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Life can be gorgeous if you let it be and make an effort. Here are 21 ideas to make your life more beautiful.

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1. Smile

Smile at strangers, at the beautiful sunrise, for yourself when you hear children giggle because you see someone else’s gorgeous smile. 

Just smile more. 

2. Surround yourself with colors and textures that make you happy

Choose clothes in a color scheme that makes you smile when you open your wardrobe. Choose them in soft and silky textures that feel luxurious and comfy on your skin. 

Choose beddings and pillows in your favorite colors and textures. 

Try to create an environment where everything you look at evokes feelings of joy, comfort, and even luxuriousness. 

3. Have Playlists for every mood

Create an autumn playlist that makes you want to curl up with hot cocoa, a fluffy sweater, and watch the leaves fall.

Create a playlist full of orchestral music, lo-fi and binaural beats for your study sessions.

Have a playlist full of slowed-down stripper songs for when you feel in the mood to dance in lingerie in front of the mirror.

Make your life a movie soundtrack.

4. Shape your lifestyle to your personal preferences

Shower around lunchtime, stay up late and wake up late, burn Christmas candles during summer, don’t travel in your holidays and instead save the money, own two phones for different purposes – just live life on your terms and don’t bother with what the herd does. 

5. Have pets or plants to nurture or love deeply

There is just something magical about having something or someone to take care of. 

So what better way to make your life beautiful than to adopt a pet or a plant and love it to pieces. 

6. Allow yourself to choose aesthetics over functionality once in a while

7. Deeply feel the gratitude for all the blessings in your life

Gratitude is one of the purest emotions you can feel. Furthermore, it’s not only a beautiful emotion to feel in the moment, but it also attracts more things into your life to feel grateful for.

Practice feeling gratitude deeply to make your life more beautiful. 

8. Take action on an even more beautiful future

Life can feel meaningless if all we’re doing is going through the daily motions without change insight. 

Make your life more beautiful by pursuing goals that promise an even better future. This could be studying for a degree, applying for that job, building a business, losing weight, or even just learning how to make pretty gift wrappings.

9. Explore your area instead of always taking the same routes

Look at the area in which you live as if you were a tourist. Have you ever visited the most recommended places? 

And how about taking a slight detour the next time you go for the groceries. Just drive through a neighborhood you’ve never been in. 

10. Improve your financial situation, so you don’t have to worry about money anymore

One of the biggest obstacles to a beautiful life is money worries. Therefore, to make your life more attractive, you should improve your financial situation early on. 

Create multiple income streams, make your money work for you, and accumulate enough savings to overcome any financial hiccup. 

11. Practise (self-)forgiveness daily

Do you ever struggle with unwanted memories that pop up in your mind and remind you of something embarrassing or bad? 

Well, that’s because you are trying to suppress the memory, and the more you resist, the more it persists. 

Instead, you need to relive the memory and forgive yourself for it and ask your past self for forgiveness in return. 

Do this every time an uncomfortable memory pops up, and soon, the memory will be less and less painful and turn up more rarely.

The same goes for any resentment you hold towards others. Let go of the bad feelings and forgive them for achieving your peace of mind. 

12. Consume positive and uplifting media

Good news rarely makes it into any headlines. Instead, we constantly hear about the worst of the worst. It’s not only depressing and anxiety-inducing but also creates an unrealistic view of this world. 

Therefore make sure to consume a good amount of positive and uplifting media. 

For books, I can recommend Factfulness and The Rational Optimist. They are listed on my Reading List for Personal Growth. 

13. Limit the time you spend with pessimists

Some so many people seemingly do nothing but complain – about politicians, employers, the economy, school, their family, strangers, and a million other things.

Spending too much time with those people can pull you down into the hole they’re living in. 

It’s hard to make your life more beautiful when surrounded by people who talk about anything but beautiful things. 

14. Try to see the good in everyone and give them the benefit of the doubt

Many people get offended easily, even though the other person never meant to offend them in the first place. 

They seem to think that people are out to get them when most of the time those people are too busy to think about themselves to spare us much thought.

You shouldn’t be gullible, but you should try to see the good in everyone and give them the benefit of the doubt unless evidence suggests otherwise.

Dare to see the kindness in others. It will make life more beautiful.

15. Maintain a mostly healthy diet

If your diet is healthy, you will feel more energized, and therefore you can enjoy life to a bigger extent. 

If you allow yourself unhealthy food once in a while, that’s perfectly fine and only human. 

16.Keep your body fit

Life offers so many things. To take advantage of them as much a possible, you should be physically fit. 

After all, the length of your life doesn’t matter as much as the quality of it. 

17. Spend your energy on things you have control over and accept what you can’t control

Stop obsessing over the bad weather or economy. Focus on what you can do to make this unchangeable situation better for yourself. 

You will only feel frustrated and bitter if you spend all your energy thinking about something you are helpless to change. 

18. Have your own standards for success

You can make life more beautiful by not relying on outside approval to feel accomplished and proud. 

