noisy environment. 

However, at least for binaural beats, you need to wear headphones, which will hinder you from thinking aloud. 

Simply find what works best for you. 

6. Surround yourself with reminders of your goal 

You know the saying: Out of sight out of mind. 

The opposite is true as well. The more reminders you see of something, the more this thing will occupy your mind. 

This also makes the difference in how entrepreneurs view the world vs. ordinary people. 

The latter complain that they never come across good business opportunities. At the same time, the former surround themself with books, podcasts, videos, and people who remind them to look for opportunities everywhere; therefore, entrepreneurs find them everywhere. 

You should use this principle for whatever goal you are pursuing. 

Make sure to surround yourself with books, podcasts, videos, and vision boards on the topic. Have a reminder of it wherever you go. 

7. Visualize your goal as you fall asleep 

Our mind uses dreams to process our experiences of the day. 

If you think about and visualize your goals while falling asleep, your mind will spend more time going through this information at night. 

And throughout human history, many great things such as famous songs and important discoveries have been prompted by dreams. 

So make sure you use this tool as well. 

8. Schedule free time

Maximizing the focus on your goal is important. But it also takes a lot of energy. 

Therefore you need to have downtime, or your focus will crash when you need it the most. 

So make sure to include a bit of space for mindless activities in your day. 

9. Focus on your WHY

If the WHY is big enough, humans can accomplish next to anything. 

We see it repeatedly when refugees flee a war-torn country or when a mother saves her child from an impossible situation. 

The greater your WHY, the less discipline and motivation you need to focus on a goal.

Of course, we inevitably have to pursue many moderately exciting goals for us at best. 

But even then, you can improve the situation a lot by clearly pointing out your WHY whenever you struggle to stay focused. 

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That’s it. Do you have any additional tips on how to focus on a goal that you’d like to share with your fellow boss babes? 

If you are determined to up-level your focus in life, comment ‘FOCUSED!’ down below. 

Until next time, Felicity Seeker!

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Life is one big adventure full of exciting milestones to reach. Here are 44 examples of life goals you should consider pursuing and celebrating. 

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What are goals?

Goals are dreams with a plan. 

Many people fantasize and daydream about their desire to quit their job, have a sportscar, travel first-class, or meet their soulmate. But that’s about all they do. 

They don’t go through the effort to actually lay out a well-thought-out plan on how to make this desire a reality. 

And because they don’t turn this desire into a goal, it rarely becomes more than a distant dream. 

How to set a goal?

The internet is full of tips on how to set goals so that you actually manage to achieve them. 

Frankly, I feel like all this advice on how to set a goal is used as procrastination on the actual achievement of said goals. 

We should all spend much less time fretting about the how. Instead, we should simply get started and figure things out as we go. 

One rather famous tip is to set S.M.A.R.T goals. 

• Specific
• Measurable
• Attainable
• Realistic
• Timed

I agree that the goal should be attainable and realistic. Afterall, there is little sense in setting yourself the short-term goal of earning $1 million a month if you can’t even imagine yourself earning $10.000 any time soon. 

That being said, you can still set yourself outrageous long-term goals as long as you spend the meantime focussing on attainable short-term goals. 

These attainable short-term goals will keep you motivated so that, step by step, you can close in on your long-term goal. 

Life goals to set for yourself:

I divided the examples of life goals into categories that I feel represent the different facets of life. 

