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15 Life-Changing Questions Part II

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Since the first part of this series turned out so well, I decided we needed a second part. After all, it might just be one of these questions that lights a spark in your mind.

Striving for Felicity 15 Life-Changing Questions

It only needs to create one idea, which can change your life forever. I genuinely hope that you will find this one question on this list.

And remember to take your time answering them. That’s how you get the most out of them.

Enjoy!

1. What do you hate doing?

What are some tasks that you absolutely hate doing? Once you figure out what they are, you can take some measures to get rid of them.

Maybe you can start to delegate some of them. Either by outsourcing them to a virtual assistant or you could make a deal with a family member to switch tasks.

You can almost always do something against the source of your unhappiness. It all depends on your willingness to act.

2. Who are you admiring? What do they have in common?

Who are the people you admire? You can know them in person; they could be famous or even fictional.

Create a list of the people you admire for one reason or another. Once you have that list, try to find common traits that you admire.

If any of the people you admire are badass entrepreneurs, something inside you craves being an entrepreneur. You would probably thrive with your own business. So why not start one?

If your idols are very confident, work on your confidence. If they are very stylish, improve the choice of your clothes.

It was eyeopening for me to find out the patterns between my seemingly unrelated idols.

3. If I continue doing what I am currently doing, what will my life be like in 5 or 10 years?

Think about it. If you answer something you do not like, do something about it!

You have the power to direct the course of your life. Just take one little step each day.

4. What character traits should the person have, with whom I spend my life with?

The sexual attraction is great and undoubtedly important, but it is definitely not the most essential trait of your partner.

To avoid drama and regrets later on in life, you should become absolutely clear on the most important character traits you want your partner to have.

If you love traveling all around the world, but your boyfriend/girlfriend absolutely hates it, do you really expect a fulfilling relationship?

You and your significant other should share a similar vision for life. Otherwise, you won’t both be able to pursue the life of your dreams.

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5. What can I be grateful for?

Everything! Of course I want you to be a bit more specific with your answer, but basically, you can be grateful for everything.

Be grateful for your heartbeat, for each breath you take, for the weather, for your favorite outfit, for the car that brings you everywhere, for the public transportation that is available to you, for the opportunity to get an education, for the internet, for incredible movies and series and music, etc.

Whenever you feel down, you should search for things you can be grateful about. Suddenly, the situation won’t feel as bad anymore, because there is so much good around you.

Gratitude is the fuel for a happy life.

6. In what way are my friends and family influencing me?

Analyze the way your family and friends make you feel. Do you feel empowered after talking to them, or do you feel insecure and doubtful?

Once you become clear on the impact your family and friends have on you, you can make better decisions.

Maybe you need to stop spending so much time with some people, or you should stop talking with them about specific topics.

Maybe, you should spend way more time with them! One of your greatest assets is a supporting peer group.

7. Am I feeling physically and mentally healthy?

Sometimes we forget to analyze our wellbeing. Did you notice yourself having a headache more often? Or are you always bloated?

We tend to think just because something is common means it is normal. But that couldn’t be further from the truth.

If you are not feeling well physically or mentally, there is something you should fix. The signs your body gives you is like your personal doctor. You just need to listen to that doctor and either find the solution yourself or go to a specialist who will find it for you.

Life is meant to be enjoyed, so look after yourself!

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8. What do I care more about: How my life looks or how it feels?

This question is especially important in our social media age. Millions of people are staging a perfect life for their social followings when, in reality, not everything is as rosy as they make people believe it is.

Are you doing certain things just because they look good in the eyes of other people or because they make you feel good?

9. Why not me?

The wise Jim Rohn asked the following two questions.

Whenever you have a dream, but doubts start to creep in, ask yourself: Why not me?

Seriously, why shouldn’t you be able to do this? There have been poorer, uglier, dumber or other more disadvantaged people than you, who were able to do even more incredible things. So what should stop you other than yourself?

10. Why not now?

We always want to wait for the right time to do challenging things. We tell ourselves that we’ll do it tomorrow, next week, next month or next year.

But the longer we wait, the more doubts start to fill our minds and the harder it will be to start. And in the end, on that date we set ourselves, we won’t be much more ready than we are right now.

So why not now? Stop procrastinating and take the first little step, no matter how tiny it is!

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11. Is this in my control?

If not, surrender and let it go. Why worry about things you cannot control? It doesn’t help you or the situation you are worried about.

Ask yourself this question whenever you feel your emotions get the better of you. I am sure it will make your life much more enjoyable.

12. Would my ideal partner want someone like me?

Having high standards for a partner for life is justified. However, you should also be realistic. Would your dream man/woman want someone like you?

If you want someone who is very healthy and muscular, you should probably work on being fit yourself.

If you want a masculine boyfriend, you should work on raising your feminine energy. If you are struggling with that, check out 10 Ways To Tune Into Your Feminine Energy.

Instead of hunting for your soul mate, why not spend the time improving yourself. If the time is right, the right person will come. The only thing you have to do is being ready for them.

13. If you had to spend the rest of your life in one job and couldn’t retire, what career would you choose? Would it be your current one?

Sadly, the majority of people on our planet work in a career that they do not like.
Especially the people in developing countries have little other choice but to keep working to bring food on the table.

However, if you are reading this, you probably live in a wealthy country, and in countries like ours, people do have a multitudinous choice of jobs.

Unfortunately, most people are afraid of taking risks in exchange for greater happiness, so day in day out they wait for the time to pass until they can finally retire.

But what would happen, if there was no retirement? How would people choose their careers if they had to work in it until the end of their days?

How would you choose?

14. How would you behave if nobody was capable of judging you?

How would you go about your day, if humans were genetically unable to judge you?

Would you wear something more revealing? Would you finally change your hair color or get that piercing?

What about your career choices? If people couldn’t judge you, would you start that YouTube Channel?

Once you realize in what areas of your life the fear of judgment is holding you back, you might realize how stupid it is. Maybe that is the final push you need to go after your dreams.

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15. What makes you, you?