You can’t control how others will react to your achievements. Therefore it’s a recipe for unhappiness to rely your feeling of success on their opinion. 

Instead, set your own standards for success. It’s ok, to feel proud of a B if you usually get C’s. It’s also ok, to be unhappy with an A- if you were aiming for an A. 

19. Try to discover new things regularly

Life gets dull without a certain amount of variety in it. Furthermore, it’s rather sad to only experience the same things over and over again when there are a plethora of choices you can experience. 

Make an effort to do things you haven’t done before. Go and buy sample sets of food, beverages, makeup, self-care products, and more to get a glimpse into other options. 

You can make your life more beautiful by bringing variety into it. 

20. Learn what hairstyle, makeup, clothes make you shine

There is just something beautiful in having a signature scent and look that people and, more importantly, you associate with you. 

It’s even more beautiful if this signature look brings out the best in you. If it makes you shine just a little bit more. 

Find the hairstyle, makeup, clothes, perfume, and more that make you shine brighter and indulge in them often. 

21. Keep a list of coincidences and miracles that have happened to you to remind yourself that life is working FOR you

Our perception of life greatly depends on what we focus on. Focusing on misery, bad luck, and problems will perceive life as anything but beautiful. 

Therefore, one easy but effective way to make life more beautiful is to direct your awareness to the more beautiful things in life. 

To do this, you can keep a list of coincidences and miracles that you’ve experienced. This will remind you that life is working FOR you and NOT against you.

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Which of these ideas do you plan to incorporate into your life from now on? 

Do you have any additional ideas for your fellow Felicity Seekers?

Until next time!

Your twenties can lay the foundation for the rest of your life. To help you make it the best foundation possible, I’ve collected 21 bad habits to overcome in your 20s.

Here are a few that you should be aware of:

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1. Putting things off because ‘you’ve got all the time in the world.’

You wouldn’t believe how much time in your life you are wasting by postponing tasks to a later time.

Often enough, ‘later’ doesn’t come, and we forget about it. Or we need even more discipline to overcome our lack of motivation.

Doing things as soon as possible makes you more efficient and brings peace of mind.

2. Participating in and consuming gossip

Nobody is entirely immune to the lure of gossip. After all, we are social beings, so wanting to know what others are up to makes sense. 

However, gossip becomes a problem when it distracts you from your own life. 

You should generally show more fascination for your own day-to-day life than other people’s, or else you will get nowhere.

3. Spending your life at your desk

Yes, grades are important. Yes, they can guarantee you a good job and a great future, so you should do your best to do well in school/college.

However, good grades or even building a business are not worth it spending your 20s locked away behind your desk. 

You need to find a balance, or you will have regrets when you look back on your life. 

4. Comparing your life to others in a discouraging way

Comparing your life to other people can be the wake-up call that shows you how much more is possible in life. It can give you new goals and the necessary motivation to achieve them. 

However, comparing yourself to others often leads to frustration, jealousy, resentment, and procrastination.

If you find yourself in the comparisonitis trap too often, it is important to take ten steps back from content that makes you feel that way.

The more time you spend like that, the more you’ll sabotage yourself. This is one of the bad habits you need to overcome in your 20s.

5. Daydreaming about your dream life more than working towards it

As a big daydreamer myself, I understand the allure of visualizing and imagining a life you will sadly never live. 

As the law of attraction teaches, visualizing can be a powerful step in the quest to accomplish your goals. 

But it’s definitely a bad habit you need to overcome if you visualize far more than you take action. This will only lead to sadness and frustration when you open your eyes and realize you’re still where you started. 

6. Letting regrets fester

Regrets are like a black cloud that follows you wherever you go. If you try to suppress them, they pop up back into your mind when you don’t expect them to. 

Even worse, regrets can take a toll on your self-worth. And self-worth is one of the most important factors in creating your dream life. 

If you don’t feel worthy of what you desire, you will stand in your own way to prevent it from manifesting into your reality.

So don’t suppress your regrets; instead, intentionally feel them and forgive yourself. 

7. Being surrounded by people all the time

Don’t fill your days with social interactions to drown out your thoughts and feelings.

Reflection time is incredibly important.

8. Lying and bending the truth to people-please

Lying can become a habit quicker than we realize. Not only is lying generally frowned upon, but it can also create unnecessary troubles for us.

Stop trying to find excuses and instead be honest about why you don’t want to do something. 

It takes much less energy to just be honest than to have to think up lies. 

Also, making your opinions clear early on will help you deepen your relationship with people who are right for you and get rid of those that will only cause headaches in the long term. 

9. Smoking

This really doesn’t need explaining. 

10. Getting wasted regularly

Again, this goes without saying. 

11. Eating unhealthy quick food all the time

Yes, it’s easy. Yes, it saves time. But it also prevents you from being at your best. 

A fresh, healthy, and balanced nutrition improves your health and general well-being; it also helps you learn and work more effectively. 

If you make healthy food a habit, you will consider fast food less and less. 

12. Ignoring health issues

Health issues don’t just disappear into thin air if you ignore them! 

