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9 Signs You Won’t Achieve Your Goals (Success Blockers)

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Embarking on a journey towards your goals is exhilarating, but it’s crucial to recognize the potential roadblocks that could hinder your success. In this guide, we unveil 11 signs that might be holding you back from achieving your dreams. Identifying these success blockers is the first step toward overcoming them and forging a path toward your aspirations.

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1. You don’t truly desire your goals

Many people set goals halfheartedly. They want to stop smoking or start working out because that’s what you’re supposed to do, right? Too many people set goals that they think would be ‘nice to have’ and not ‘F#CK YES! I want that!’. 

If you are already undecided if you really want to achieve this goal then it is no wonder if you’ll give up on it somewhere along the way. 

You should only set goals that you truly want. Sometimes it’s not the end result that you desire but you want to avoid the penalty that comes from not accomplishing a goal. Nobody likes to hold presentations in class, but they hate a failing grade even more. 

Until you have found a big enough WHY for your goals, you will have a hard time pushing through the boring and uncomfortable times. 

2. You spend hours upon hours planning

Plans are important. You won’t arrive at a destination if you don’t know in which direction you need to go. Or you will arrive but far later and more strenuous than necessary. 

So yes, you should definitely have a plan on how to accomplish your goals. However, there is such a thing as too much planning. You can plan on how you’ll build a business as much as you want, if you don’t put in the actual work you won’t succeed at it. 

In fact, you most likely need far less planning than you think. All that’s really needed is to figure out the first small step necessary in achieving your goal. After you’ve taken that step you can think about what to do next. But act first! 

Successful people are not the ones with the most intricate plans for success. They stand out by being the people who take the most action no matter how messy it might be. 

3. You wait for the perfect time

Spoiler alert: There is no perfect time. Sure, it can be justified to postpone a new project until you are done with finals week or other stressful times in your life. However, with every day you keep waiting for the perfect time, it becomes less likely you will get started at all. 

That initial motivation and inspiration will slowly fade away bit by bit. And if you actually do get started on that perfect day, you will soon realize that things are still not as perfect as you hoped for them to be. 

Call it perfectionism or procrastination, either way waiting for the perfect time is a sure sign that you won’t achieve your goals. 

4. You talk more about your goals than you spend working on them

You can’t talk your goals into existence. Talking about them might make you feel all inspired and good about your future but it won’t actually get you any closer to making it a reality. 

​All that time you spend talking about your goal is time you could have been working on it. And the more time you waste between setting a goal and working on it, the less likely it will be that you accomplish it.

5. Your first step towards achieving the goal is too big

Most people get this huge motivational boost when they set new goals. Let’s say the goal is getting ripped. Full of motivation they go to the gym on the first day and do a one-hour workout. Unsurprisingly, they are far less motivated on the second day, after a week or after a month. Because let’s be real, going from nothing to working out for one hour a day is a huge step. Why don’t you make your first step something easy and fun? Your first step should be something you can stick with for a long time without much effort. 

​The bigger the tasks you set yourself, the less likely you are to accomplish them. 

6. You spend more time imagining things going wrong than turning out great

Mindset matters. Many successful people claim that mindset is 80% of success and strategy only 20% of it. The exact percentages are not important. What is important is that your mindset can either boost or hinder your success. If you spend more time imagining things going wrong than turning out right, then guess what results you will get.

7. You have no plan at all for what it takes to achieve this goal 

We have already mentioned that overplanning is bad. Well, no planning is equally as bad. You need at least a rough idea of what is needed to accomplish a goal. Otherwise, you will waste your time working on ineffective things and without any results of your hard work your motivation will dwindle away. 

8. You often think: If only there were more hours in a day.

If you are bad at managing your time with your current commitments, how do you expect you’ll do with an additional goal on top of that? Most people waste much time during the day on useless activities. All that time could go into working towards your goal. 

9. You spend a lot of time thinking about your ‘Plan B’

While the ‘burning all your bridges’ method works, it is a tad extreme. Having a plan B isn’t detrimental to your success, as long as it is nothing more than a fleeting thought in the back of your mind. As soon as you find yourself thinking about your Plan B on a daily basis, you should get worried that your Plan A will fail. 

Now that we’ve shed light on these common success blockers, remember that awareness is your greatest ally. Use these insights to navigate the road ahead, adapting and evolving as needed. Don’t let these signs be roadblocks; instead, let them be stepping stones towards a more resilient and successful you.