What is unique about you? Name the characteristics and interests or anything at all, that separates you from John or Jane Doe.

Whether it is your freckles, your dark humor, or your fondness of pickles with chocolate, your uniqueness is your advantage.

Never try to hide what makes you weird. If you openly embrace your uniqueness and build your success on it, you will never have to worry about competition. After all, nobody can be you!

I hope you find some life-changing answers to these fifteen questions. You might want to review them at least once every year.

You will have different answers to them in the various stages of your life.

With that, I wish you much fun creating the extraordinary life of your dreams!

I believe in you!

Sophie

15 Life-Changing Questions You Should Ask Yourself

Blog, Personal Development

Sometimes one little question or information can change the direction our life takes forever. We suddenly realize something that makes us want to change the way we live life.

I love thought-provoking and life-changing questions like these. Therefore I have compiled a list of 15 Life-Changing Questions You Need To Ask Yourself.

I recommend you to take some time with each of these questions. Journal about them and try to listen to your intuition instead of your mind.

Striving for Felicity 15 Life-Changing Questions

Let the answers flow as much as possible. Try to be honest with yourself and accept the answers that come, even though they might be uncomfortable for you.

We have to embrace being uncomfortable to grow. And I am sure these questions will bring your quite a step forward in your quest for an extraordinary life.

Enjoy!

1. Am I happy?

We start this list off with a profound but often overlooked question. Most of the times, we just go about our day and do our obligations.

Rarely do we ever think about whether or not we genuinely enjoy what we are doing or what we generally would enjoy doing.

As you leave school, that’s a question you ponder about a lot. However, as soon as you’ve chosen your studies or apprenticeship and been doing it more or less happily for a while, you probably stop wondering if it is truly making you happy.

We lose ourselves in what we think we need to do and what others our age are doing. But is that genuinely making you happy?

Is your job, your relationship, or your lifestyle truly lighting you up? If not, what can you do about it? Wouldn’t it be worth pursuing something more enjoyable?

But careful! You should always differentiate between temporary unhappiness (because of one lousy grade, for example) and a general lack of joy.

The first is reasonable, the latter shouldn’t be.

2. Who or what am I doing this for?

Why are you doing what you do? Are you acting intentionally or “just because …”?

Think about it for a while. Why are you working in that job? What led you there and is holding you there? Why are you studying so hard? Why are you buying those designer bags and shoes? And why are you posting so much on social media of your “perfect” life?

Are you living your life for yourself or for others? Are you living your life for its appearance or because it makes you happy?

If you would not be willing to proudly declare your answer to this question to the person that cares most about you, then you are probably doing it for the wrong reasons.

3. Am I wasting my time?

We only have a limited amount of time on this beautiful earth. We should waste as little as possible of it. To do that, you should always act intentionally.

Additionally, here are 15 Ways To Spend Your Time Wisely.

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4. What am I leaving behind on this earth?

One day, we all will die. To this day, billions of humans have died since humanity exists. Yet we only remember thousands or millions of them. Why do we remember Ceasar or Mother Theresa but not every farmer of every small village somewhere around the world?

What separates those individuals who have made it into our history books from everyone else?

The answer is, value! In one way or another, they have provided value to the world. Their existence shaped the world forever.

When you would look back upon your life, will you be able to proudly say, you’ve made an impact on the world?

It doesn’t even need to be as massive as the impact Steve Jobs or Columbus made. Sometimes, it can be satisfying enough to know that you made your small community a happier place by living in it.

5. What are my values, and am I living according to them?

Having values helps you make decisions you can stand behind and therefore experience less regret and more happiness.

So what are your values? Do you value honesty, hard work, empathy, kindness, success, intellect, time, health, love, passion, trust, etc.?

Once you have determined at least three of your core values, think back to last week. Have you lived according to your values? What would have gone differently, and how would you have felt if you would have followed them?

6. How would I feel if I achieved all my goals?

We all strive towards goals, some big some small. However, most of the time, it is not actually the end result we want, but rather the emotions that come with it.

For example, you might want good grades so that you can feel smart, proud, and secure.

We all want money, but not for the money itself but rather for the things and experiences it can make available to us, which in turn make us happy, excited, proud, secure or whatever not.

Once you realize what kind of feeling you want to experience through your goals, you can work on feeling it right now. Because we know that like attracts like.

For example, if you are always pessimistic, you will probably not attract optimistic and uplifting friends. Or if you hate money and think it is the root of all evil – which by the way is far from the truth as you can see in 9 Mindsets That Are Keeping You Poor – you will very likely not have much of it in your life.

If you want to learn more about the principle of like attracts like check out my Law of Attraction 101 or, if you are not very spiritual check out 5 Non-Spiritual Reasons the Law of Attraction Can Make You Rich.

7. How would I spend my days if I achieved all my goals?

This question made me realize that not as much would change for me as I always thought.

We tend to focus a lot on our future and our goals. We think “if I just would have X amount of money … or this dream job … or this relationship .. or this body …”.

Now, try to imagine you would have had all of these things for a year already. How would you spend your days now?

I suddenly realized that while indeed some things in my life would change significantly, especially in the beginning, I would still spend my time reading books, working out, reading fanfictions, watching YouTube or Netflix, listening to music, etc.

I realized very quickly that I am already enjoying so many things which I would also appreciate, once I’d have my “perfect” life.

So why not focus more on the happiness you already have? Just be grateful and patient, your goals will come true with time.

8. If you couldn’t fail in life, what would you set out to do?

What do you desire to do? Where is the fear of failure holding you back? Be honest with yourself.

Once you have your answer, you might realize that you should finally put aside your fear and pursue that dream!

9. Is this something I will care about in 5 or 10 years?

If not, you shouldn’t spend much time worrying or obsessing over it. Again, time is limited. Why waste it on negative emotions about something irrelevant?

If you keep looking for things to be upset about, you will find them. However, if you finally start putting your energy into things more worthwhile, you are on your way to creating pure bliss!