Make sure to treat acne, insomnia, hair loss, rapid weight gain, and any other health issue as soon as possible.

It might not be much of an issue right now, but the longer it exists, the more serious health issues could await you in a few decades. 

This should most definitely be one of the bad habits to overcome in your 20s.

13. Losing stuff due to lack of organization

Being disorganized wastes your time and makes you look bad in the eyes of others. 

Start to designate one specific spot for your keys, wallet, sunglasses, etc. 

Also, create one folder with dividers for every important document like insurance, log-in details, passwords, etc. (if digital, make sure to have backups).

14. Forgetting names and birthdays

One of these easiest ways to leave a good impression on people is remembering their name and birthday. It shows that you care and that they are reasonably important to you. 

Practice remembering these details. Different memory techniques can help you. Just do some research.

15. Buying presents too late

Christmas and birthdays are on the same date every year. Keep a list of gift ideas and use sales to buy gifts in advance. 

Never again will you gift a subpar present because you ran out of ideas and time.

16. Working with a ‘dull ax’ due to impatience

If you are motivated to start working on something, it takes a lot of patience and self-restraint to hold yourself back and sharpen your ax. But with a dull ax, you will only waste your time and energy.

So, before jumping into studying headfirst, create a rough study plan, and do some keyword research before creating your blog content.

17. Loudly or silently judging others without putting yourself into their shoes

If we let judgemental thoughts run freely through our heads, they will quickly become the knee-jerk reaction we have to anything we consider weird or unusual. 

Try to remind yourself to have kinder thoughts and reactions to other people’s actions and words.

Think of reasons why they could have acted the way they did. Whether these reasons are true, coming up with them will strengthen your empathy.

18. Letting sales seduce you into purchases you wouldn’t have made otherwise

You don’t save money if you spend it on something you wouldn’t have bought without the sale. 

Instead, you should use sales primarily to purchase things you’ve already been eyeing. 

Read also: 11 Things You Should Not Spend Money On

19. Not sticking to a sleeping rhythm every day of the week

Most people talk about the importance of getting 7-9h of sleep every night.

Yet few talk about how waking up in the morning is so much easier if you wake up at the same time every day of the week.

After all, your body doesn’t know the difference between workdays and the weekend. Instead, your inner clock will get confused if you wake up at 6 AM on some days and then at 9 AM on others.

Read also: 7 Hacks That Help Me To Wake Up At 5 AM

20. Chasing every new trend

The energy, time, and money it takes to chase every new trend are outrageous!!!

Sure, it makes you feel cool for a short while, but this reward rarely all the effort.

21. Chasing one relationship milestone after the other instead of enjoying what you have right now

There is nothing wrong with celebrating your relationship milestones but don’t make your whole relationship about them.

What really matters is that you and your partner are together and in love. A ring or house will not change what’s at the core of your relationship.

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Well, how many of these bad habits are you guilty of? What bad habits to overcome in your 20s would you add to the list?

We’d love to hear from you!

Until next time, Felicity Seeker!

School and college cause a lot of stress and anxiety. It’s time you remember that many things are more important than your grades. 

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1. What you’ve learned

Your grades don’t necessarily represent how much you’ve learned about the subject. Sometimes you didn’t express yourself in a way the corrector wanted, or you were quizzed about the one topic you were struggling with.

Either way, what matters far more than your actual grade is the knowledge you accumulated.

2. How much you read

Leaders are readers. How much your read is an indicator of how much you learn outside of the educational system.

Reading can boost your knowledge (especially if you read non-fiction), increase your vocabulary, make you more eloquent, train your brain, and increase your focus.

Many successful people swear by reading. It’s time you give it a shot yourself if you want to step into their footsteps.

Read also: Reading List For Personal Growth

3. Your connections

Having the right connections can make your life infinitely easier. Who do you think is more likely to get the job: The applicant with the best grades or the applicant with good grades whose friend recommends him to the boss?

Connections can also help you to be the first to know about a company that’s hiring. 

4. Your creativity  

The ability to create new things and ideas from scratch is one of humanity’s biggest assets.

Robots and AI will increasingly take over the monotonous and repetitive tasks of our work lives. In turn, employers will care much more about things like creativity.

Luckily for you, people are not born creative. Instead, they form that skill through practice and use. Stop saying, ‘I am not a creative person‘ and instead say, ‘I am not creating much, yet.‘ 

5. Your experience

Practical experience is not only the best teacher; it will also get you further in life than just grades. 

After all, who would you rather hire: The A-student fresh out of college or the former B-student who’s already worked successfully for two years and got a stellar recommendation? 

Big employers like Apple and Facebook don’t even demand a college degree anymore. Perhaps that’s not surprising, considering they were founded by dropouts who accomplished more with practical experience than with college degrees.

6. How you make others feel

People may forget what you said, but they rarely forget how you made them feel. 

If you master the art of making others feel good, you will stand out among less charismatic A-graders.

7. The fact you are writing exams at all

Education has become such a given for big parts of the world that we all seem to forget how privileged we are. Instead we complain about our annoying school work. 