Living Exceptionally: 7 Habits That Make A Difference 

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Welcome, dear readers, to a journey of self-discovery and empowerment. In the hustle and bustle of life, it’s easy to lose sight of our true potential. In this blog post, we’ll delve into the realm of exceptional living, exploring eleven transformative habits that have the power to elevate your daily existence. Whether you’re seeking personal growth, professional success, or a deeper sense of fulfillment, these habits will guide you toward unlocking the extraordinary within.

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1. Take your calendar to the next level

At one point or another, we have all used a planner of some kind. Few of us, however, are meticulous in our planning. And why should we? Isn’t it enough to mark down important appointments and events and maybe keep a to-do list on the side? You have managed to get it all done so far, why should you bother with scheduling all of your daily tasks into a calendar? 

There are two benefits to keeping a calendar: 

  • The first one is obvious. Detailed scheduling will prevent you from forgetting things. I don’t mean big or repetitive things like doctor appointments or a lecture. While keeping a calendar does help us remember those tasks, they are not usually the ones we forget anyway. The tasks we forget are the small and not-so-important ones. Little things, like watering your plants, cleaning the kitchen, doing a monthly review of your goals, cleaning your shoes, etc. How often have you found yourself remembering those little tasks at the end of the day, cursing that you forgot to do them again? 
  • The second benefit is that scheduling tasks makes us accomplish more. How often during the day do you consider what to do next? Pretty often probably. Should I study this topic first or create some new flashcards? Maybe I should answer my emails now and write that blog post later. All these decisions make us lose valuable time. It also costs us more self-discipline to sit down and do an odious task if we could be doing it later. If you are someone who feels like the day doesn’t have enough hours, you should give Google Calendar or whatever calendar you use a chance. 

I can already hear you thinking the same things I used to think: But I am really bad at predicting how long something will take. My schedule wouldn’t work anyway! And I want to be spontaneous at times or else I feel too restricted. 

The simple solution for predicting the time it will take you to accomplish a task is: practice. The more often you try and gauge how long something takes, the better you’ll get at it. In addition to that, schedule buffer time before and after every single task. If something unexpected happens or if the previous task takes longer, then you’re still on schedule. 

Should a task take less time than anticipated, fall back onto a default activity. That could be reading a book, meditating, or taking a walk. Just make sure that you don’t start scrolling through social media and then forget about the time. 

2. Give yourself slightly stressful deadlines 

Tasks take as long as the time you provide for them. If you start to write your essay a week before the deadline, chances are it will take you a couple of days to finish it. However, if you were to start it the day before the deadline, you’d most likely hustle until you have it finished within a day. 

And yes, there is probably a difference in quality between those two essays. And all-nighters are of course not a permanent solution. However, this extreme example was only supposed to get the point across that work seems to expand to the amount of time we allow it to take. 

The key is to find the sweet spot between giving yourself enough time to deliver quality work but not enough time that you are completely relaxed and perfectionistic. 

Finding that sweet spot gets easier the more often you do a task. The first time you write an essay in a new subject, you’ll likely severely underestimate how long it is going to take. And that’s ok, you don’t need to be perfectly efficient in everything that you do. The important thing is that you’ll try to do better next time. That’s how you’ll live an exceptional life. 

3. Spend at least as much time creating as consuming

If you want to live an exceptional life you have to make it a habit to always be creating things. As a podcaster or blogger, this can mean creating content, as a programmer it can be programming, as a lawyer it can be writing a compelling civil complaint, or if you want to earn a passive income it might be taking feet pics. 

The point is that mindless consumption rarely brings us forward in life. Sure, everybody should’ve some relaxation in their day. And if for you that means Netflix, Instagram, or the cinema, then go for it! 

However, you should ask yourself what you do more in your free time: Consuming or creating? If you get into the habit of spending more time creating than consuming, your life will elevate bit by bit without you even noticing it, at first. 

4. Say Yes to Things that Scare You

I recently started working towards my second law degree and let me tell you everything about it is a step outside my comfort zone. (To give you a bit of background: To become a lawyer, judge, etc. in Germany, you need two degrees. The first one you get from University, the second one at the end of an apprenticeship, where you work with judges, prosecutors, and attorneys).

Sure, writing exams has always been stressful too. But at least you are used to that kind of stress since you’ve started school. But now, I am confronted with having to deal with freaking long court files, writing verdicts, leading a court trial, and doing other kinds of public speaking. So yes, MAJOR step outside my comfort zone! 

But, as a result of having been pushed beyond comfort for a couple of months now, I feel like I have grown at an IMMENSE pace. Things that would have scared me half a year ago feel doable now. 