10. Why not? What is the worst possible outcome?

Once you analyze the worst possible outcome, you might realize that it isn’t as bad as you made it out to be. It probably is something you could deal with. Maybe you even dealt with it before.

So why do you let it keep you from chasing your dream?

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11. What is the best possible outcome?

An even more convincing argument is the best possible outcome. Once you have accepted that you would survive the worst outcome, it only takes for you to think about the best possible outcome to find the necessary motivation.

You want to start a business? Well, the worst outcome would be that it fails and you lost a few thousand euro, which you can earn back. And you have at least made some valuable experiences which will make every next attempt way easier.

And the best possible outcome would be a thriving business, through which you can live your calling in financial freedom.

If that is not convincing, I don’t know what is.

12. What do you want life to be like in one year?

I rarely used to think about stuff like this. I just lived life as it came and looked forward to the next exam, holiday, birthday, or another event.

However, now that I am a Felicity Seeker, I strive to have improved my life within a year by at least 365%.

I want to live an extraordinary life, and for that, I need goals, short term, and long term.

Once you know, what you want your life to look like in one year, you can take active steps to achieve that goal.

After all, a goal is just a dream with a plan.

13. What can you do today to improve?

Reaching your goal of an extraordinary life becomes more comfortable if you do one little step each day.

So what can you do today, to improve yourself?

14. What would I tell my grandchildren?

People want to tell their children and grandchildren about the best, funniest, or most valuable experiences they’ve made.

Do you have something you would tell them? If you can’t think of anything worth mentioning, you might have to dedicate more time to make some experiences and go on some adventures.

Life is meant to be lived!

15. Is it actually a problem?

Quite often our worrisome mind tells us that something is a HUGE problem and we start to freak out over it and stress ourselves.

However, if you take a step back, calm down and objectively analyze the situation, is it truly a problem?

For example, I recently forgot my dental appointment. I found out about it a few hours after the appointment. And boy was I angry at myself. I had never missed any kind of appointment before, and now I was one of THOSE people.

I worried about calling them and apologizing and if I would get a new appointment any time soon.

After a while of this overthinking, I took a step back from the situation.

Yes, I forgot about my appointment. It’s the first time something like this has happened. I will just call and apologize and ask for another date. That’s it.

There wasn’t a problem at all. I just needed to do these things.

And guess what, the phone call probably didn’t take two minutes and I immediately got a new appointment for the next month.

And that appointment turned out to be amazing! (Yes, dental appointments can be amazing. I love going to doctors, because I can ask them all of the questions which fly around my mind, and I feel like I am taking good care of my body.)

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Well, what do you think? Did one of these questions change the way you see your life? Did you make plans on changing something?

Tell me all about it! And also tell me which questions were your favorite, I’m curious to know.

Whatever your answers to these questions were, I hope you keep creating that extraordinary life of your dreams.

I believe in you!

Sophie

9 Hardships You Have To Face In Life

Blog, Personal Development, Well-Being

Life consists of ups and downs. No matter how much you shield yourself, sooner or later, you will have to face hardships.

However, hard times also have something positive about them. You grow as you experience them. They make you a stronger and better person.

Striving for Felicity 9 hardships you have to face in life

Yes, tough times are often very painful, and it can be hard to see them in any positive light whatsoever when you are experiencing them.

That’s where this article will help.

The following list will help you not only to prepare yourself mentally but, more importantly, train yourself to see the hard times in a more positive light.

So get yourself a comfortable seat and open your mind to rethink your opinions on these problems.

1. Failure

If you have never experienced any kind of failure in your life, I’d be seriously worried. That would imply that you’ve never tried something new and that the people around you are not honest with you.

Failure is simply part of life. There is no growth in life without failure. A good metaphor for that is the heart rate monitors you can see in those hospital series.

If the heart beats steadily, the line goes up and down and up and down. 

Everything is fine. If something good or bad happens, the heartbeat may pick up its pace, and the ups and downs will be higher and lower, but still, it only shows that the person is alive.

However, when they die, the line is suddenly flat.

Life is meant to have ups and downs, successes, and failures. If it would all follow a straight path, we wouldn’t be living.

Whenever you face failure, there are two things you need to remember:

  1. Failure means that you’ve lived. You have had an experience. Use it to learn valuable life lessons and move on.
  2. Failure brings you one step closer to success. There isn’t one successful person out there that hasn’t failed along the way. In some cases, those failures have been absolutely shattering. Still, successful people move on and keep up the hard work, and so can you!

2. Death of a Loved One

Whether it is your grandparents, parents, siblings, friends, or pets, sooner or later, you will be confronted with one of them passing away.

Sometimes it will come out of nowhere and will disrupt your whole world.

Other times, it is the result of a long and arduous battle with health issues, and you might at least find some solace in the knowledge that they don’t have to suffer anymore.

Whatever the situation, losing a loved one brings immense pain; there is no sugarcoating that.

However, you should remind yourself that this pain, too, will pass to a great extent. Think about all these people worldwide who have lost loved ones and managed to still make life worth living.

But most importantly, take this as a reminder to spend as much time as possible with your loved ones.

Earning money is significant and rewarding, but if it comes at the cost of losing too much of the precious time with the people you hold dear, what is it all for?

From this tragedy on, maybe you can finally commit to at least calling each of your loved ones once a week. Maybe commit to meeting them at least once a month.

Just try to spend as much time with them as possible so that when this hardship comes, none of you has any regrets.

3. Someone Betrays your Trust

There probably will come a moment in your life when someone betrays your trust.

Whether it is a friend bitching behind your back, your significant other cheating on you, or your child throwing a house party when you trusted them to take care of their younger sibling.

You will feel hurt, disappointed, insecure, or angry if that moment comes.

You might scold yourself for ever having placed that trust. And you will have to ask yourself, is this temporary pain enough of a reason to never trust again?

The answer to that should be NO. What would life be like without trust? I don’t imagine it very fulfilling. We all need a support system, and that requires a certain level of trust.

Take this hardship as it is, and learn your lesson from it. Depending on how deeply the betrayal was, you might have to let go of that person.