Most teenagers didn’t pursue higher education many generations ago because there was no time or no money.

Not all too long ago, women weren’t even allowed to pursue higher education. 

In some countries, children don’t even have the opportunity to go to elementary school. 

The sole fact that you are writing tests and exams is so much more important than the grade you get. 

8. Your unique combination of skills and knowledge

There are hundreds of thousands of people who’ve had your education. You will most likely never stand out as the best (or the worst) among these people.

However, you are far more likely to stand out with the unique combination of skills and knowledge you accumulate. 

For example, there are a ton of law graduates. There are far fewer law graduates who also have a politics degree. And among those even less, who did an internship in an embassy and perhaps already belong to a political party. 

These things are more important than your grades. 

9. Your physical health

Our body is next to our mind, the second most important factor to living a fulfilled and long life. 

Some students medicate themself or pull all-nighters to achieve better grades which in turn takes a toll on their physical health.

Don’t become one of them! Don’t neglect what’s so much more important than your grades: your health!

10. Where you live/search for a job

Depending on where you live and search for a job, you will have better opportunities for someone with your grades than elsewhere. 

If there is a lack of teachers in your area, you are going to be able to get a great position with decent grades that would only have been open for the best graduates under normal circumstances. 

11. Your work ethic

In a world where only a minuscule 15% of employees are engaged in their work, it is no wonder work ethic is immensely low. 

People pretend to be sick, pretend to have a mental breakdown (some of course actually do, but too many pretend), steal from work, do online shopping at work, push their workload onto colleagues, etc. 

Suppose you are one of the few with a great work ethic, who is willing to get the job done, even if it means staying at work longer once in a while, gladly taking on the difficult work everyone avoids, and who actually answers the phone. In that case, you will stand out like a bright shining beacon of excellence. 

The best students are often enough not the best employees, and the latter is far more important than your grades in the long run. 

12. Your social Intelligence

You need to get along with people and know how to make connections and status work for you. 

Knowing how to make connections, earn favors, and have a good reputation is much more important than your grades in the long run. 

13. Your emotional Intelligence

The same goes for emotional intelligence. You need to be able to handle envy, frustration, and ego in constructive ways.

14. How you study

15. How fast you can read

Most people’s reading speed is embarrassingly slow. Our brain can read incredibly fast, yet few of us take the time to practice how to do so. In our informational age, there rarely is a career or even a day in your life in which you won’t have to read anything. Imagine how much more effective you could be if you could double or even triple your reading speed without suffering a loss of comprehension. Would you suddenly feel motivated to read news articles? How much less would you need to study if you could speed through your textbooks? How much more work could you get done if you didn’t waste so much time in your inbox? Speed reading is truly a superpower we desperately need to develop!

Read also: How I Read One Book A Week – 11 Tips To Read More

16. Your happiness

You shouldn’t be miserable achieving good grades. As morbid as it sounds, you will never know how long your life will be, so don’t waste a decade on achieving stellar grades if it makes you miserable and robs you of a life outside of college. Often enough, good grades are perfectly fine. 

17. What you study 

Bad grades can be an important guiding sign that you chose the wrong college degree or desperately need to change your study strategy. Most likely, there have been plenty of warnings already, but you ignored them. So now the Universe had to take out the big and painful guns, a.k.a bad grades. Analyze the reasons behind the disappointing grade and do something about it!

18. The habits you build

The life you live is shaped by the habits you practice on a daily or weekly basis. 

If you let your life be ruled by toxic habits, your good grades will hardly matter for the kind of life you are living. 

Good habits will go a long way, and you should cultivate them early on.

19. The habits you break

We often focus too much on starting good habits, when in fact, we should first get rid of bad ones. 

In fact, you don’t even need to get rid of them but simply replace them with better habits.

20. How you feel your emotions

Suppressing bad emotions is not healthy. In the long term, it can lead to anxiety, depression, mood swings, and more. 

It takes an emotionally mature person to feel every good or bad emotion without resisting it. 

21. How you express your emotions

Nobody likes people who lash out at others just because they are in a bad mood. 

You not only should feel your emotions but also express them in a socially acceptable way. 

22. The pet that’s lighting up your heart every time you see it being all adorable

In life, the importance of grades really can’t be compared to the importance of living beings and the happiness they provide you with. 

23. How much time do you spend doing what lights up your soul

You can’t postpone happiness. You can feel it now, or you’ll miss it. 

You will be going to school for one, perhaps even two decades. That’s far too long to postpone your happiness for. 

Looking back on your life, you will see the time you spend doing what lights up your soul as more important than your grades. 

24. The mentors in your life

A good mentor can be an invaluable asset. They can put you years ahead in your growth and sometimes even provide valuable connections for you. 

25. Your financial intelligence

Getting good grades to get a well-paying job is useless if you don’t know how to intelligently handle that money. 

There are tons of people with a decent income that still have financial struggles. On the flip side, there have been people with a very small income who managed to grow it to an astounding amount of wealth over the decades. 

26. Your mental health 

Many students sacrifice their mental health in pursuit of good grades. It is not worth it! 