My comfort zone has expanded because I said yes to the opportunities that scared me, even though I didn’t have to. There were multiple times I could have chosen an easier task but I knew that I would benefit more from doing the harder one, so went with that. 

Saying yes to things that scare you is the best way to elevate your life at an incredible speed. Scared of starting a podcast? Do it anyway! Scared of investing your money? Do research and start small but get started!

5. Do one thing at a time as a rule; Multitask as an exception

As we have already established, leading an exceptional life means being efficient with how you use your time. Multitasking can be a great help for that. You can listen to a podcast while cooking, watch the news while working out, or meditate during your red light therapy. 

However, it’s important to realize that multitasking is only beneficial if one of the tasks is a passive one. The brain can’t do two highly demanding tasks at the same time. For example, if you are doing something and someone asks you a difficult question you automatically stop moving to answer that question. 

That’s why multitasking shouldn’t be the rule but the exception. 

Stop skipping back and forth between tasks. Don’t do a little bit of your homework here and a few flashcards there. You will get so much faster done if do one task at a time. And take it a step further than that. Do the different questions or exercises in your homework in exactly the order they are presented. You have to solve them all anyway. So do them in order because way too often there is a reason for that order and you are only going to make your life harder by ignoring it.  

6. Be intentional about everything that you do

Most people are intentional about their good habits. In other words, they know exactly why they are doing a certain habit and they intentionally make time for this habit. 

But what about all the other things in life that don’t qualify as a good habit? Do you ever spend time thinking about what it means for your future if you spend an hour on social media if you stay awake past your bedtime, or if you drive instead of walking? 

I know this sounds silly. Driving instead of walking once isn’t going to ruin your life and neither is scrolling through social media. But the thing is, you are most likely not just doing it once or twice. Have you ever considered what impact these seemingly unimportant daily actions can compound to? Have you ever wondered if that is the kind of person you want to be? 

It is incredibly difficult to be intentional about everything that you do. In fact, it’s highly impractical to question every little daily action. 

Instead, keep your eyes and ears open. Every time you come across someone doing something differently compared to you, spend some time and reconsider. Why are you doing things a certain way? Could you do it differently? How would it impact your life in a few years from now if you do it one way or another? 

If make it a habit to be this intentional about everything that you do, you will soon find a big difference in the quality of your life. 

7. Have multifaceted goals

Short periods of hyper-focus on work or school can be necessary during finals time or the launch of a new product. 

But this sort of hyper-focus is not a healthy mindset to maintain. There is more to life than work. You need to be on top of all of life’s areas to live exceptionally. All areas of life influence each other. If your health is in a pit, you won’t be able to perform well at work. If your career is at a low, you won’t have the financial means to make healthy living an easy choice. 

Another reason for multifaceted goals is that your work won’t always go well. Everything in life comes in seasons. Every high will have a low eventually. And in those moments you will be so very grateful that you have other things going for you. 

So, let’s do a quick check-in: 

  • Look at your calendar. What tasks have you got scheduled and in what area of life do they fall?
  • Think back on your manifestations. What do you try to manifest most often? 
  • Break up your week into three areas: Sleep, Work, and Free time. Do you spend significantly more time in one of those areas? 

As we wrap up this exploration of exceptional living, remember that small changes in daily habits can lead to remarkable transformations over time. Embrace the journey, savor the growth, and let these habits be your companions on the path to a more exceptional life. Share these insights with others, for in uplifting each other, we collectively contribute to a world where everyone has the tools to live exceptionally. 

Cheers to a life filled with purpose, joy, and the continuous pursuit of greatness!

22 Agree to Disagree Quotes (You Can’t Always Be Right!)

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Ever found yourself in a debate where agreement seems lightyears away? You’re not alone. It’s in these moments that the magic of “Agree to Disagree” quotes shines through. They’re like gentle reminders that disagreement doesn’t have to be a battlefield; it can be a dance, a journey to understanding. So, grab a seat, and let’s explore a treasure trove of quotes that celebrate the art of embracing diverse thoughts and finding beauty in dissent.