If they were willing to exploit your trust to such an extent, then they are not worth your love and time. Your life will be better without them.

However, if you are willing to forgive them, this might be the beginning of a deeper relationship.

Yes, it will take a lot of effort to work through those new trust issues, but it will be worth it if it is the right person.

4. Physical Pain

Again, if you have never experienced this, you might not live life to the fullest.

Physical pain hurts like hell! Everybody who has had the pleasure of stubbing their toe knows that.

However, physical pain can also be a good thing. It shows you how much you can endure, which is a hell of a lot more than you probably think.

And it also brings back some awareness regarding the importance of your beautiful body.

Take care of it! Because it enables you to live this beautiful life.

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5. Emotional Distress

If you are trying to achieve big things, you will have to deal with stress, overwhelm, anxiety, depression, disappointment, doubt, guilt, and many more negative emotions.

However, just like failure, they are absolutely worth it! If a temporary unease is a price to pay for an extraordinary life, then that is a meager price.

If you commit to mastering your emotions and dedicating time to self-care, you will come out of your emotional distress as a stronger and more resilient person. You will develop inner strength that will be one of your most powerful assets in the future.

The mountains you are now able to climb are much bigger than before.

6. Aging

Our modern society has become very bad at handling aging. People view it as the decay of beauty, health, strength, abilities, and intellect.

Nowadays, thousands of people frantically jump to Botox as soon as they notice the first wrinkles appear; others refuse to talk about their age or even lie about it.

As many ancient cultures did, we finally need to see aging as something positive again.

Aging comes with increased patience, spiritual awareness, and wisdom.

And if you take care of yourself mentally and physically, you can be way more athletic and smart than most of the elderly people we see around us daily.

You only need to do some research on it. There are so many old people out there who can still live an incredible life.

I recently watched a documentary showing an over 100-year-old Chinese man who rides around the village with his bicycle daily.

I can’t even imagine some 80-year-olds riding a bicycle!

Let this remind you that you can influence the kind of life you will live in 40, 50, or 60 years.

Every time you fear aging, let that remind you to live healthily.

And start believing that you will become a healthy and happy 100-year-old person. Your thoughts shape your reality. If you expect to be a rickety
80-year-old, guess how you will end up.

It has never been as easy as nowadays with biotechnology and easy access to health tips to live a long and healthy life. Use that to your advantage!

7. You Hurt Someone

One day or another, you will hurt someone. For example, you might hurt them with the careless words you spoke, disappoint them with your actions, or actually injure them physically by accident.

It will probably make you feel guilty, and you will scold yourself for it, but you should never ever lose yourself in regret.

Always remember: We make mistakes; that’s what makes us human. No human being is ever perfect.

What counts is that you make up for it with your actions afterward. Don’t just apologize. Prove that you are genuinely sorry and work on yourself never to make it happen again.

By the way, you might be interested in 15 Ways To Live A Life You Won’t Regret.

8. Difficult Family Members

As much as family is a blessing, most people have at least one rather difficult family member.

And yes, they can push your buttons like nobody else, but still, they are family. And instead of getting frustrated with their behavior, we should let it remind us to be grateful.

In Sacred Powers, davidji has said it best. He writes about how we should take every annoying behavior of our loved ones as “evidence of presence.”

One day, this loved one will be gone. Would they annoy you as much if you knew they would be gone from your life tomorrow? Still, I understand that this is not the best choice for every situation. Sometimes, it is important for your mental health and our happiness to cut a family member out of your life. But at least try to change your mindset beforehand.

Read also: Reading List for Personal Growth

9. Feeling Lost

Sometimes, it doesn’t require difficult life events to create hardships. Instead, you will look around you at one point in your life and simply feel lost. You will ask yourself what you are doing, what you really want in life, and if you are on the right track.

First of all, don’t despair! As quickly as this feeling can come, it can also disappear. However, don’t just wait for it to pass. Instead, take this feeling as a sign to think about your direction in life.

And yes, that might be scary, but it can lead to a happy life.

As you face this feeling of being lost, you will have to ask yourself one important question: Am I happy?

And if the answer is No, you have to ask yourself what you would want life to be like to be truly happy. You need to analyze your current situation from a new perspective.

If you are interested in similar questions to ask yourself, look at other Life-Changing Questions You Should Ask Yourself.

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10. Financial Hardships

Facing financial hardship is an inevitable part of adult life, pushing us into some of the toughest situations we encounter in our daily lives. It’s during these challenging moments that we often discover the best ways to emerge as a stronger person.

Coping with a difficult financial situation can be one of the hardest things we grapple with, as it forces us to confront some of the not-so-great aspects of life.

However, these trials become opportunities for growth, teaching us valuable lessons in budgeting, saving, and resourcefulness, ultimately shaping our financial acumen and making us more resilient in the face of adversity.

Those were the 10 Hardships You Have To Face In Life; I hope this list gives you the courage to face the difficult times ahead.

You should always remember that every moment can be good or bad; it depends on your mindset.

And if you are a bit more spiritual, it also helps to remember that the universe has reasons for sending you specific experiences. You might not be able to see it yet, but they will lead you towards a better life.

As always, I hope you keep creating the extraordinary life of your dreams; I believe in you!

Until next time, Felicity Seeker!

17 Ways To Be A Successful Boss Lady

Blog, Success

Felicity Seekers like us strive to become a boss in every area of our life. However, many of us female Felicity Seekers want to do it while being in flow with our divine feminine energy. We want to be a Boss Lady.

If that’s you, don’t worry. I got you covered. In this article, I am going to list all the traits of a true Boss Lady, who crushes her goals and lives an extraordinarily happy and fulfilled life.

By the way, I purposefully avoided the terminology Girlboss. The reason for that is that I associate the word “girl” with immaturity, gossip, insecurities, and all those other things we struggle with in our teens.

And that is not something I want to strive for. No, I want to be a Boss Lady! And what exactly that includes, you will see down below.

I encourage you to be really honest with yourself while reading through this list. Which of these points do you got covered and where do you need improvement?