After all, you want those good grades so you can get a good job and lead a happy life. 

But with your mental health out of wack, you won’t be able to perform to your full capabilities at your job, and you most certainly won’t live the happy life you’ve hoped for. 

Your mental health is more important than your grades!

27. Responsibility

I’m assuming you care about your grades so much because you want to get a high-level job. Well, those jobs always come with a ton of responsibility. 

You won’t do well in your job or life if you keep blaming others for your mistakes and misfortunes. 

Own up to them, or your good grades will hardly matter!

28. How you carry yourself

Nobody likes it, but first impressions do matter. A big part of the first impression you give others is the way you carry yourself. 

Do you seem at ease and command the attention of the room or do you seemingly shrink into yourself and nervously fidget? 

29. Persistence

Life’s path is rarely straightforward. Not everything will work out the way you had planned, and you will encounter much resistance.

Persistence is a trait that is more important than outstanding grades if you want to make it big in life.

30. Self-Awareness & Self-Reflection

Just because you’ve gotten decent grades doesn’t mean you won’t have to learn and improve your skills anymore. You’ll constantly have to learn and adapt if you want your career to go places. 

And unless you get yourself a mentor or coach, you will only be able to improve if you are self-aware enough to recognize your own flaws and shortcomings. 

Self-reflection is a tool to increase your self-awareness. You can do it through journaling, meditating, talking to yourself, or other methods. 

31. Collaboration Skills 

There are few jobs nowadays in which you won’t have to work together with people in one way or another. 

Good grades matter very little if you are a nightmare to work with. You can never be the expert on every topic necessary for the job, so you’ll have to collaborate. 

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Do you have any other suggestions for things that are more important than your grades? 

What’s your experience been like with grades? Are you content with your results, or do you feel your work isn’t reflected in your grades?

Until next time, Felicity Seekers!

Are you frustrated with how your life is going? Here are 33 signs you are doing better in life than you think you are.

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1. You have savings

Financial stability is one of the biggest contributors to content and prosperous life. 

Suppose you don’t constantly have to worry about whether or not you have enough money for rent or fuel. In that case, you can spend your energy and additional cash on pursuits to elevate your life or, at the very least, ease issues as smoothly as possible. 

There will always be unexpected bills that pop up in your life. Perhaps your washing machine breaks down, or you unexpectedly lose your job. 

Having savings in place as a buffer to still comfortably maintain your lifestyle when these problems hit is a huge sign that you are doing better in life than you think you are. 

Right now, you might not have much savings, but give yourself some credit for getting started. That’s more than many people can claim.  

2. You are increasing your knowledge every day/week

We’re living in the informational age. Many things that you learn today will be outdated in a relatively short time. 

The only way to stay afloat is by being a student for life. If you stagnate, others will pass you, and your hard-fought-for success will diminish. 

As grave as that sounds, increasing your knowledge continuously is possibly one of the most beautiful tasks of humans. 

The knowledge you have shaped the way you think and see the world. 

If you are already in a routine of consciously seeking to increase your knowledge, you are doing better in life than you think you are.

3. You have at least one close friend 

Social media has given us hundreds or even thousands of ‘friends,’ yet rarely do we ever meet them face to face or even care about their life beyond their Insta or Facebook Feed.

In the face of that, your life is going better than you might think if you have at least one close friend.

4. Your relationship with your family is good

Relationships with relatives are often sadly more than a little bit rocky. 

But in a way, it makes sense. The older you get, the more your mindset and way of life drift apart from your family’s. 

At some point, you may be such different people that you would never consider spending your free time with them if you weren’t related to them. 

At to the mix, strong emotions and history and what you get can often be explosive. 

If you manage to navigate those issues, focus on the love that binds you to your family, and actually enjoy spending time with them, you are doing far better than many people. 

5. You’ve spent some serious and realistic thought on what to do with your life

You can’t plan your life from beginning to end, and some amount of spontaneity is necessary for a happy life. 

However, you should at least have a vague idea in which direction you are going and what you are hoping for in life. 

Knowing the answer to this question will help you to get there sooner and with fewer detours.

Most people’s thoughts don’t go further than ‘I want to be a lawyer, marry, have kids, a fancy car and big house.’

6. You know how to ask for help

You know the saying: If you want to go fast, go alone if you’re going to go far, go together.

There are multiple points in life at which you need help to progress.

But you shouldn’t wait until those moments to seek out help. Instead, find a mentor sooner. 

It will make your life infinitely easier if you have people to guide you. But you need to learn that they don’t just appear out of thin air. 

You have to take the initiative and ask for help. 

If you know how to do that, you are doing much better in life than you think.

7. You are working towards something or about to do so

Having a clear goal in mind beyond reaching the weekend or your next holidays or purchasing the newest iPhone is more than many people can claim. 

Somewhere along the way, they seem to settle for their lives and rarely strive towards big changes. 

If you still have that fierce drive, you are doing better than you think you are. 