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Agree to Disagree Quotes

  1. “So each one of you agrees to disagree with whatever the other one agrees with, but if you both disagree with the same thing, aren’t you really in agreement?” – Norton Juster, The Phantom Tollbooth​
  2. “Agreeing to disagree’ isn’t license to hold hateful and condemning beliefs about me as though it doesn’t negatively impact our relationship.” – Jamie Arpin-Ricci​
  3. “Often after arguing about differing opinions, I hear people say, ‘let’s agree to disagree.’ I look forward to a time, so open-minded I’ll hear people say, ‘I’m right and you can be, too’” – Paula Heller Garland​
  4. “If you and someone you love have a difference of opinion on something, maybe its best to let it stay that way. Respect each other’s right to believe what you believe. Respect each other. Agree to disagree.” – Karen Kingsbury, Even Now​
  5. “We can agree to disagree, but we don’t need to be disagreeable.” – John Wooden​
  6. “Differences are not a failure of humanity, differences are a test of our humanity.” – Abhijit Naskar, Honor He Wrote: 100 Sonnets For Humans Not Vegetables
  7. “I disapprove of what you say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it.” – S.G. Tallentyre, The Friends of Voltaire​
  8. “Different roads sometimes lead to the same castle.” – George R.R. Martin, A Game of Thrones​
  9. “It’s okay to disagree with the thoughts or opinions expressed by other people. That doesn’t give you the right to deny any sense they might make.” – Ashly Lorenzana
  10. “I don’t have to agree with you to like you or respect you.” – Anthony Bourdain​
  11. “Jasnah had once defined a fool as a person who ignored information because it disagreed with desired results.” – Brandon Sanderson, Words of Radiance​
  12. “Truth does not become more true by virtue of the fact that the entire world agrees with it, nor less so even if the whole world disagrees with it.” – Maimonides, The Guide for the Perplexed​
  13. “He who cannot put his thoughts on ice should not enter into the heat of dispute.” – Friedrich Nietzsche, Human, All Too Human: A Book for Free Spirits​
  14. “What I tell young couples that are getting married is: you’re going to have quarrels, and on some things, you’re just going to have to agree to disagree. And when you go to bed at night, kiss each other and tell each other that you love each other. Don’t go to bed mad. Life is too short. Keep it simple.” – Si Robertson​
  15. “Our maturity will be judged by how well we are able to agree to disagree and yet continue to love one another, to care for one another, and cherish one another and seek the greater good of the other.” – Desmond Tutu​
  16. “My whole thing is to agree to disagree and to have respect because nothing can really be changed and you wouldn’t want to ruin their happiness – even if that happiness is ignorance.” – Katy Perry​
  17. “Some people have certain beliefs, and I have my own belief, and we can agree to disagree on certain things.” – Cam Newton​
  18. “We need a government, not politics. Because there’s too much politics. Of course there should be debate. But there seems to be so much pettiness and not enough good faith. It is civilized to agree to disagree, and this idea is slowly disintegrating. The great statesmen of the past knew this, and I think it helps drive civilization.” – Daphne Guinness​
  19. “You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.” – Regina Brett​
  20. ​“I am Catholic, I was raised Catholic, I am a practicing Catholic. But I say we need to agree to disagree. We have a shared mission around poverty, and I focus on that, because we do a lot with the Catholic Church around poverty alleviation. I’m always looking for: what is the common thread? What do we care about? What do we believe in? We believe in women around the world. We believe in all lives have equal value.” – Melinda Gates​
  21. ​“I believe that anarchists should agree to disagree but not to fight with each other.” – Murray Bookchin​
  22. ​“Negotiation in the classic diplomatic sense assumes parties more anxious to agree than to disagree.” – Dean Acheson​

As we wrap up our journey through these profound “Agree to Disagree” quotes, tell us which one was your favorite. Embracing the beauty of diverse perspectives doesn’t diminish the strength of our convictions; instead, it fortifies our understanding and enriches the tapestry of human connection. So, the next time opinions clash like thunderheads, recall these quotes and find solace in the shared recognition that, in disagreement, lies the potential for growth, understanding, and a more harmonious coexistence. After all, isn’t that the true essence of living and learning?

5 Signs You Need To Journal ASAP | Benefits Of Journaling

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Welcome to the transformative world of journaling! If you’ve ever felt the need to untangle your thoughts, reflect on your experiences, or simply capture the essence of your journey, you’re in the right place. In this blog post, we’ll delve into the unmistakable signs that scream, “Start journaling ASAP!” From moments of overwhelm to the desire for self-discovery, we’ve got you covered.

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Signs you Need to Journal ASAP

1. You feel like there are a million things you need to keep in mind

Life can be a whirlwind, and at times, it feels like you’re juggling a million things at once. When your mind becomes a bustling marketplace of ideas, tasks, and emotions, it might be the perfect moment to turn to journaling. Pouring these thoughts onto paper provides a tangible space to untangle the mental clutter, allowing you to gain clarity, prioritize tasks, and relieve the pressure of mental congestion.