There is no shame in not being a complete Boss Lady, yet. I myself am still working on a few of these points. The only thing that matters is that you make little improvements each day. That way, you will look into the mirror, and before you know it, you will see a real Lady Boss in front of you!

1. A Boss Lady knows her worth

A true Boss Lady knows her worth. She is not settling for a comfortable relationship or a job that undervalues her. Women like her would rather wait years for the right man to come around instead of jumping in a relationship just to feel “complete”.

A Lady Boss is working on her self-worth daily and doesn’t need others to make her feel complete.

As Monica Yates so nicely put it in one of her Podcast episodes:

“Your relationship should only be the cherry on top of your otherwise perfectly sweet cupcake called life.”

The same goes for friends and your career. Stop being around people who do not see your true worth. And don’t go into a job that makes you feel like less unless you have to do it for a short amount of time and with an excellent reason.

It’s like those celebrities that appear in commercials for really shitty products. I always wonder how desperate they must be to lower their standards that much.

2. A Boss Lady is confident

This one is rather obvious, but a Boss Lady is confident! Whenever she enters a room, she does not worry what other people think of her.

She is not afraid to speak her opinion whenever necessary and has trust in her skills.

A woman like that is absolutely comfortable in her skin and is, therefore, able to live her life authentically.

Since confidence is very much a skill that needs to be developed and maintained, a Lady Boss regularly works on her confidence.

If you want to improve your confidence, check out my 12 Powerful Ways To Be Confident.

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3. She has manners

For some inexplicable reason, some people seem to think manners are old fashioned. News flash! They are just as relevant today.

Manners are a big part of the first impression you give people. They can make or break the deal you want to conclude and attract or repulse friends you wish to make.

I mean, would you like to spend time with someone who shovels down his food like a starved animal and speaks with a mouth full of food? What about people, who always interrupt you, do you want to spend more time with them? Or people who pick their nose in public.

In social situations, it is essential to have manners if you want to have harmonious and joyful interactions with others.

Luckily, having manners can be very easy, and you only need to follow a few basic rules:

  • Don’t interrupt others
  • Eat with both, knife and fork, and don’t lay one of them down
  • Place your napkin on your lap while you eat
  • Put a hand in front of your mouth while yawning
  • Don’t pick your nose, your teeth or your ear
  • Say “bless you”, when someone sneezes
  • Offer your seat for others in more need
  • . . .

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4. She is in alignment with her divine feminine energy

This separates a Boss from a Boss Lady. A Lady Boss is in alignment with her divine feminine energy.

She knows that life can flow effortlessly if she stops resisting her feminine energy. She has not only learned to embrace her creativity, intuition, and emotions but also how to deal with female things like her period in the healthiest way possible.

Women like that don’t think they need to copy men and their masculine way of handling life. They know that their feminine energy is valuable and powerful and are not afraid to embrace it to the fullest.

To improve at this point, check out 10 Ways To Tune Into Your Feminine Energy.

5. A Boss Lady has goals and a vision

A Boss Lady knows where she wants to go in life. Her plans may change from time to time, but she always has goals to work towards.

And let me tell you, those dreams can be gigantic! Women like that are not afraid to have dreams ordinary people call crazy. They know they need to have extraordinary goals to create the extraordinary life they deserve.

6. She knows how to dress well

First impressions matter. And your clothes can tell a whole story about the kind of person you are. A Boss Lady knows this and is always putting thought into her outfits.

But even more important than what other people think of her is her own opinion. A Lady Boss first and foremost dresses for herself.

She wants to feel sexy and badass and will dress that way whether or not other people are going to see her that day.

If her style is a bit unique, she embraces that as well. But she always watches her manners and never appears in inappropriate clothes to specific events.

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7. A Boss Lady knows how to handle herself

A Lady Boss is self-sufficient. She is very well able to handle herself in basic situations like changing a lightbulb, a flat tire, or traveling solo.

She also knows her limits. She would never drink herself into a coma or try to fix things she obviously can’t fix on her own. Before injuring herself out of pride, she calls for help, which brings us to the next point.

8. She can receive

A Boss Lady knows how much value she is putting into the world and therefore doesn’t feel bad for receiving some value back.

This is especially important when it comes to men. A Boss Lady doesn’t feel the need to top men or make them feel like less. She knows her worth and therefore can accept acts of service from men, like them holding open a door for her.

She is not requesting it, because as mentioned in the previous point, she can handle herself. But if they offer, she kindly accepts and doesn’t shut them down.

9. A Boss Lady can say “No”

… without feeling guilty. Not only does it save her an immense amount of time (as elucidated in 15 Ways To Spend Your Time Wisely) she also knows that she has the right to live her life the way she wants to.

She, therefore, only accepts offers that truly make her happy and are worth her time and effort.

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10. She fights among her soldiers

A Lady Boss has a tribe. She is not a lonely warrior because she knows that teamwork can get you way farther in life.

So while she might be the leader of her tribe, she knows how to act supportively. After all, a group is always only as strong as its weakest link.

Therefore a Boss Lady supports her fellow Felicity Seekers and tries to bring out their full potential. If one of them has a good idea, she doesn’t steal it from them but proudly and openly praises them for it.

Women like her don’t think of themselves as better than the people they employ.

11. She knows when to let go versus when to take no Sh#t

There are times when speech is silver, but silence is gold. You don’t need to comment on everything you hear and see. Especially, if people are trying to pick a fight and don’t even care for your arguments, why would you waste your time fighting a futile battle?

On the other hand, a Boss Lady doesn’t take sh#t from no one. If people cross her line, she is very much able and willing to defend herself and her loved ones fiercely.

12. She takes care of herself mentally and physically

A Boss Lady knows that financial success is only a small part of life in Felicity. She acknowledges that her body and mind enable her to experience this beautiful life and therefore deserve the utmost care.

Women like her dedicate a lot of time to self-care. They eat healthily, work out regularly and meditate, journal or do anything alike for mental health.

A Lady Boss is not afraid to consult specialists since she wants to be in optimal health as fast and as long as possible.