Read also: 11 Goals For Your Early 20s Bucketlist

8. You know your values and priorities

To make decisions that will create the lifestyle you want, you must know your values and priorities. 

Most people rarely take the time to think about their values and priorities, which reflects in their decision. 

If your priorities time over money, you might decide to buy a faster laptop. However, if you still think money is more important to you, then you might continue to use your old snail-like laptop and despair over it daily. 

If you know your values, you are doing better in life than you think you are.

9. You don’t need to be around people constantly

Everyone lies somewhere on the scale between extroversion and introversion. 

While many introverts discover the joys of spending time alone early on, some extroverts might struggle to not be around people. 

Being alone with your thoughts and feelings can be scary because you can’t avoid them anymore. 

But these moments, whether you spend them journaling, meditating, or walking through nature, are important because they bring clarity.

They help you sort through all the thoughts and feelings in your heart; they allow you to solve problems and formulate clear goals.

If you know how to spend time alone, you are doing better in life than you think you are. 

10. You know your bad habits, and you are working on overcoming them

Becoming aware of your bad habits is the first difficulty. The next and possibly bigger is to get rid of them. 

Most people know they should eat less junk food, stop smoking, drink less alcohol, or procrastinate less, yet their attempts at overcoming these habits rarely succeed.

If you keep an eye out for your bad habits and know the best systems to overcome them, you are doing better than most people. 

Read also: Atomic Habits Book Review | 15 Lessons + Actionable Ideas + Quotes

11. You take responsibility for your mistakes and decisions

It’s very easy to find some else to blame for pretty much everything that goes wrong – the government, your parents, your teachers, the incompetent service hotline guy. 

No wonder so many people push around the blame in a merry game. 

But taking responsibility is important. First of all, because you grow through it. You learn to clean up after your mistakes and not to repeat them. 

Also, if you aspire to ever become a leader of some sort, you need to be able to take responsibility because the sheep surely won’t do it, but they’ll follow someone who does. 

12. You take care of your health in a conscious way

You put thought into the foods you eat, you care about the ingredients of your hair and skin care products, your workout, and try to move your body instead of sitting around all day. 

Also, you make regular doctor appointments listen to your body when it tells you something is wrong, and know the importance of good sleep. 

You don’t just take care of your body because you want to live a long life. You take care of your body because you want to live a great life even with older age. 

13. You read books

Reading books increases your empathy, vocabulary, and knowledge. You also keep your brain fit and practice concentrating.

14. You don’t waste your day on social media

Everyone has the same 24 hours in a day. Some people carefully curate habits and routines to get the most out of these 24 hours, while others just go with the flow and find themself losing hours on social media. 

Once in a while, that’s perfectly fine. But as long as you are a consumer and not a creator who earns money through social media, you should seriously consider how much time you spend on these platforms. 

If you keep track of your time on social media and make sure to not overdo it (whatever that might mean to you), you are doing better in life than you think you are.

15. You prioritize sleep and have a regular sleep schedule

We spend around a third of our life sleeping. Our sleep is not only important for our physical health, but it also is a core component necessary for retaining information effectively in our memory. 

16. You don’t have any huge regrets

Regrets in life are like a constant dark cloud that follows you around. It can take a lot of work to get rid of them.

You can feel lucky and proud of yourself if you don’t have any big regrets waying down on your conscience.

17. You let yourself feel and process your emotions (all of them!)

Recently, our society seems to be promoting that we should strive to feel a ‘high vibe’ all the time. 

This concept sounds beautiful; after all, who likes to feel sad, depressed, anxious, doubtful, or any other ‘negative’ emotion?

The problem is that this is not how life works. 

We need the darkness to notice and appreciate the light. Bad days make us strive for better ones. If everything were all sunshine and rainbows, nothing would be a ‘high vibe’ anymore, and we would stagnate in our growth.

Furthermore, suppressing negative emotions will sooner or later backfire. It can show its ugly face through physical ailments or heavily fluctuating emotions. 

If you are emotionally mature enough to feel and process all your emotions, no matter how uncomfortable they might be, you are doing better in life than you think you are. 

18. You are aware that the energy you embody attracts the life you live

Whether you believe in the law of attraction or not, there have been enough studies that prove the effect your mindset and general attitude have on your life. 

Just think about the placebo effect, where simply believing you’ve taken a healing medication or gotten surgery cures you of your ailment. 

The point is your thoughts and emotions are more powerful than most people give them credit for. 

If you consciously curate your energy each day, you are doing better in life than you think you are. 

19. You know and accept that nothing is entirely black and white

It is tempting to look at the world in a black and white way. It is tempting to put everyone and everything into neat little boxes.

In reality, though, rarely is anything entirely black and white. 

Everything is full of nuances that take a lot of time to dissect. And once you do, you can’t make decisions quite as easily anymore; neither can you judge others for their choices as easily. 

If you are open-minded and responsible enough to accept the nuances of issues, you are doing better in life than you think you are. 

20. You are being authentic

Authenticity makes you stand out. 

Authenticity is magnetizing and draws people to you. 