2. You are nervous about an upcoming event or task

Tests, presentations, job interviews, doctor appointments, dates, travels, funeral, new schools, or weddings, there are many things we are anxious about throughout a year. When the butterflies in your stomach are on overdrive, signaling that an upcoming task is causing some pre-show jitters, it’s time to grab your journal and start penning down those nervous vibes. Writing about your apprehensions can help identify the root causes of your anxiety, allowing you to address and conquer them. As you put your concerns on paper, you might discover hidden strengths and coping mechanisms, turning nervousness into a tool for personal growth. 

3. You are increasingly annoyed at people 

Journaling is a great way to let off steam. You can just rage onto the page and write about all the things that annoy you about someone without having to worry about hurting their feelings. Holding in our feelings rarely ends well. Either, we end up miserable while we suppress them or they bubble out of us in hurtful words that can’t be taken back. So whether you are angry at your significant other, furious with you mother in law or frustrated with your boss, journal about your feelings until you feel level headed enough to deal with the topic in a constructive way.

If you are nervous about them ever reading this angry journal entry, just rip the pages into bits or burn it (safely). This can also serve as a symbolic act of releasing your anger. 

4. You have an important decision to make 

Significant decisions often come with a side dish of stress and uncertainty. Whether it’s choosing a career path, relocating, or making a major life change, journaling can be your compass in navigating these crossroads. 

Journaling doesn’t always have to be long essays or beautiful bullet journal pages. Sometimes, journaling can be a purely practical mishmash of pro and con lists with elaborations on your thoughts next to certain points. There is really no right or wrong way to go about journaling.

Writing down your thoughts and feelings about the decision at hand provides a structured way to explore options, weigh pros and cons, and tap into your intuition. It’s like consulting a trusted friend who patiently listens as you work through your thoughts, helping you arrive at a decision that aligns with your values and aspirations.

5. You are close to New Year’s/your birthday/graduation

Milestones and transitions are times of reflection, anticipation, and sometimes, a touch of anxiety. Whether you’re on the brink of a new year, celebrating another trip around the sun, or donning a cap and gown, journaling offers a meaningful way to capture these moments. Documenting your thoughts, goals, and aspirations as you approach these milestones creates a personal time capsule. It allows you to track your growth, acknowledge achievements, and set intentions for the next chapter, making your journey more intentional and memorable.You can significantly accelerate your personal development, if you are intentional about it instead of just letting life happen to you. 

BONUS: Gift Ideas For Journaling Fans

  1. Customized Leather Journal: Consider gifting a high-quality leather journal with their name or a personal message engraved. This not only adds a touch of elegance but also makes the journal uniquely theirs. Leather journals often age beautifully, creating a keepsake they’ll cherish.
  2. Inspiration-filled Journaling Prompts Book: Help spark their creativity and self-reflection with a book of journaling prompts. Choose one with a variety of prompts, from introspective questions to imaginative scenarios. It’s a fantastic way to inspire their writing and encourage a deeper exploration of their thoughts.
  3. Luxurious Pen Set: Elevate their writing experience with a set of luxurious pens. Whether it’s a classic fountain pen or a modern, beautifully crafted ballpoint pen, a high-quality writing instrument can make the act of journaling even more enjoyable.
  4. Guided Journal for Specific Goals: Opt for a guided journal tailored to a specific interest or goal. There are journals designed for gratitude, mindfulness, travel, or even career planning. Choose one that aligns with their passions, helping them channel their thoughts in a focused and purposeful way.
  5. Journaling Workshop or Class: Consider gifting them an opportunity to enhance their journaling skills with a workshop or class. Many online platforms offer courses on creative writing, journaling techniques, and self-discovery through writing. It’s a unique and enriching gift for someone passionate about journaling.

As we conclude this exploration into the world of journaling, remember that the power to shape your narrative lies in your hands. Embrace the therapeutic benefits, the self-reflection, and the journey of self-discovery that journaling offers. Don’t wait for the perfect moment; let each entry be a step towards understanding yourself better. Happy journaling!

7 Life Lessons From Netflix’s Wednesday (Addams)

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Netflix’s Wednesday is a comedy-horror series that follows the adventures of the iconic Addams family daughter, Wednesday, as she attends a school for outcasts and unravels a supernatural mystery. The show is not only entertaining and spooky, but also surprisingly insightful and inspiring. Wednesday is a character who stands out from the crowd, embraces her weirdness, and challenges the norms of society. She also learns valuable lessons about friendship, family, and self-discovery along the way. In this blog post, I will share 10 life lessons that Wednesday taught us, and how we can apply them to our own lives.