13. A Boss Lady lives with passion, love, and positivity

Life is too short to spend it with negative emotions. A Lady Boss wants to wake up every day with a smile on her lips and excitement in her heart.

She wants to live life with passion, love, and positivity. A woman like that knows that life is neither good nor bad, it all depends on your outlook. Therefore she takes the reins and makes life a positive experience.

She spreads love wherever she goes and tries to spend her time only with things that genuinely light up her soul.

Should you struggle with the negative emotion of Envy towards other people and their success 8 Simple Ways To Overcome Envy might help you.

14. A Boss Lady knows how to get Sh#t done!

Like a Lady Boss, you should be able and willing to work work work as Rihanna would say. You can change your mindset and do all the manifesting you want, but in the end, you have to put in the necessary work.

A Boss Lady is not afraid of working hard and at times will make some sacrifices for her work if necessary. But she’s careful not to overwork herself and always focuses on working smarter not harder.

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15. She’s not afraid to take her own path

While a Boss Lady can say “No” without feeling guilty, she is also very much able to say “Yes” to risky and unusual opportunities.

She knows that every opportunity is unique and could open up a whole new world for her. Therefore women like her rather risk failing at a new opportunity than regretting to have played it safe.

If you want to know how to avoid regrets in your life check out 15 Ways To Live A Life You Won´t Regret.

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16. She continually improves herself

Boss Ladies are very aware of the rapid changes our modern world goes through. They know that staying at the same level will only work for so long before they are left behind.

Hence a Lady Boss is not afraid to invest in herself whether it is through books, courses, seminars, or expensive coaches. She even reserves a significant amount of her income for education purposes, because she knows that this will keep her in the 1%.

If you are interested in stepping up your self-improvement game, take a look at my Reading List for Personal Growth. I regularly update it on all of my favorite non-fiction books.

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17. She is prepared to make sacrifices but knows not to make too many

On her way to an extraordinary life, a Boss Lady is willing to make sacrifices. However, a woman like her is always carefully focused on maintaining a healthy balance between sacrifices and the things that are important in life.

If the sacrifices are too big for a significant amount of time and jeopardize her health and relationships, she will instead take a step back than ruin other areas of her life.

After all, an extraordinary life means living your life in every area to the fullest.

So, what do you think? Are you already excited to become more of a Boss Lady yourself?

Adopting these traits will allow you to create the extraordinary life that you want not only quicker but also easier. After all, there is no real end result. It’s a continuous process, so you might as well enjoy it!

By the way, what do you like more, pictures or GIFs? Please tell me and I will be sure to include more of them ^^

Keep creating the extraordinary life you are dreaming of, Felicity Seeker!

Until next time,

Sophie.

10 Ways To Tune Into Your Feminine Energy – How To Feel More Feminine

Blog, Personal Development, Well-Being

In 2019, the big feminism wave has already hit us full force. Slowly, the tide is receding, leaving equal rights for women in its wake.

While equality per se sounds excellent, it has left both men and women with a few struggles. While we humans all deserve the same rights, we cannot expect men and women to behave in the same way. While the majority of women live in tune with their female energy, the majority of men rely on their amsculine energy.

Those differences are not wrong or harmful. On the contrary, they enable us humans to create wonderful things when each of us brings their uniqueness to the table.

So even though we women are nowadays given a chance to do and achieve the same things as men, we often think we have to do it in a masculine way.

Striving for Felicity 10 Ways To Tune into your feminine energy

We proudly declare that we can change the flat tires ourselves and that we can hustle our way to the top of the company.

While these are certainly important skills to have, they often force us to rely more heavily on our masculine than our feminine energy.

Therefore many women struggle nowadays to tune into their feminine energy.

To help you with that, here are 10 Ways To Tune Into Your Feminine Energy.

Some of these tips are more of a short term solution, while others can help you feel more feminine during your whole day.

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1. Move your body

Careful, I am not talking about running a marathon or kickboxing (although, of course moving your body in these ways is excellent for your overall health).

To tune into your feminine energy, you want to move your body in a more sensual way. You can do that through dancing, Yoga, figure skating, or other practices alike.

If in addition to that, you play some suitable music, you will feel more feminine in no time!

2. Surround yourself with nice materials

Another fantastic way to raise your feminine energy is to choose the materials you surround yourself with intentionally.

This is especially applicable for your clothes, but you can also utilize it with everything else around you.

For example, I am currently reading Sacred Powers by davidji, and the cover is made out of a soft material. Every single time I pick up the book, I take a moment to stroke the cover and cherish its softness. Sometimes I pick it up, without the intention of reading, just because it makes me so happy.

By the way, if you are interested in other non-fiction books, that I am reading, check out my Reading List For Personal Growth. I update it regularly on my favorite books.

Other objects where you might want to look out for the materials are your bedding, your chairs, carpets, blankets, pillows, or your handbags.

If you look at the physique of men and women, you can very easily see that women are shaped more softly. Therefore, softer and more delicate fabrics like silk, lace, and knits can emit a lot of feminine energy.

3. Wear sexy clothes

An important note here: I wrote sexy and NOT slutty!
I am not talking about lowering your neckline down to your belly button.

However, you might think about showing a bit of your decollete and wearing figure-enhancing clothes. Perhaps you ditch your leggings in favor of skirts and dresses from time to time.

The same goes for your footwear. Wearing shoes with a little bit of heel instead of sneakers makes you instantly feel sexier.

And get yourself beautiful lingerie, whether you are in a relationship or not. First and foremost, you are wearing it for yourself and not for others!

On that note, it is crucial that you only wear clothes that make YOU feel sexy. If you feel uncomfortable in heels or camisoles, don’t go out and buy a dozen of them. Either not wear them at all or slowly try to get used to the feeling of it.

The things I named above are simply ideas. If ripped jeans and sneakers make you feel sexy and feminine, go for it!

The most important thing is that you choose your clothes intentionally. You may feel comfy in some clothes, but they might give you a hard time feeling feminine.