If you’ve learned to be authentic in everything you do, you are doing better in life than you think you are. 

21. You disciplined enough to bring things to an end

If you are excited and motivated for a new project, it is easy to get started. 

It is much harder to keep up the work when things get boring and other shiny things pop up. 

If you have the discipline to bring things to an end when the motivation wears out, you are doing better in life than you think you are. 

22. You know when to let go of a goal

Finishing what you started is important. What’s also important, though, is knowing when you should give up on an unnecessary goal.

Foolish stubbornness is only going to waste your time.

If you are decisive enough to find the line between going on and stopping, you are doing better in life than you think you are. 

23. You recognize the role both hard work and luck play in the success

Every success is partly due to hard work and partly to luck. 

We often deny the luck in our own success and the hard work in other people’s success. 

If you are mature enough to recognize the role of both, you are far more likely to take advantage of opportunities and stay at the top once you’re there.

Read also: The Unfair Advantage Book Review | 11 Lessons + Quotes

24. You use your envy as inspiration and not as a fuel for hate

Most people are ashamed to admit their envy towards other people’s success. Some of those people don’t even realize it to themself and instead channel that envy into hate comments. 

You are doing better in life than you think you are if you recognize your envy as a guiding sign. 

It’s meant to show you what you should go after and give you the inspiration to do so.  

25. You want to give at least as much as you take

Some people always want, want, want. They want more money, more success, more followers, fewer taxes, more support from the government, etc.

They don’t understand that you have to give before you can get. In fact, if you share freely, you often get back tenfold.

If you understand this and live by it, you are doing much better in life than you think you are, and it’s going to show. 

26. You are not foolish but just naive enough

You need a bit of naivete to get started on a difficult journey. Many successful people say that their journey was much more difficult than they had anticipated in the beginning. 

And we all know that the more difficult the path seems, the less likely we are to get started.

Of course, you shouldn’t start a hopeless and risky project, but enough naivete to start a difficult project is going to be in your favor.

27. You prepare for societal changes in time

Nobody can predict big historical events that will impact generations to come. 

However, not all societal changes happen through such big and surprising events. 

Sometimes, the change announces itself gradually over years before it hits us entirely. 

You are doing better in life than you think you are if you have the foresight to prepare early on for these changes.

For example, you try to purchase an electric car early on instead of waiting until there are more restrictions for fuel-driven vehicles. 

And you try to live more environmentally friendly early on before the environment deteriorates too much.

Another example would be choosing a college degree with a bright future and not one that is already becoming less and less relevant. 

28. You have at least one hobby

There is more to life than work, work, work. 

If you are not one of those entirely lost in their free time but have hobbies you love to pursue, you are doing much better in life than many people.

29. You don’t tell yourself that you still have a lot of time left

Time passes quicker than we think. 

You tell yourself that you travel to that destination once you have more time and money. 

However, before you can blink, your twenties have passed, you are already nearing the end of your thirties, and you still don’t have ‘enough time or money. 

If you know how to live life in the present instead of always postponing it, you are doing better in life than you think you are. 

30. You don’t try to resist change

Change is inevitable. In fact, the only true constant in life is the fact that it always changes. 

It can be hard to let go of things that brought us happiness and comfort.

You are doing better in life than you think if you know how to do so with grace and ease.

31. You live more than you think about living

Nowadays, people praise each other for the big goals they set, the intricate plans they make, and the bright visions for their life they have.

All these are necessary to get started. However, none of these are of any value without turning them into action. 

You can pat yourself on the back if you are one of the few who do more than they dream. 

32. You know how to keep your head down and do what’s necessary

Ego has brought the mightiest to fall.

It makes you think that you are above certain tasks, that you are too talented or smart to work with these people, that you deserve more respect or at least common decency. 

These things might be true even, but that’s not what matters. What matters is that you want to go places. 

And to do that, you sometimes have to suck it up, keep your head down and do what’s uncomfortable. 

If you know when you have to do that, you are doing better in life than you think you are. 

33. You are not only reading content like this; you are also implementing it into your life

Devouring personal development content is a good effort but ultimately useless if you don’t implement your lessons in real life. 

You don’t need to implement everything. Not everything might speak to you, and sometimes life is too hectic for you to do deep personal work. 

But if you at least consciously decide to implement something once in a while, you are doing amazing in life!

Choosing a college degree to study can be a nerve-wracking decision. Luckily, I got some tips for you that can make it easier. 

Read also: 5 Signs You Should Drop Out Of College + 7 Reasons To Stay Anyway

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1. What are you already passionate about?

Alright, let’s get the obvious one out of the way. 

You probably know the saying that if you love what you do, you won’t work a day in your life. 

That’s why everyone recommends following your passion when choosing a career path. 

As true as that advice might be, for most of us, it is relatively useless since we rarely know what we are passionate about. 

Still, it is true, so I figured it deserved mention. In the end, you should always keep this in the back of your mind. 

2. What are you interested in?

You might not feel passionate about programming yet, but perhaps you’ve been curious about it for quite a while now. 