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1. Learn to ask for help

Wednesday is a loner. If she could she would probably avoid next to all contact to other humans. However, during the events of the series, she comes to realize that she can’t unveil this mystery alone. She learns to ask for help. And with the support of Enid, Xavier, Eugene and others she manages to save Nevermore Academy. 

Sometimes, we may feel overwhelmed, stuck, or confused by the challenges we face in life. We may think that asking for help is a sign of weakness, or that we have to do everything on our own.

But this is not true. Asking for help is a sign of strength, courage, and humility. It shows that we are willing to learn, grow, and improve ourselves. It also allows us to connect with others who can offer us support, guidance, and perspective.

Wednesday learned this lesson when she asked her family for help to solve the mystery of the Nevermore Academy.

2. Be fiercly loyal to those you care about

Wednesday Addams might not be big on showing emotions, however once she cares about someone, she’d set the world on fire for them. Just look at what she did to her younger brother pugsley’s bullies. Later on, she also supports Enid and Eugene and in turn inspires loyalty in them. 

Loyalty is a virtue that is often underrated in today’s world. We may be tempted to betray, abandon, or neglect those who matter to us for our own selfish reasons. But this is not the way to live a fulfilling and meaningful life.

Loyalty means that we stick by our friends and family, no matter what. We defend them, protect them, and support them. We also respect them, trust them, and appreciate them.

Wednesday showed this lesson when she stood by her friends, Tyler and Enid, even when they were in danger or trouble.

3.Not everything exclusive is worth your time

Wednesday couldn’t care less about joining the Nightshade Society. She might have been originally interested in discovering the secret society but as soon as she realized that it was lead by the high school royalty who only cared about gossiping and partying, she quickly determined it not worth her time.

How many would have resisted joining an elusive society that most of the school would beg to be a part of, even if it seemed boring? 

In our society, we are often bombarded by messages that tell us to chase after the latest trends, fads, and status symbols. We may think that having something exclusive, rare, or expensive will make us happy, successful, or popular. But this is not always the case.

Sometimes, the things that are exclusive are not worth our time, energy, or money. They may be superficial, shallow, or deceptive. They may also distract us from the things that truly matter, such as our passions, values, and relationships.

4.Don’t underestimate the value of your talents

For quite a while, Wednesday was annoyed by her prophetic visions. They came at inopportune moments and didn’t leave her with much insight at all. However, as the sinister plot at the school progresses she learned to appreciate her visions a bit more and they even ended up being helpful.

We all have talents that make us unique and special. We may have skills, abilities, or interests that set us apart from others. We may also have passions, dreams, or goals that inspire us to pursue our talents.

However, sometimes, we may underestimate the value of our talents. We may think that they are not good enough, not useful enough, or not important enough. We may also compare ourselves to others who have different talents, and feel inferior or inadequate. But this is not the way to appreciate our talents.

Our talents are valuable, because they reflect who we are, what we love, and what we can contribute to the world. 

5.Go at your own pace – don’t compare your development to others

Enid Sinclair was under pressure from her mother because she had not yet experienced her werewolf shift on a full moon. While she mourned the fact that she couldn’t run with the other wolves, she held firm in the believe that the shift would happen naturally, without having to go to a ‘camp’ to force it to. And in the end, it happened exactly when she didn’t have time to worry about it. 

We all have our own pace of development, growth, and learning. We may progress faster or slower than others in different areas of life, such as academics, career, or relationships. We may also face different challenges, opportunities, and circumstances that affect our development.

However, sometimes, we may feel pressured to conform to the expectations, standards, or norms of others. We may think that we have to keep up with, or surpass, others in order to be successful, happy, or worthy. But this is not the way to respect our development. Our development is not a competition, but a journey.

We should go at our own pace, and focus on our own goals, strengths, and potentials. We should also celebrate our achievements, and learn from our mistakes. 

6. Don’t let spite dictate your life

Spite is a negative emotion that arises when we feel wronged, hurt, or offended by someone or something. We may feel angry, resentful, or vengeful towards the person or thing that caused us pain. We may also seek to hurt them back, or to prove them wrong.

However, spite is not a healthy or productive way to deal with our emotions. Spite can consume us, and make us bitter, hateful, or miserable. It can also blind us, and make us irrational, reckless, or destructive. It can also prevent us from healing, forgiving, or moving on.