4. Surround yourself with soft colors

Before you panic, no, I do not expect you to live in a pink Barbie palace and repaint your car pink.

But I believe we all can agree that a room in black, white, brown or neon green won’t feel very feminine.

If you want to feel more feminine on a daily basis, you should think about incorporating a few softer colors into your day.

This can be as little as using pastel markers instead of those bright neon markers. Again, just try to be a bit more intentional with the colors you surround yourself with.

For me, it happened unintentionally. Over time I just collected a few things in softer colors, like pastel, creme-white and soft grey. If I now take a second to look up from my laptop and look around my room, I am quite content with seeing those calming but joyful specks of color.

5. Light some candles

I suppose almost all of us can agree that candles have a romantic vibe. Placing candles around your room, hence, creates a sensual and calming atmosphere.

This can make you feel more in tune with your feminine energy after a long and stressful day.

6. Take a bath

Taking a bath can have the same effect. The soothing, warm water can do wonders for our tense bodies and overloaded minds.

You can even add some candles to the bath if you feel like it.

And if you are feeling really luxurious, maybe take your bath to a more extravagant level. You could do it Cleopatra style with milk and honey.

Or a bit more practical, get yourself some flower petals to throw on top of the water.

This can be a beautiful thing to experiment with after a long day of hard work. Try it for yourself!

7. Have a girls night

What could make you feel more in tune with your feminine energy than being around more feminine energy?

Don’t understand me wrong, men are great! And they definitely can make us feel sexy and feminine. But most of them will never be able to connect with our feminine energy as much as other women can. The same goes the other way around, of course.

Contact your girlfriends and schedule an evening at a nice restaurant, or do a wine tasting together, or a Yoga class or a course for cooking.

Again, experiment. You could rotate between one another so that each week or each month someone else out of your girlfriends has to plan the meeting.

8. Get creative

While masculine energy is very logical and organized, feminine energy is more creative and intuitive.

Therefore, spending some time on creative tasks can align you more with your divine, feminine energy.

And again, there are endless options on how to get creative. You can paint, draw, dance, cook, play an instrument, write fanfictions, decorate, do arts and crafts, create content, etc.

9. Feel your emotions

Feminine energy is tranquil and focuses on simply being versus doing. So stop doing things for once and just take a moment to be.

How are you feeling? Are you stressed, agitated, anxious, depressed or emotional? Or do you feel joyful, excited, loving, and at peace?

Your emotions tell you what your mind and body needs. Don’t ignore them. Don’t shut negative emotions out, by distracting yourself with your phone as soon as they come up. Really take the time to feel them.

Meditation and journaling are great tools to do that.

10. Be more intuitive and less structured

As mentioned above, feminine energy is very intuitive in contrast to the structured, logical, and striving masculine energy.

If you want to feel more in your feminine energy, try to let the reins slacken a bit. Don’t plan out every single second of your day. Leave room for improvisation.

Maybe today you feel like reading in the morning and meditating in the evening. Or perhaps you feel like indulging a bit longer in the series you are currently watching.

I know that it can be challenging to find the balance between living intuitively and planning your day so that you can crush your goals. This has very recently been a big struggle of mine.

Each day I want to study Law, work on this Blog, read a book, work out, meditate, journal, and go to bed early. This has caused me to create quite the strict routine over time so that if I lose myself in reading fanfictions from time to time, I already feel guilty and angry for “wasting“ my time.

However, I feel much happier and more aligned with my feminine energy whenever I stop pushing myself so hard and allow myself to be.

So don’t be so hard on yourself!

That’s already it. I hope these 10 tips help you Felicity Seekers embrace your feminine energy.

Never believe you need to act like a man to reach your goals! It is very much possible to achieve the extraordinary life you want by being a feminine badass woman.

With that, I hope you continue creating the extraordinary life you want with ease and grace!

Until next time,

Sophie

12 Ways To Find Inspiration When You Are In A Rut

Blog, Success

Do you feel tired? Are you bored of doing the same things day after day for weeks on end? Let me help you find a new inspiration!

Because inspiration makes life more exciting and motivates us to pursue new goals.

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Whether you are an artist, a student, a CEO, or a factory employee, you probably love to be inspired. But especially as an entrepreneur, inspiration is essential.

Entrepreneurs are creators. To consistently create new things, you need a certain degree of inspiration, or your ideas will eventually run out.

If you struggle to find inspiration at times, this article is for you.
Here are 12 Ways To Find Inspiration. Enjoy!

1. Listen to music

Music seems to flow through our blood. Somehow, we humans have always been delighted by listening and making music.

Therefore it isn’t shocking that many people use music to get inspired.

Now, you are probably thinking, “I am already listening to music. Nothing is inspiring about it”.

In that case, I can only assume you keep listening to the same songs over and over again. I tend to get bored once I do that for more than one or two weeks.

Here is my tip for you: Listen to some old favorites that remind you of past times. Dig deep into your playlists and find the songs you haven’t listened to in a long time. 

I am always surprised by the thoughts and emotions an old song can stir in me.

If you don’t have a Playlist, go to Spotify. I have been using the free Spotify version on my laptop for a while now, and annoying ads aside, there is no need to pay for the premium version if you primarily use Spotify at home.

Now, browse through Spotify’s playlists. Maybe listen to some 90’s music or some 00’s from when you might have been a child. 

Try to listen to the lyrics of songs you grew up with. For example, as a child or teenager, you might not have noticed the song’s content, which could give it a whole new meaning. 

I am always amazed about some of my favorite songs’ deep meanings.

Even better, try to find completely new songs and maybe a new genre. 

To do that, I’d recommend you either search for the Spotify account of one of your favorite influencers and check out their Playlists or click on a song you already like and choose ‘Song Radio.‘ It will play more or less similar songs.

You may not immediately find music that you like, but I stumble over a few new songs once in a while. 

This gives me immense inspiration and results in researching more about the band and the lyrics, which inspires me even more.

2. Listen to Podcasts

Podcasts are among the most significant source of inspiration for me. 

At times, it still stuns me how much valuable content is put into Podcasts, and you can listen to it for absolutely free!