This can be a good indicator for a future passion. After all, you only know if you will be passionate about something if you try it out.

So you might as well try something that you’re interested in. 

But don’t confuse true curiosity with short-term shiny object syndrome. 

Suppose you are only interested in medicine because you watched Grey’s Anatomy yesterday. In that case, you shouldn’t use this new obsession as a serious indicator. 

3. Who’s career do you envy?

Are there any scientists, lawyers, entrepreneurs, or politicians that you find yourself following regularly?

Are you fascinated by what they do daily? 

What degree would you need to create a similar career for yourself?

4. What kind of lifestyle do you want?

Many German female law students consider working for the state instead of corporate because mothers get more support. 

They make a lifestyle-related choice when applying for a job. 

Of course, it is never impossible to shape your job in a way that fits your dream lifestyle. 

However, there are certainly more obstacles if you want to practice your job more unconventionally. 

For example, if you already know you wouldn’t want to go out of your house and work with patients every day, becoming a doctor might not be the most suitable choice. 

On the other hand, you can still use that medical degree to start an online business to help people overcome a certain medical issue or help med students get their degrees. 

As I said, there is generally always a way to make your job fit your lifestyle. However, the more unusual your dream job is, the more effort and initiative it takes from your side to make it work. 

5. How many job options does the degree have?

And I don’t just mean this in the sense of whether or not the job market is full or empty at the moment. 

It’s more about how many different careers require the knowledge that you acquire during your studies. 

For example, with a law degree, you have a very broad range of career options. In contrast, an archeology degree doesn’t offer as many options. 

The more options there are, the greater the chance you will find something that makes you happy. 

6. Which degree can teach you the most?

Interdisciplinary knowledge is powerful and a sought-after asset to find solutions to complex problems.

Your unique combination of knowledge in different areas is one of your biggest assets. 

As such, you should consider which degree will add to your knowledge portfolio the most. 

For example, perhaps you’ve already been freelancing in programming for years and developed quite the expertise on the topic. 

Instead of getting an informatics degree, you might decide to go for engineering so that you can combine that with your already existing knowledge powerfully and uniquely and raise your value on the job market. 

7. Which degree is the most useful to you without working in the relevant field?

As I elaborated in 5 Signs You Should Drop Out Of College + 7 Reasons To Stay Anyway I am not particularly passionate about law, and I also don’t plan to work as a lawyer or such. 

Still, I am determined to finish my law degree partly because I know the knowledge will be useful for me in daily life. For the business I am building. 

8. Yes, you should consider the salary

I remember many people talking about how you should never choose a degree because you want to earn a lot.

I don’t entirely agree with that advice. 

Firstly, because money is important. It’s among the holy trinity of things that bother us the most in life – money, health, relationships. 

Secondly, a well-paying job, where you collect knowledge and experience along the way, can be a great stepping stone into a career you are more passionate about. 

Take, for example, this blog. I enjoy growing it into a full income-producing business, but I am not incredibly passionate about it. I mainly started blogging because I wanted passive income. 

But that’s more than ok because I am not only gaining a lot of experience, I am also creating an income that will help me do something later on that I am passionate about without monetary worries. 

9. Will the job withstand the test of time?

Our world is changing at an increasingly fast pace. Jobs that existed fifty years ago are not around anymore, or at least in an immensely decreased number. The future will also see many jobs falling to the wayside. 

So when choosing your college major, you should take a moment and research the anticipated development of the job you are aiming for. 

Jobs that can be automated or made more efficient will likely provide fewer opportunities for employment in the future. 

But chin up, there are also a ton of new jobs opening up. 

Since our educational systems are rather inflexible and take a long time to adapt, they tend to be outdated. So we can’t exactly count on finding a degree that will be useful for new jobs popping up. 

Just think about the very important and sought-after job of social media managers. A few decades ago, there was no such thing as social media. As businesses started increasingly using it in the last years, no college degree could have prepared you for the job. 

As you can see, the college will not help us much to prepare for novel job opportunities. We have to take the initiative, identify and learn the relevant skills ourselves. 

10. Watch Vlogs

The people who can give you the most inside on the different degrees are the students themself. 

Luckily, many YouTubers vlog about their daily life. The more common the college degree you are interested in, the more likely you will find vlogs about them. 

Try it out for yourself. At the very least, they are going to motivate you to study.

11. Just start something

Ok, I know that this advice doesn’t work for countries and degrees, where you must pay thousands of tuition. 

In Germany, we thankfully have very, very low tuition. So it barely hurts financially to begin studying something and drop out after a semester or two if you really don’t like it. 

I know many students take a break after school if they are unsure of how to continue. Sometimes they do internships, sometimes they travel, and sometimes they work. 

And while that’s certainly not time wasted, I am dubious how far it will help them make a better decision for a college degree. 

In the end, you will only know if the degree you’ve chosen is the right one by trying it out. 

So don’t push off the decision indefinitely just because you feel uncertain. 

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I hope these tips help you make a good decision. 

If you’ve got any other tips, please share them to help out your fellow Felicity Seekers.

Until next time!