Instead of letting spite dictate our life, we should find constructive ways to cope with our emotions, such as talking, writing, or meditating. We should also seek to understand the perspective of the other person or thing, and try to empathize, communicate, or resolve the issue. We should also focus on the positive aspects of our life, such as our goals, passions, and relationships.

Wednesday showed this lesson when she did not let her spite towards her enemies, such as the Ravens, the headmistress, or the killer, control her life. She did not seek revenge, but justice. She did not let them ruin her happiness, but enhanced it.

7. Find a balance between being unapologetically you and conforming to societies standards

​Countless people advise us to be unapologetically ourselves. And what a nice thought it is, not having to force ourselves to change and instead stay exactly as we are right now. But the truth of the matter is, that you can make your life significantly harder if you decide to alienate everyone around you.

Wednesday Addams is an extreme example of that. It takes her a long time and numerous unnecessary conflicts to realize that adapting slightly to the people around her might be a good idea. That’s not to say she is not herself anymore. But she has learned to compromise at least sometimes for the sake of the people she likes. 

We all have our own identity, personality, and style. We may have preferences, opinions, or beliefs that differ from others. We may also have quirks, flaws, or eccentricities that make us stand out from the crowd.

However, sometimes, we may face criticism, rejection, or discrimination from others who do not understand, accept, or appreciate us. We may think that we have to change ourselves, hide ourselves, or apologize for ourselves in order to fit in, belong, or survive. But this is not the way to honor ourselves.

We should be proud of who we are, and express ourselves authentically and confidently. We should also respect the diversity of others, and seek to understand, accept, and appreciate them.

However, this does not mean that we should ignore, violate, or challenge the rules, norms, or values of the society we live in. The key is to find a balance between being ourselves, and being respectful, responsible, and cooperative members of the society. 

Wednesday is a show that offers more than just laughs and scares. It also offers wisdom and guidance for anyone who feels different, misunderstood, or curious about the world. Wednesday is a role model for being true to yourself, following your passions, and finding your tribe. She also shows us the importance of family, loyalty, and courage.

By watching Wednesday, we can learn to appreciate the beauty of diversity, the power of curiosity, and the joy of adventure. I hope you enjoyed this blog post, and I encourage you to watch Wednesday on Netflix if you haven’t already. You might just discover something new about yourself, or the world around you.

How To Make Imposter Syndrome S#ck Less

Blog, Mindset, Personal Development

Ever found yourself achieving incredible success but secretly doubting your own abilities? You’re not alone. The phenomenon known as imposter syndrome is more common than you might think, affecting high-achievers across various fields. In this blog post, we’ll unravel the layers of imposter syndrome, exploring its roots, impact, and—most importantly—strategies to turn its challenges into opportunities for growth. Join us as we delve into the nuances of imposter feelings and uncover the empowering ways to overcome them.

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What is Imposter Syndrome?

Imposter Syndrome, that sneaky intruder of the mind, is a phenomenon where individuals doubt their accomplishments, fearing they’ll be exposed as frauds despite evidence of success. It’s that persistent voice whispering, “You don’t belong here” or “You’re not as capable as others think.”

This mental hurdle often strikes high-achievers, casting shadows on their achievements. The paradox? The more successful you are, the more likely imposter syndrome may knock on your mental door. Yet, fear not!

Understanding that imposter feelings are common and conquerable is the first step to reclaiming your narrative and turning this psychological challenge into a catalyst for personal and professional growth. Embrace your journey, acknowledge your victories, and let imposter syndrome take a backseat on your road to success. You’ve got this!

Take the Quick Imposter Syndrome Self-Test

Read through the following questions and see which ones resonate deeply with you. Don’t overthink. Simply go with your intuitive answer as it tends to be the most genuine one. If you want, you can always go back and journal on each of these questions individually.

1. **Self-Doubt vs. Evidence:**

   – When you achieve success, do you often attribute it to external factors or luck rather than acknowledging your own skills and efforts?

2. **Overachiever Anxiety:**

   – Are you haunted by a persistent fear of failure, even when you’re accomplishing tasks at a high standard?

3. **Discounting Success:**

   – Do you find it challenging to internalize praise and tend to downplay your achievements?

4. **Fear of Exposure:**

   – Are you worried that others will discover you’re not as competent as they think you are?

5. **Comparisons and Competence:**

   – Do you frequently compare yourself to others, feeling that they are more intelligent or capable?