Work Goals

1. Graduating from school

2. Starting college/university

3. Doing an internship 

4. Getting your college degree

5. Getting your first job

6. Receiving your first paycheck. 

7. Getting promoted/finding a better job

8. Getting a doctorate

9. Getting publicly acknowledged for your work

10. Becoming an expert in your field

11. Leaving your job to go full time in your side hustle

Social Goals

12. Having your first (meaningful) kiss

13. Going on your first date

14. Being in a serious relationship

15. Celebrating your first Valentine’s Day as a couple 

16. Traveling as a couple to a romantic destination

17. Moving in together

18. Getting engaged

19. Getting married

20. Becoming parents

21. Having a sleepover with a friend

22. Having had a friend for a decade 

23. Traveling with a friend

Personal Growth Goals

24. Going on a spiritual retreat

25. Finding a good therapist

26. Hiring your first coach

27. Reading 100 personal development books

28. Falling in love with meditation

29. Being able to formulate a clear purpose/mission statement

30. Learning the art of lucid dreaming

31. Accomplishing everything on my vision board

32. Learning to juggle with 3/4/5 balls 

33. Becoming a yogi

Contribution Goals

34. Donating every month for a year

35. Helping to build a house for the poor

36. Providing 100 meals for the less fortunate

37. Working in an animal shelter for at least two weeks

38. Donating 5% of your income 

39. Publishing 100 pieces of free content (Blog posts, Fanfictions, YouTube videos, etc.)

Health Goals

40. Maintaining clear skin

41. Running a marathon

42. Working out 5 days a week for a year 

43. Adjusting to a vegan/vegetarian nutrition 

44. Achieving a toned body

Well, what do you think of these life goals? How many of them have you already accomplished, and which one are you attempting to accomplish next?

Make sure to not only set long-term goals like the ones above. Instead, take the time to set daily, weekly and monthly goals as well!

That way you won’t lose the motivation for your long-term goals. 

As always, we’d love to hear your thoughts on the topic. 

Until next time, Felicity Seeker!

Let me introduce you to the 55 x 5 manifestation technique. This tool will make your law of attraction practice more exciting. 

It’s like a new and fun game you get to play while simultaneously manifesting your dream life. 

But for this technique to work, you first need to understand what exactly it is and how it functions. 

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What is the 55 x 5 manifestation technique?

The rules for the 55 x 5 manifestation technique are incredibly simple.

First, create or choose a positive affirmation geared towards the goal you wish to reach or a reality you want to manifest. 

Affirmations are written in the present tense and only contain positive statements. For example: “I am productive!” (-> Instead of “I won’t procrastinate!”)

Once you have your positive affirmation ready, you need to write it down 55 times a day for five days. 

I’d recommend doing it in the morning after waking up, as that’s the time the affirmation will stick to your mind the most. 

Thirdly, as you write it down, you need to truly feel the energy of the message. 

This means that if you write ‘I have clear skin,’ you should be able to envision your skin clear of any redness and bumps. Imagine how it would feel to run your hand over the smooth skin. 

That’s the feeling and image you should keep in mind as you write your lines.

And lastly, you need to release your desire and surrender it to the Universe. 

For most people, this is the most difficult part. After all, how do you release something that you want so badly?

In simple words: You need to stop feeling desperately impatient about your goal. Stop worrying about the how and the when. 

Instead, embrace the thought that things will work out perfectly one way or another, sooner or later.

And that’s it! That’s the 55 x 5 manifestation technique. Pretty straightforward, right?

How does the 55 x 5 tool work?

Let’s clear something up. The 55 x 5 manifestation tool is not some magic pill that will suddenly make your manifestations come true. 

It doesn’t replace the regular law of attraction tips and rules you’ve learned so far. 

Instead, it provides you with a daily task to help you embody the energy you need to achieve the outcome you wish to attract. 

That’s really all there is to it. 

This sadly means that if you’ve always struggled to change your energetic vibrations, this tool might not make much of a difference for you, either. 

In the end, the 55 x 5 technique is just a different way to practice the same loa methods. 

Other manifestation tools

Of course, the 55 x 5 method is just one of many manifestation tools you can use to attract your dream life. 

No manifestation tool is inherently better than others; its effectiveness always depends on the user. 

If the 55 x 5 method gets you to really feel your new reality and adopt a higher vibration, then you should definitely use it. 

However, should you not feel aligned with this tool, there are a few others you can try out: 

1. Scripting – Imagine your goal finally manifested today; write a diary entry of what you think and feel now that it is here.
2. Play-acting – While going through the day, act as if you’ve already manifested your goal, e. g. Imagine walking through your very own apartment instead of your parent’s house. 
3. Visualizing – Close your eyes and daydream as vividly as possible about how your manifestation arrives.
4. The Cup Method – The cup full of water represents your current reality; as you pour the water into the other cup, imagine your reality changing into what you want it to be.
5. Burning paper – Write your manifestation on a piece of paper and (safely!!!) burn it. As it perishes, release your desire into the hands of the Universe. 

Well, do you intend to try the 55 x 5 manifestation technique? If so, what are you trying to manifest with it? 

As always, we’d love to hear from you!

Until next time, Felicity Seeker!