And since it is in audio format, you can listen to the content almost everywhere and at any time. 

You can listen to it while you work out, while you use public transportation, while you shower, while you drive your car, while you cook, etc.

Podcasts help you to get the most out of your time and provide unbelievable amounts of inspiration.

Seriously, if you are not listening to Podcasts already, start doing it! This was a massive game-changer for me. 

In fact, without Podcasts, I wouldn’t be writing this article right now, and I wouldn’t have this Blog.

Within about a month of listening to Podcasts, they inspired me to start my own business and strive for financial freedom. 

Now, a little more than half a year after starting this quest, I can’t imagine what I would do without it. My life would be so utterly BORING!

If this inspired you to listen to Podcasts, I have a list of my favorite ones for you:

3. Watch movies and series

Yes, movies and series can inspire you too. But in the age of Netflix, you are probably already consuming a ton of it.

Usually, I write about how you should spend less time watching movies and series. 

Just imagine what people could achieve in the time they mindlessly watch this stuff … it’s almost depressing to think about it.

However, since I get a lot of joy and inspiration from this media, I continue watching it, just a lot less than I used to. 

Currently, I spend one or two hours a day watching a series and rarely watch movies nowadays.

So, if you want to continue watching the series, I recommend you be more intentional about what exactly you watch. 

Choose something that brings you intense joy and/or inspires you in one way or another.

Maybe you like to watch Suits because it motivates you to study Law. 

Perhaps you like to watch The Chilling Adventures of Sabrina because it inspires you to be a more badass woman.

I am sure you can find something inspiring in whatever you are watching.

4. Use Social Media

Again, this is a topic where I usually recommend decreasing the time you spend with it; however, if used correctly, Social Media can be an immense source of inspiration for you.

To do this, you have to clean up the accounts you follow. Over time, you probably followed many accounts, whether on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, or Snapchat. 

If this causes you to constantly update your feed because so many new posts come in, it isn’t inspirational but merely stressful.

So unfollow everyone who doesn’t inspire you. And if you don’t want to unfollow them, mute their account instead. 

The goal is to have a feed consisting of highly inspirational content of only a few select accounts.

That way, you can open the app, and within a few short minutes, you will feel deeply inspired.

Alternatively, I can recommend taking a step away from social media and using Pinterest instead. 

This is where I search for inspiration without feeling FOMO or comparisonitis. 

5. Plan it out

Another way to get inspired is to plan something you dream of doing. For example, do you want to travel to Newzealand? Plan your trip! Look up flights, hotels, and destinations you’d like to visit.

Do you want to become a successful entrepreneur? Visualize the steps it would take to build your dream business. And create a checklist.

You can also create vision boards with the things you dream about. Pinterest can be a useful tool for that.

Spend a short while getting lost in this planning and visualizing. I am sure it will ignite a new fire inside you, and you will feel motivated to fight for your goals again.

6. Use scripting

Scripting is a form of visualization, often used as a tool of the Law of Attraction.

You simply imagine what your dream life would be like. What would a perfect day look like? Where would you live? What kind of job would you have? What kind of people would surround you?

Ask yourself those questions and journal about them. Don’t just write about materialistic things you will have, instead write about the feelings you would feel.

Take your time with this exercise. If you fully immerse yourself in it, you’ll find some new inspiration.

7. Travel

Changing your surroundings can be a very effective way to find new inspiration.

You don’t even have to travel to some exotic destination to get yourself out of your hole of listlessness. For example, you might spend a weekend in the capital of your country. Or go camping at a lake near you.

And if you really, really can’t afford it, try moving your furniture around. The powerful effect this can have on the room’s atmosphere is stunning.

8. Take some time off

The thing that probably causes most of our lack of inspiration is too much work.

If you feel lost and uninspired, it is a good sign you need to change things up and take a break.

Once you give your mind the freedom to wander and experience new things, it will find inspiration on its own.

9. Read more

You don’t need to read books. You can read Blogs, magazines, or my personal guilty pleasure fanfictions.

Whatever it is, try to read a bit more. Reading can not only be an escape into fantastic worlds, but it can also spark new ideas within you and confront you with concepts you never even considered.

I love to broaden my horizon by reading non-fiction books, and they leave me inspired every time I pick them up. 

If you need some ideas on what to read next, check out my Reading List For Personal Growth. 

I regularly update it on all my favorite non-fiction books.

10. Spend time in nature

Nature holds infinite wonders for us. We humans originally belonged to nature; we were a part of it.

But the more we evolved, the more distant we grew from nature, and in the 21st century, not many people would be able to survive independently without civilization.

To spend time in nature means to spend time at the root of our existence. Unsurprisingly, this can prove to be a very inspiring experience.

11. Talk to strangers

I am always surprised at how much strangers can inspire me.

There are these times when you meet someone new, or you finally have a more in-depth conversation with someone you already knew, and the things they are talking about are simply fascinating.

It can be their career, hobbies, or view of the world and politics.

We are so used to the people around us that we often forget others may have a completely different approach to life, one we never even thought about.

So be excited about meeting new people. You never know; they could be the inspiration for your first business.

12. Keep track of your dreams

I am ending this list with a bang. You probably didn’t expect to come across this point on this list.

Even I only recently learned how inspiring dreams can be. And who would have guessed it? I learned about it from a Podcast.

In his Podcast, Jim Kwik talked about the power of remembering your dreams. 

Did you know that the Beatles’ “Yesterday,” Stephen King’s “Dreamcatcher,” Einstein’s theory of relativity, the periodic table, and the model of the atom all originated from dreams?

Isn’t that amazing?!

If you want to use this incredible source of inspiration, you should try and practice remembering your dreams because we all dream quite a lot, whether we notice it or not.

Well, what do you think? Can you already feel new inspiration rise in you? If so, comment ‘INSPIRE’ to show that you are stepping out of laziness.

Do you have any other ideas on how to get inspired? Share them with your fellow Felicity Seekers. After all, we have to support each other!

Until next time, Felicity Seeker!