6. **Reluctance to Seek Help:**

   – Do you avoid seeking help or guidance, fearing it will expose your perceived incompetence?

7. **Perfectionism Paralysis:**

   – Are you often held back by a desire for perfection, delaying tasks due to the fear of not meeting exceptionally high standards?

8. **Internalized Criticism:**

   – Do you have a harsh inner critic that magnifies mistakes and minimizes successes?

Scoring:

– Count your number of “Yes” responses.

– 0-2: Minimal signs of imposter syndrome.

– 3-5: Moderate imposter syndrome tendencies.

– 6-8: Higher likelihood of experiencing imposter syndrome.

“I have written 11 books, but each time I think, ‘Uh oh, they’re going to find out now. I’ve run a game on everybody, and they’re going to find me out.’” – Maya Angelou​

How to Make the Best out of Imposter Syndrom

1. Recognize the Imposter Phenomenon

Acknowledge the existence of the imposter phenomenon and understand that it’s not uncommon, especially among high-achieving individuals. Realize that many successful people experience feelings of fraudulence or self-doubt despite their accomplishments. Knowing you’re in good company can ease some of the stress. It can be even more helpful if you can put a name and face to these fellow imposters. So do some research and find someone you resonate with. 

2. Challenge Negative Self-Talk

Combat negative thoughts and impostor feelings by consciously challenging them. Every time one of these negative thoughts pop up, don’t suppress them. Instead, think of at least of argument why the thought is not true and then change it into a positive affirmation before moving on. 

3. Embrace a Growth Mindset

Cultivate a growth mindset. Understand that abilities can be developed over time through hard work and dedication. Impostor syndrome can arise when you embark on new roles or tasks. Remind yourself that learning new things or stepping into unfamiliar territory is part of growth. Everybody feels at least a bit out of their depth when they do something new. As long as you don’t let the feeling of inadequacy hold you back from taking action, you’ll be fine. In fact, imposter syndrome can be a great motivator to hustle even harder. 

4. Seek Support and Mentorship

Connect with supportive communities or seek mentorship. Other college students, interns or professionals might face similar challenges. Try to talk to these people on a regular basis. Learning from others’ experiences and having role models can be immensely helpful.

5. Document Achievements

Keep a record of your accomplishments, even the smallest ones. This practice can counteract feelings of inadequacy and serve as a reminder of your competence. You could keep this reminder either as a digital or physical list or you can make it more visual. For example, write every accomplishment in a certain area onto a colorful piece of paper and put it into a jar. As you see the jar getting fuller and fuller, you will feel better about yourself. And once in a while or at the end of the year, you can go through all of these paper scraps and get a confidence boost.

6. Celebrate Imperfection and New Skills

Embrace imperfection and accept that learning new skills involves making mistakes. High achievers and smart people understand that the first time isn’t always perfect. Focus on progress rather than perfection. And get excited! Now, that you have discovered something that you aren’t as good at, you can make an action plan on how to get better ASAP.

7. Challenge the Highlight Reel of Social Media

Recognize that social media often showcases the highlight reel of others’ lives. Understand that comparing yourself to others may perpetuate feelings of impostor syndrome. Practice self-compassion and focus on your journey. Here is another fun exercise: Every time you feel an intense feeling of inadequacy compared to someone else, look around until you find at least one person that you know, that is doing similarly bad or worse than you in this aspect.

10. Explore Coping Strategies and Seek Therapy if Needed

Consider cognitive behavioral therapy or other coping strategies if feelings of impostorism persist. Remember, it’s okay to seek help and support when mental health issues like low self-esteem or impostor feelings affect your well-being. This is the 21st century. You don’t even have to leave your home to get therapy. 

Remember, these strategies are a step towards making the best out of the imposter phenomenon. Incorporating them into your daily routine may help alleviate the negative impact of impostor syndrome on your mental well-being and professional life.

As we conclude this exploration of imposter syndrome, remember that feeling like a fraud doesn’t diminish your accomplishments; it emphasizes your commitment to growth. Many influential figures have faced similar struggles, proving that imposter syndrome is not a sign of inadequacy but a common thread among high-achieving individuals. Embrace the strategies we’ve discussed, challenge negative self-talk, and celebrate your successes. You’re not alone on this journey, and every step you take towards overcoming imposter feelings is a step towards unlocking your true potential.

Stand tall, believe in your capabilities, and turn imposter syndrome into a powerful catalyst for personal and professional advancement.

Until next time, Felicity Seeker!